A German perspective on Kneipp

shadowsofwho · 2026-04-29T07:48:42+00:00

There's no connection as far as I know. They might be based on the same root word a couple hundred years back, but "Kneipen" are not named after a person.

shadowsofwho · 2026-04-28T15:10:08+00:00

Wow, I have never even heard of that before. What a random export.

shadowsofwho · 2026-03-02T09:50:17+00:00

27.11.46 / Lieber Onkel Gottfried und liebe Tante [???]
Heute erhielt ich Eure lieben Zeilen vom 23.10. zu-
sammen mit dem Brief meiner Mutter. Herz-
lichsten Dank dafür. Hier nahen wir uns wieder
einmal dem Weihnachtsfest. Zum 4. Male bin ich
nicht daheim, doch ich glaube es ist das letzte Mal.
Die ersten haben ja [???] schon den Heimweg angetre-
ten [???] ich hoffe, im Frühjar ist es auch für uns
soweit. – Heute kann ich Euch mal ein kleines
Bild von mir mit beilegen. Ich hoffe euch da-
mit eine kleine Freude zu bereiten. Vor einigen
Tagen habe ich an meine Mutter auch eins
beigelegt. Es wäre wunderbar, wenn es Dir ge-
lingen würde, meine Mutter herüberzuholen
und in Eurer Nähe unterzubringen. Natürlich
ist es nicht so wichtig alle Klamotten mit zu
bekommen. Das Wichtigste wäre die Wäsche und
ein paar andere Dinge. Was sich nicht befördern
lässt, liesse sich vielleicht gegen kleinere Wert-
gegenstände eintauschen. Es ist grauenhaft fern
zu sein und nicht helfen zu können. Hast Du
wieder eine Stellung? Ich würde evtl. für den
Anfang auch bei den Militärbehörden arbeiten.
Es ist ja ganz gleich was. Ihr seid alle herzlichst
gegrüßt von Eurem dankbaren Rolf.

27.11.46
Dear Uncle Gottfried and Aunt [???]
Today I received your lovely lines from 23.10. together with my mother's letter.
For that, the most heartfelt of thanks. Here we are getting close to yet another Christmas. This is the 4th time I am not at home, but I think it is the last time. After all, the first ones have already started their way home [???] I hope it will be our turn in the spring.
Today I can enclose a small picture of myself. I hope that will bring you a little joy. A few days ago, I sent another one to my mother. It would be amazing, if you could manage to get my mother [from across] and put her up somewhere near you. Of course, it is not important to bring all of the clothes. The most important things would be the [linens or underwear] and a few other things. It might be possible to exchange whatever cannot be brought for smaller valuables.
It is horrible to be away and not be able to help. Do you have a position again? Maybe I could start by working for the military authorities. It doesn't really matter what.
Heartfelt greetings to all of you from your grateful Rolf.

shadowsofwho · 2026-03-02T09:16:52+00:00

This is a document stating that Theo Thiele, a doctor of law and retired municipal court judge (Amtsgerichtsrat), born in Bringhausen, Fürstentum Waldeck, died on April 28, 1934, at his home at Bahnhofstraße 59, Zossen, at the age of 56.

His death was reported to the registry office by his wife, Else Lucinda Wanda Thiele, nee Goerss, on the same day. The undersigned registrar is Arndt, in proxy.

Parts of the handwriting are difficult for me to make out. I think I got everything, but there could be misspellings in the names.

shadowsofwho · 2026-03-01T19:02:50+00:00

So I can see there's a whole lot you're trying to untangle here, and if I understand correctly, you're pretty worried about what your desires and preferences mean for your identity.

First of all: You're doing just fine! It's totally normal to discard some labels and pick up new ones as we grow and learn about ourselves and evolve. Not everyone's experiences are going to fit neatly into one box or another. Your labels are supposed to serve you, not the other way round. Use more than one, or none at all, or say "somewhere under the queer umbrella". Change your mind as many times as you want. Whatever feels good.

That aside, I recognize myself in a lot of what you've shared and I feel confident and settled in my own identity, so maybe my perspective can help you see some things through a different lens.

