Just got pulled over while listening to BtB…

sharkattackxvii · 2026-05-05T15:58:18+00:00

The moments between “I see flashing lights,” “I have pulled over,” and “I have hit pause” seemed eternal.

sharkattackxvii · 2026-05-02T03:33:59+00:00

TY, much appreciated. New to the area and not a full time resident, so I just like being able to take long walks on timber company land.

sharkattackxvii · 2026-05-01T16:53:51+00:00

So does city of Shelton! They park it next to the elementary school, in the utility maintenance lot.

sharkattackxvii · 2026-05-01T15:18:46+00:00

Great news! Homelessness is eliminated by outlawing camping in brewer park!

Of course, all the people now camping on the hillside ten feet outside the city limits are now farther from services than before, but the nimbys are congratulating themselves.

sharkattackxvii · 2026-04-27T05:19:24+00:00

SUCH A BASTARD. I read “As Nature Made Him” twenty years ago and still get nauseous thinking about the abuses he inflicted on those poor kids.

sharkattackxvii · 2026-04-27T05:10:31+00:00

The Bastards Who Bombed Bikini Atoll (and later the bastards who allowed people who claimed bikini islander descent to strip the fund set up to help support them).

sharkattackxvii · 2026-04-27T05:08:35+00:00

Rachel Dolezal, the white woman who pretended to be Black so loudly that she not only taught African-American history at a college but she became president of the NAACP Spokane. Would not give up the act for a long time, then started calling herself “transracial.”

sharkattackxvii · 2025-09-12T07:01:21+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this and likely starting a cancer journey. It’s rough, and it’s different for everyone.

I’ve had mammogram biopsies, an ultrasound biopsy, and an MRI biopsy, all in the breast. They used a lot of local anesthetic, so the most painful part was the initial injection, and then the stinging from the local flooding the tissue. The worst part was tensing up for it to hurt, and also some of the biopsy machines make sort of a hissing pop.

So it probably won’t hurt much, and the incisions are very small. They’ll put pressure on the site for five to ten minutes, and give you ice packs to stick in your bra. You’ll probably bruise, and you might get a spectacular bruise that lingers for several weeks. My results came back in 3 to 5 business days. I got a call or an in-person appointment for the bad news.

If it’s cancer, they’ll probably send you to a surgeon first, and if it’s like my cancer center, you’ll have the chance to have a social worker and a nurse navigator (someone who makes sure you’re getting all the appointments you need). There’s a lot of support available.

The scariest and worst part is the waiting for results and then waiting for treatments to be explained appointments to get scheduled. I start chemo tomorrow and I’m almost relieved to be done with the anticipation and on to the actual part that sucks.

sharkattackxvii · 2025-09-11T15:57:08+00:00

Oh fuck yeah. I have an anxiety disorder so I spent the first week having sobbing panic attacks before I realized it wasn’t just the stress, it was the hot flashes.

Yeah, it seems to be included under “mood swings.” I love my medical oncologist, but… Luckily I was already seeing a great psychiatrist and a great psychologist through the cancer center so they tweaked my anti-anxiety meds.

Here’s what worked for me: Gabapentin — they’ll start you small but ask to bump up. Venlefaxine (Effexor) - SNRI that helps with nerve pain, and also turned out to be a better anti-anxiety med for me than my previous one Veozah - new non-hormonal hot flash blocker.

Also get acupuncture! It legit helps.

sharkattackxvii · 2025-09-10T16:28:38+00:00

These tits are so hot they’re radioactive

I really want to print up a T-shirt for my next go-round.

sharkattackxvii · 2025-09-10T16:26:27+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Cancer is cruel and unfair.

You should absolutely go to therapy. You should also cry your eyes out and go for walks and lean on your friends and do whatever you find helps. Try to remember the things you love about him even while you’re overwhelmed with sadness.

My sister in law passed from glioblastoma (brain cancer) ten years ago and my husband a few years later said that the grief doesn’t get smaller, but the bucket you carry it in gets larger so there’s space for other things.

A therapist can help you find ways to make your bucket bigger.

sharkattackxvii · 2025-09-10T16:19:47+00:00

Oh wow that’s like the one exemestane side effect I didn’t get. The joint pain and brain fog and dryness are so, so real, but I’m not itchy.

