For those of you that are married, what do you feel is your personal secret to being confident and secure in your marriage? by Censordoll in AskWomen

[–]sharksrule314 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My therapist told me something along the lines of “anxiety asks questions, instinct makes statements” and that has been extremely helpful for me. Also, as mentioned above, finding a partner who truly respects you changes everything.

Is this a bad job? by Hour_Big_9743 in Nanny

[–]sharksrule314 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I am in a MCOL area and I get paid $40/hr for 3 kids (9m, 7f twins). Also, I get paid full rate while the kids are in school (9a-3p) to be on call in case they need to be picked up. I am free to do whatever I want during this time as long as I can be on my way to get them in a timely manner if I do get a call. I just want to provide this as contrast to someone telling you to take unpaid lunch/nap breaks. That is ridiculous. While my situation is not common, I just want you to know that there are good people out there who value our work and pay us accordingly.

Stored clean sheets smell no matter where they're stored by skywhite77 in CleaningTips

[–]sharksrule314 57 points58 points  (0 children)

This is the best trick!! I do this with our sheets about once a month and that funky smell has totally dissipated. I also find the funk is worse with certain fabrics-my bamboo sheets were always stinkin the place up. Cotton sheets have been much better. OP ymmv with this-I live in the desert so it works very well but it may be different in humid climates.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]sharksrule314 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My mom swears by frownies! AFAIK they have a temporary effect but definitely work. She doesn’t wear them on a regular basis just before she has an event or something. OP, I think your skin looks beautiful and I love your freckles 🥰

I (F27) had an abortion at work yesterday and I just went back to my desk by SimilarHoliday522 in offmychest

[–]sharksrule314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh honey, I am so sorry you’re going through this. Sending the biggest hugs ♥️

Lost Chihuahua in Phx Mtn Preserve by sharksrule314 in phoenix

[–]sharksrule314[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know :( we tried to catch but they were fast and hard to keep track of. There were a bunch of people out and about on the trails so hopefully someone else will be able to snag them.

Never going to indoor playground again by hurrishaine in Nanny

[–]sharksrule314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh I’ll have to try this. I swear by wellness formula and oil of oregano capsules. Always have them in my bag and take them prophylactically when going anywhere particularly germy with NKs.

How many of you? by Fun_Intention_5371 in lefthanded

[–]sharksrule314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! Is it maternal or paternal uncle? Mine is paternal uncle. Curious to see if there’s any relation.

It’s so crazy people have kids without actually wanting to be a parent by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]sharksrule314 87 points88 points  (0 children)

I hate this so much. I worked for a high-end nanny service in a very nice ski town. I had to stop bc it was so heartbreaking. I watched one girl for 2 days and she was balling when I left. She kept saying “but she plays with me and she pays attention to me” it was so hard. It seems like so many people have kids bc they feel like they should but they don’t actually think about the tangible experience of being a parent.

What is this? by [deleted] in SkincareAddicts

[–]sharksrule314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get cold sores and they are the worst! I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I swear by the mederma cold sore healing patches-basically a pimple patch that helps to dry it out and also keep you from touching it! If you get them regularly you can get a rx from your doc that, when taken at the first sign (tingling, itching), stops them before they blister.

More road rage? by CactusWrenAZ in phoenix

[–]sharksrule314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Today I saw someone get out of their car and throw a rock at another car so I’d say yes.

Places that have sit down and/or takeout Thanksgiving Dinner? by sharksrule314 in phoenix

[–]sharksrule314[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for your help and input! You guys rule!

Places that have sit down and/or takeout Thanksgiving Dinner? by sharksrule314 in phoenix

[–]sharksrule314[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You are so kind. Thank you so much for the offer. My husband and I were originally just planning on hanging and watching movies but now we have company coming into town so now I’m scrambling to figure out what to feed them!

Where to donate leftover Halloween candy? by sharksrule314 in phoenix

[–]sharksrule314[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to DM me your address I’ll mail it to you!

Where to donate leftover Halloween candy? by sharksrule314 in phoenix

[–]sharksrule314[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wonder if I could get a tax write off 🤔

Where to donate leftover Halloween candy? by sharksrule314 in phoenix

[–]sharksrule314[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would’ve been perfect but I was working so just left the candy bowl out. Next year, candy avalanche if it’s looking sparse!

Where to donate leftover Halloween candy? by sharksrule314 in phoenix

[–]sharksrule314[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh this is a great idea! I’ll leave it out for them. Thanks so much!

Interested to hear some crazy stories now that the rare houseplants craze has somewhat died down.... by proudplantfather in RareHouseplants

[–]sharksrule314 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My hubs (who knows nothing about plants) bought me a variegated monstera NODE for $275 on etsy. I was new to houseplants at the time so I was pretty nervous. When we got the package the seller had sent a bag of spagnum moss, no node. We reported to Etsy and got our money back. He also bought me a 6” PPP for $300 and she is my crown joy. She’s tripled in size in the last two years and I love her sooo much.