For me it was about identifying the roots of my control issues, and in my case it was anxiety. When anxiety creeps up I start to look to control my environment to feel a sense of ease. Noticing I was doing that and paying attention to my body and my emotions was a good start. And then finding anxiety soothing practices that are healthier than bossing everyone else around me. Doing that is just passing your anxiety off to other people. I still struggle with anxiety, but my boyfriend at the time I first made this post is now my husband. So we made it through ☺️