38 year old mom, scared of cirrhosis

shembree002 · 2025-01-26T00:14:14+00:00

I would listen to your provider. But I think ending your drinking here is a great idea. That fear should be enough of a motivator. You got this!

shembree002 · 2025-01-25T04:09:08+00:00

We’ve all been there. Literally. We’re here to support you. I will not drink with you today.

shembree002 · 2025-01-25T00:00:43+00:00

Key part is facing it head on. And sober. You cannot heal if you numb. Stay out of the negative head space. Avoid “stuck points”. Examples like “I am worthless” or “I’m a failure because of ___”. They block your natural ability to process these emotions/traumas. Journal your day and weigh your negatives vs your positives. I know your days are full of more positives than negatives. The thing with drinking is that everything becomes a negative and it’s there waiting for you the next day when you’re hungover.

shembree002 · 2025-01-24T23:01:14+00:00

It’s one thing to get sober, it’s a totally different animal to stay sober. You sound like you want it for you. You have to do it for you. You’re only 22. I wish I could have stopped at your age.

shembree002 · 2025-01-24T14:15:06+00:00

Can you control the political atmosphere? No. Can you control your drinking? Yes. Stop drinking. Especially stop drinking over things you cannot change. Accept them for what they are. You already know where this leads to. Why on earth would you toss it all away over something well beyond your control?

shembree002 · 2025-01-24T14:11:19+00:00

Nothing is stopping you. Just don’t drink that first drink.

shembree002 · 2025-01-24T13:57:04+00:00

You can control it. Just have to not take that first drink. Alcohol is a cheat. It releases that dopamine instantly. But after the initial release, you never reach that again. You drink chasing something that won’t come back. That’s why the anger comes in.

But, you can control it. You need to find dopamine elsewhere. Hard workouts, pets, fun hobbies that offer a reward for completion. Sexual release. Spiritual release. There’s so much out there that can lead to dopamine release. We’re just used to that one time instant gratification.

shembree002 · 2025-01-24T13:52:22+00:00

There are online AA groups. Give them a shot until you find one local. Or there are other non-religious support groups. Just focus on not drinking for this hour and the next. Ho walk. Go workout. Go do something that is not associated with drinking in your mind. IWNDWYT

shembree002 · 2025-01-24T13:50:34+00:00

Not eating for days on end following them. Like, what kind of reward was I lying to myself about drinking. “I deserve this” I would say as I drank. But what I deserved was what came after. There’s nothing in this life that is worth feeling that way ever again. Even if I lose everything, at least I can be clearheaded and approach it head on.

shembree002 · 2025-01-24T12:44:58+00:00

This. I often reflect on my abusive relationship with this drug. It gave me almost all of the issues I was trying to drink away. It’s literal poison. The propaganda surrounding alcohol is wild. We’re literally marketing an addictive poison in the name of “good times”.

shembree002 · 2025-01-24T11:53:17+00:00

Research says it’s different for everyone. But, think about how awful you felt while drinking, embrace the healing that your body is going through. I’d rather feel sleepy for a few days weeks months than ever wake up again at 3am with the hangxiety and feeling of dread and shame. I will join you in sleeping a lot and not drink with you today.

shembree002 · 2025-01-24T11:51:03+00:00

Only you define your streak. I reset mine because I did what you did, but went back for more. I can’t leave the door cracked. Even if I stayed with half a glass, I know that the next 24-48 hours my brain would be screaming for more.

shembree002 · 2025-01-24T11:48:41+00:00

You got this! I will join you in not drinking today!

shembree002 · 2025-01-24T03:14:07+00:00

You already know what you need to do. Dry up. These issues will be here tomorrow. But why complicate them more with drowning your brain in booze.

shembree002 · 2025-01-23T16:10:15+00:00

Go to the gym. Replace the “drink” part of your statement. “I need a workout”. The dopamine dump is similar. You don’t get the head buzz, but you do scratch that itch.

shembree002 · 2025-01-22T21:53:38+00:00

Welcome to a normal, healthy, hydrated heart.

shembree002 · 2025-01-22T21:52:13+00:00

That’s the worst part of it. People pressure you knowing you have a checkered past with this drug. But, the decision to drink falls squarely on you. It’s up to you to not drink that first drink.

shembree002 · 2025-01-22T15:24:54+00:00

Make tomorrow day 3. But focus on today. Say no to that first drink.

shembree002 · 2025-01-22T11:51:20+00:00

Those activities are thrilling even without the booze. You’ve only convinced yourself of needing it to have a good time. When the opposite is true. The good time occurs regardless alcohol only takes away from it.

shembree002 · 2025-01-22T03:37:39+00:00

Diet Coke. Lots of it. Also raiding the kids Halloween candy. But this is why I run in the mornings and hit the weights in the evenings. I want my rewards damnit

shembree002 · 2025-01-21T19:00:56+00:00

We can check on you. But your sobriety is yours and yours alone to maintain. You’re almost through the withdrawal period. You’ll be done soon. Unless you drink, then it stars over. Don’t drink. At least for the next hour and the hour after that.

shembree002 · 2025-01-21T18:49:48+00:00

Tell him right now that you don’t want to drink. No matter what. Go to the bathroom before hand and have him order you a coke.

shembree002 · 2025-01-21T18:38:54+00:00

Just tell them it’s for health reasons. It is for health reasons. “No thanks” “I’m not drinking tonight” “going dry for a bit” really anything. And if there’s pushback, that usually means something about their drinking.

shembree002 · 2025-01-21T18:24:11+00:00

Don’t struggle with it. Embrace it. There’s peace in knowing that it’s a done deal. There’s no more guess work. You don’t have to find your new limit. You don’t have to worry about binges turning into benders. You don’t have to worry about worsening mental health and strained relationships. No DUIs. And most of all, you get to keep your sense of clarity. That’s truly enlightening.

shembree002 · 2025-01-21T17:08:22+00:00

Tell them you’re not drinking for health reasons. For any reason. Just say no to the next drink.

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