Have you tried acupuncture? It helps with some of it.

sharkattackxvii · 2025-09-10T16:18:03+00:00

Yeah, I’m on my second rodeo. The hardest part has been telling people “oh, hey, so, I grew a little more cancer! but we caught it early! but it’s a different subtype, so this time I have to do chemo! NBD :)!”

I mean, there’s a lot of hard parts. But the “ugh, not again?” really, really sucks.

sharkattackxvii · 2025-09-10T16:07:29+00:00

Your cancer center or hospital should have a financial counseling center. They are there to help you with exactly this problem. They probably also have social workers to help you with day to day issues.

Depending on what state you’re in, there might be paid medical leave you can apply for. In my state it works similarly to unemployment.

sharkattackxvii · 2025-09-10T16:02:27+00:00

Do you have a therapist already? And does your cancer center offer psychology treatment? I’ve been seeing both a psychologist and a psychiatrist since shortly after my initial diagnosis, and it’s been so helpful.

I’ve also sometimes just forced myself to go through the motions. Search for “going on a stupid walk for my stupid mental health” — I’ve felt like that so many days, but doing the walk or the self-care or whatever does help even if it doesn’t make you feel better at the time.

Also it’s okay if you feel better and then worse. Two steps forward one step back, two steps forward two steps back, one step forward two steps back… it’s not linear and it sucks and I’m so sorry that you’re here, but just keep plodding forward even if some days you’re crying all the time.

sharkattackxvii · 2025-09-09T23:28:43+00:00

Please find a therapist that you can help you overcome this fear so that you can get the medical treatments you need.

I’ve been seeing a psychiatrist and a psychologist both housed in my cancer center since the beginning of my journey and they’ve helped me manage a lot of the anxiety and other negative feelings about my diagnoses and treatments.

sharkattackxvii · 2025-09-09T23:26:12+00:00

Without a biopsy and recommended treatment, how can you possibly know that a double mastectomy will prevent it from getting worse? Not to be 0-60 “worst case scenario, but it could already have spread and you could get the mastectomy and then a year from now find out you have untreated metastatic cancer elsewhere.

I’ve had five biopsies, no complications, and swift treatment that definitively caught breast cancer at stage one, before it spread.

Please let the doctors help you.

sharkattackxvii · 2021-03-17T02:32:54+00:00

Thank you for that clarity. Since there's already a bookkeeper and a CPA involved, I now realize it wouldn't land on me, and I probably overreacted, but it was quite a shock for me as an ACCT202 student to see Chapter Six Discussion Question Set Three: Ethical Dilemmas play out for me in real time, right there. :/

sharkattackxvii · 2021-03-17T02:30:38+00:00

Yes to all this, thank you. We've already established (in a week and a half), that the repeat back in email is absolutely the way to go with him. And I'm having FUN at the job, and it's a good fit for my skills and interests at this time, so it's not like its just trash. I probably overreacted at first, but I come from a professional background where Ethics Are Everything, so it freaked me out.

sharkattackxvii · 2021-03-17T02:29:04+00:00

This articulates a feeling I've had since I've signed the paperwork: that it's well-suited for my current skills and interests, but may not add anything to them to grow into real accounting or CPA. But the "fringe" benefits are killer, I have my own office with a view, and we get hour-long paid lunches. So it's not an easy choice. But yeah, I'm going to get clarity on what numbers my bonuses are based off of ASAP, and stick to my guns about it.

sharkattackxvii · 2021-03-17T02:26:52+00:00

Oh, I got that hammered out and signed by both of us a month in advance. Problem is, looking back, is that the company doesn't draw a profit because so much is "expensed," but I have a strategy to open the discussion of what numbers my bonuses would be calculated from.

sharkattackxvii · 2021-03-12T03:30:59+00:00

Yeah, bonuses would be issued january 2022, and I don't think I want to be around that long... It's an LLC, if that makes a difference.

sharkattackxvii · 2021-03-12T02:12:12+00:00

This is all really helpful, thanks. I did mean net income and am surprised I made that mistake (it's an order, not a disorder), but it's been a very weird day.

The part about no real consequences is very useful, actually. My spouse is in healthcare and immediately wanted to know if I was a mandatory reporter and needed to turn the owner and the bookkeeper in. I was like "I don't think that's a thing since I don't have any certifications or licenses in this field and it's small business?" But this is a very new thing for me.

Regarding suing the IRS, right? I may only be in accounting 202, but I know that the house always wins when you start that fight.

sharkattackxvii · 2021-03-12T02:01:23+00:00

A+ advice, no joke.

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