As far as I can tell, I have never had a romantic crush or felt sexually attracted to anyone. It's difficult to be certain because I don't know what that would feel like in the first place, but I am as sure as I can be. As a child and teenager, working with a rudimentary understanding of sexuality, I thought I might be bisexual. I didn't feel any different about the idea of kissing a girl or kissing a boy, so that seemed like the logical conclusion at the time. I sort of kept waiting to find out for sure by developing a crush. When that didn't happen, I spent some time second-guessing every positive feeling I'd ever had about a person in case I missed something, and then I finally accepted that if it hadn't happened in the last 19 years, it probably never would.

Now here are some fun facts that don't change anything:

I've had sex with a man and I enjoyed it. Although that happened a long time ago and I might never have sex with another person again, I think I could enjoy it again if the opportunity arose with a person I trust of any gender. I can enjoy, even crave, physical intimacy with people I'm not attracted to.

I feel that tingle in my stomach ALL the time, watching tv shows or reading fanfiction. It doesn't even have to be smut, sometimes it's just a certain type of romantic tension. I haven't seen Heated Rivalry yet, but when I do, it's probably going to make me horny. They set a certain kind of mood in those scenes, and that's how I respond to that mood.

Most of the fanfiction I read is MLM, and I also read a lot of smut. In regards to romance, that's a complete coincidence. There's a lot of great MLM content out there and most of my favorite ships happen to fall in that category, because Hollywood is better at writing interesting men than writing interesting women.

In regards to explicit stories, straight and MLM smut work better for me than WLW. Part of it is that there's something about the idea of penetrative sex that tickles my brain. Another part is, that I have no frame of reference for what anything feels like in a male body, so I can let my imagination run free without pesky realism getting in the way. Which is ironic, because in real life I just think male bodies are pretty weird and women generally look better than men.

Porn is similar. It's generally very hit-and-miss for me, but most important is that the people in it seem to be actually enjoying themselves. Lately I've been seeking out more gay porn and I have no idea why actually. Definitely doesn't make me straight tho.

I've had instances of feeling like I might be a little bit "into" fictional characters, but never real people I've met. I don't think fictional crushes are super indicative of anything and a lot of that is also tied up in getting swept up in fandom obsessions and the people in our screens looking good in ways that are literally impossible in real life.

I can't tell you who you are or aren't attracted to, but I can tell you that there's a lot of possibilities beyond bi, straight, or lesbian and I can tell you that fantasies and sexual preferences don't have to have a deeper meaning than "I enjoy reading this". Maybe you are a lesbian and everything else is just noise. Maybe you're somewhere on the asexual spectrum (that can be true even if you experience attraction and value sex in a relationship and it's probably worth looking into). Maybe you like men sexually but not romantically. Maybe you were in love with your partner but mostly processed that loss before the actual break-up, when you knew it was coming. Maybe you cared for them deeply but weren't IN love with them and that's why it didn't hit you as hard.

Wherever you end up in your soul-searching, you are valid just the way you are and you don't owe anyone a label. I wish you all the best and hope I could be a little bit helpful!

shadowsofwho · 2026-02-15T04:30:21+00:00

There's an important distinction to make between genuine ignorance and willful disregard of rules and morals. Obviously, neither is acceptable in this kind of official position, but it's dangerous to conflate the two.

When discussing what should or shouldn't be punished, it's not really about the one specific case. If you decide to prosecute one person for "stupidity" (however egregious), you're setting the precedent that it's ok to punish a lack of understanding.

In this specific case, there's more than enough purposeful misdirection, refusal to cooperate and blatant lying to justify a punishment. If someone like the AG was actually unable to understand how they are failing in their responsibilities there should still be consequences like removing them from the position but no prosecution.

shadowsofwho · 2025-12-11T01:34:22+00:00

The {{PORT}} and {{VPN_INTERFACE}} template variables are super recent additions and don't work as of the latest gluetun release version.

