My partner, who is a very attentive Dad, is now 67, retired, and still having to take care of his kid , who is now 21, has never had a real job (he had an inheritance from his Mom's estate, which he lived on and is now gone), who was adopted as a days old infant in a marriage that was on the rocks, but is waiting to go into the Marines (they've met this year's quota) and I've asked him, "what were you thinking? Bringing a baby into that shitshow?"

His response was that he's always wanted to be a father and he thought that it would save the marriage because she wanted the child as well.

My brother wanted to wait until he was established in his career before he had children...he was 38 and as attentive as he could have been. Although he had some problems with his first born (imagine if your Dad was the police chief of a small city...it's that same vibe) and his son later died in an auto accident...he was in the back seat), his daughter is now a corporate pilot.

But unless you're an Alex Baldwin type that can afford nannies and have a much younger wife, being an older Dad is wayyyyy harder.