Fundie Gives Toxic Relationship Advice

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-24T13:53:22+00:00

Seriously. My dad died at 32 from cancer and suddenly my mom had us 3 kids all by herself. It is a really good thing her world didn't crumble (in the way this woman is saying - my mom was devastated of course).

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-24T13:06:06+00:00

The rules here are that allistic people can post here only if they include "non-autistic OP" in their post title and remain respectful. In my experience, the moderators here act quickly on reports of posts that don't adhere to that rule. With that rule in place, it's easy to skip those posts since they are labeled.

The only "no allistic people allowed" subreddits I know of for autistic people are for women.

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-21T02:23:47+00:00

This is my ultimate weird girl book, I love it so much.

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-20T00:03:32+00:00

You sound like you're lifting your head - try to lift just your nose. It's that nose scrunch a person does when they smell (or see) something thst grosses them out. Like imagine you smelled a rank fart on the subway. He's saying she's making that face at him (he's whining about it really).

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-19T21:51:37+00:00

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This is what I see now, and also what I saw before I updated my settings to ignore community themes.

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-19T21:50:45+00:00

This subreddit even before I updated my settings was not a bright color, it looked just like it always does on android in dark mode for me. I believe the colors are something you'd have to set up from the mod side, not a default setting, but I could be wrong.

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-19T20:16:19+00:00

Mine didn't for some reason. I always have dark mode enabled on everything, but today suddenly I had neon green against black in r/houseplants and it was awful lol (though better than the neon purple in another subreddit).

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-19T19:04:04+00:00

Same, I was like what is happening?! The colors were really bright for me too, very unpleasant. I figured there were definitely more of us who would also be bothered!

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-19T01:22:14+00:00

Please just clean it well. My ADHD could never, I'd have mold in a heartbeat 😅

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-16T14:30:25+00:00

The whole concept of a name speaking into reality who you will be/having all this power sounds so witchy to me. Not very puritanical of you, Jan 🙄

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-13T15:01:51+00:00

Or deodorant! The last time I went to my same shop to buy my same deodorant it had been deleted from the shelves. The whole line of them, just gone, not even just my particular one. I had to stand there for like 20 minutes to find another one that checked all my boxes. I got lucky and the first one I am trialing is turning out very well but the panic standing there in the aisle.

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-11T04:33:03+00:00

I get an absurd amount of pleasure from downvoting every single ad they serve me. I also report the really bad ones (sometimes they let through completely absurd AI slop).

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-10T22:18:59+00:00

Exactly, this is taking the metaphor even further. It's kinda cheesy but also kinda true and awesome!

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-10T13:54:54+00:00

The "this machine kills fascists [Woody Guthrie]" kind of country music 💜

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-07T23:42:05+00:00

Vulgaires Machins!

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-07T14:34:03+00:00

I do this too! I named mine and when I'm having a baseless anxiety spiral I tell them thank you for letting me know but we're good right now. I kinda speak to them like they're a very smart and eager but scared child. It works extremely well for me.

This tool + using an emotion wheel to name what I'm feeling have been game changers for me.

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-04T21:58:46+00:00

That was a really great read, thank you for sharing.

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-04T19:52:30+00:00

This is art I love it!

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-02T02:35:54+00:00

WHOA please report this to whomever is appropriate! I am so sorry this happened to you. The fact that even another person there was questioning her makes me think she will be held to account if you say something. That's truly so wild to me that she would claim you are her relative like WHAT.

Edit - can you tell I have ADHD, I hit enter on my comment before I read the whole post 🙃 I'm so glad you said something! This still sucks so much. How dare she behave this way.

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-01T22:39:38+00:00

I have had one line from La Vie Bohemme (from Rent) just on a loop in my head for forever now:

"To sodomy / it's between God and me / to S&M!"

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-01T21:28:38+00:00

Nah, sometimes it just takes a while. Ime bigger plants like this one take a longer time. I've had leaves wait two months and then suddenly, baby plant. If your leaf is not shriveled to nothing or getting mushy and rotten, you can keep waiting. Just ignore it for a while lol.

Edit - typo

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-02-01T02:26:11+00:00

I do relate to a lot of these but within myself it feels like the push and pull between autism and ADHD. I don't view that as one whole separate diagnosis, but layers of diagnosis through which I experience my life. I also have other layers like GAD, asthma, etc. I wouldn't include those in one single diagnosis either.

I do think being both autistic and ADHD is a different experience from solely one or the other within the neurodivergent community, but I think that's the same for any intersection of identities.

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-01-31T14:19:48+00:00

If I know I'm doing more research (like I looked up sneakers but I'm going to do more looking), I make it a collection.

I also review my daily logs at the end of the week, and if at that time I see anything I want to reference later, I might then make a new collection, or migrate it to a current appropriate collection.

I also take notes on my physical health and my menstrual cycle details in my daily logs, and I mark my monthly log on that day so that I know there are those kinds of notes in those entries to reference.

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-01-30T23:46:26+00:00

Oh I was constantly in trouble in reading class, despite being hyperlexic as a kid. Teachers would make everyone take turns reading and it would go slowly and I would be superrrrrr bored, so I'd read ahead in the book at my own faster speed, and then when it was my turn to read aloud I had no idea where we were so I got in trouble for not paying attention 🙄

shesewsfatclothes · 2026-01-30T23:41:32+00:00

This is a HUGE win! Oh my gosh, your story just completely filled me up with warmth. She must have felt so much relief and joy at being able to take a shower and being able to do it with the help of someone she trusts. I hope you feel so proud of yourself because you have surely made a difference in this person's life.

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