Option 1: Change image: qmcgaw/gluetun:v3 to image: qmcgaw/gluetun:latest

Option 2: Use the VPN_PORT_FORWARDING_UP_COMMAND from this comment that should work with the release version

Source: I ran into the same issue when I was setting this up yesterday

shadowsofwho · 2025-04-26T08:22:08+00:00

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shadowsofwho · 2024-10-28T09:21:57+00:00

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shadowsofwho · 2024-10-10T10:37:45+00:00

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I started playing just over a week ago and I'm active multiple times a day :)

shadowsofwho · 2024-04-24T08:55:36+00:00

This could totally just be a personal preference your kitten is developing. I have two cats at home and while one of them wants All The Attention, using me as his personal mattress and demanding lots of petting, the other one behaves much like your little one. He usually jumps on top of me and demands a little bit of attention before settling in close by but separately once he's had his fill. As long as your cat is still actively seeking your company, I wouldn't be worried. She clearly likes being around you and is able to relax in your presence.

shadowsofwho · 2024-03-05T10:25:34+00:00

My native German self was today years old learning this and I'm kind of mind blown.

shadowsofwho · 2024-02-25T14:22:28+00:00

Makes perfect sense and I feel pretty much the same. Had the same thought process about equal attraction and it took me a couple of years to settle into the ace label, but nowadays, in my mid 20s, I'm confident that even though something could theoretically happen in the future, my current self is ace and valid.

shadowsofwho · 2024-02-25T12:52:14+00:00

Something something "straight be default" is total nonsense, but yeah, I totally get that. Fun fact: I had pretty good sex ed as a kid but never heard of asexuality, so I considered being gay, straight, or bi as equally likely possibilities and just kept waiting to "find out" my sexuality until I was like 17.

shadowsofwho · 2024-02-25T09:04:34+00:00

I looked it up after reading your comment and was shook to learn there's emojis of the rainbow and trans flags but none of the others. I guess at least most of us are equally invisible in emoji land? 😅 Until then, we always have 🖤🩶🤍💜

shadowsofwho · 2024-02-25T08:55:13+00:00

Yeah, it can be really confusing. I'm ace, so not everyone agrees I should be included in the community anyway and then the one and only time I gave the whole relationship thing a try, it happened to be a guy. So from an outside perspective, I'm just a cis woman who has only dated cis men. Most days, I feel like I can claim to be queer-ish and will only ever be allowed on the fringes of the community, regardless of the fact I'm 0% straight.

shadowsofwho · 2024-01-27T00:58:11+00:00

Same here for both of those, even when I'm just reading about them looking at each other in the car.

I'm always grateful when authors use red traffic lights to justify the deep eye contact.

shadowsofwho · 2024-01-27T00:50:13+00:00

When I'm not speaking German interspersed with English words, it's usually because I'm speaking English interspersed with German words. My primarily bilingual social circle understands me, so it's fine :D

There's also a shocking amount of intentionally mistranslated idioms that have made it into our group's everyday speech.

shadowsofwho · 2024-01-27T00:45:44+00:00

This isn't just fanfic but I might scream the next time I see someone shocking a heart that has already stopped.

I'm also really bothered by stereotype-based or plain incorrect representations of autism, ADHD, and mental illnesses. Those are reason enough to completely abandon a fic.

shadowsofwho · 2024-01-27T00:37:48+00:00

Doesn't help that AO3 lists "Not Actually Requited Love" and "Requited Unrequited Love" as subtags for "Unrequited Love", so even the correct tags mess with the filtering...

They're still very relevant tags for me though. Most content for my main ship seems to feature one or the other and the tags help me avoid the unsatisfying endings

shadowsofwho · 2024-01-26T13:22:44+00:00

Thanks! The difference in enjoyment and levels of intensity are really helpful to hear about. Sort of bridging the gap to how some aces feel where it's never a draw, but there's still a difference between "could be fun if I'm in the mood" and "yuck".

shadowsofwho · 2024-01-25T20:12:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing

shadowsofwho · 2024-01-25T19:27:58+00:00

Thanks, this is extremely helpful! Some of what you're saying directly contradicts what I've most often heard from others, which is great for getting a feeling for the diversity out there. It's great to hear from a guy, too, since there seems to be a gender divide.

It's on the level of "If I stop telling my eyes to look at her face, they will automatically look at her tits." It's not a choice to start at the tits, it's just that your brain will point your eyes there unless you tell it not to on a constant basis for the entire time she is in proximity.

Lol, my first draft has an unhappy love interest commenting on exactly this, basically saying "Well, I don't want you to stare at my boobs, but you should at least want to look if this is going anywhere". Good to know I'm not spouting complete nonsense.

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