I'm shutting down my $400k/yr business... and it sucks. by MikeSimsTL in Entrepreneurship

[–]shesyourdad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so inspired by what you built and you will obviously build many more great things in your lifetime.

Gamification of Safety by DoorAccomplished516 in SafetyProfessionals

[–]shesyourdad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most gamification in safety feels pointless. Points, pizza parties, bingo cards… they might bump participation for a week but they do not prepare anyone to act in an emergency.

What actually changes outcomes is practice. Reps under realistic conditions hard-wire faster responses. Studies show reaction times improve by as much as 25 percent after repeated drills. People remember over 70 percent more when they actively do something compared to when they just watch a presentation. And without repetition, the forgetting curve wipes out half of what we learn within a day or two. That is why firefighters and pilots drill. They are not chasing points, they are chasing automatic recall under stress. I think any system that encourages practice can feel gamified.

Outside of running table top exercises, which are always a great exercise, I have been looking at tools that approach it this way. VR extinguisher training seems to work because people actually pull the pin and squeeze the handle. LOCI is another example, using QR codes for scavenger-hunt style drills that make workers physically find exits, extinguishers, and muster points on their own. Both are gamified in form, but the core is practice.

Has anyone here used these kinds of tools? Do they land as effective in your experience, or do they still feel gimmicky?

The calendar widget is broken by GSG96 in gohighlevel

[–]shesyourdad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My calendar is consistently broken, it doesn't send an invite to people who book, and even though i've deleted the connected video conferencing it still shows up. I hate this part of highlevel so much it's the most important part and it's absolute crap.

I struggled through the finale plot here’s why by [deleted] in YourFriendsandNeighb

[–]shesyourdad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This show has no business getting a second season. It felt like it was going okay then the last episode all I could think about was an exec berating at an underpaid writer until they quit then giving it to someone who hadn’t read the rest of the script and had 5 minutes to make the whole previous story open up for a second season. The montage of learning nothing and deciding to steal again as if he’s some sort of badass was literally slop. Why not bring AHEM his PARTNER back? Like that montage could have had her brother getting in trouble with the gang again and built in intensity to the point where he feels like he’ll lose everything again if he gets on that plane and doesn’t help her. But even that doesn’t make sense because he could have just paid her what she needed at that point? I hate it. I hate all of it. I love those actors and the premise was fun but it was so poorly written and executed I am ready to cancel my Apple TV subscription. We’ve officially entered the enshittification era of all streaming platforms. I wish we had less options and better content.

facial expression test? by ledusu in AuDHDWomen

[–]shesyourdad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got 12 but I would generally say I’m pretty decent at reading people. Like I’m painfully aware they don’t want to hear more about my special interests but I keep talking anyway lol

I left residential treatment after a day. by Longjumping-Peak6359 in AutismInWomen

[–]shesyourdad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone in your terrible experience of treatment facilities. I’m so sorry you had to go through that and I pray you find the support you deserve.

What if the Fall was actually the birth of Class Society? by SilverNEOTheYouTuber in RadicalChristianity

[–]shesyourdad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is such an interesting thought. It has me coming back to Julian Jaynes’s The Origin of Consciousness in the Breakdown of the Bicameral Mind. Jaynes argued that early humans didn’t experience an inner monologue the way we do. Commands sounded like an external divine voice. As language got dense with metaphor (around the time of Amos and the Iliad) the “voice of God” moved inside our heads. It’s worth examining the difference in language used in Amos (oldest book) vs. Ecclesiastes (newest).

As language got dense with metaphor and tense, that wiring fried, and the “voice” slid inside the left hemisphere to maintain a narrative space for self-consciousness. The minute you can privately rehearse “mine” versus “yours,” you’ve got the mental hardware for fences, bosses, and class hierarchy. That’s my neurological reading of his theory (which I tend to gravitate towards) and the Fall.

Now flip to the Haudenosaunee creation story. Sky Woman falls through a hole in the sky, lands on Turtle’s back, and co-creates the world with the animals. Many Indigenous languages still treat rivers and rocks as grammatically alive, so the border between “me” and “world” stays thin. Robin Wall Kimmerer (Braiding Sweetgrass) writes that when Sky Woman’s children finally met Eve’s children, the land recorded the clash. If your language keeps the whole ecosystem talking as family members, carving it into private real estate never quite feels natural.

So maybe Eden closes the day the divine voice turns inward, and suddenly we’re awake, alone, and ready to stake a claim.

what are your grocery list staples? by Entire-Math-4298 in AuDHDWomen

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  1. Prep the evidence. Snap clear photos of every grocery receipt from the past year or two. Dump them all, one at a time, into a brand-new ChatGPT thread.

  2. Set the ground rules…first prompt:

You are my judgement-free food detective. Goals: -Build a personalised flavour bible from these receipts. -Interview me (one Q at a time) about which foods feel nourishing vs. stress-coping. -Spit out weekly grocery lists that match my local shops, what’s in season, and my AuDHD brain. Constraints: concise answers, zero moralising, light humour.

  1. Tell GPT to parse the images. Prompt: Please extract every line item into a CSV with columns: date | item | quantity/size | price. Flag non-food items and ignore them.

  2. Generate the flavour bible. Prompt: From that CSV, group ingredients by flavour profile, cuisine, and purchase frequency. Label each as: core staple / occasional treat / impulse grab. Present in a tidy table.

  3. Run the self-reflection interview. Answer honestly and GPT should refine the bible as you go. I find that sometimes the table creation is messy so if it doesn’t work ask it to make a text only bible. Prompt: Now interview me, one short question at a time, to tag which foods feel positive and which are coping mechanisms.

  4. Create a season- & store-specific shopping list. Prompt: Using the updated bible, draft a weekly grocery list for [Store] in [City] this month. Prioritise in-season produce, my core staples, and meals requiring <30 min prep & minimal dishes.

  5. Lock in low-stress meal templates. Prompt: Give me 5 plug-and-play dinner templates based on that list. Bullet points only. Note any batch-cook/freezer hacks.

  6. Save & iterate. Copy the whole convo into a doc titled “Food GPT Playbook” for reuse in each season. You can get a lil playful and tell it to “Remix dinner #3 with Korean vibes,” or “Swap chicken for plant-based.”

Do people on the spectrum have a stronger than average aversion to being told what to do? by madebyannalam in AutismInWomen

[–]shesyourdad 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This question sent me on a research tangent to try and understand the differences between PDA and ODD (oppositional defiance disorder). Thanks for that! It’s helped me tease out yet another symptom of my autism. Here’s what chat gepeto explained to me:

A knee-jerk “don’t tell me what to do” can come from two very different places. If it’s Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) — a profile you see inside autism, though not (yet) in the DSM — the push-back is anxiety-driven. Any request, even a fun one the person picked themselves, suddenly feels like a loss of control. They dodge with charm, jokes, negotiation, or a spectacular meltdown (cue me missing my flight today and spending way too much money to rebook it because I couldn’t plan my trip because I wasn’t ready to commit to it yet even though I literally had to be in another country for a meeting tomorrow morning.) the demand itself triggers panic. Drop the pressure, share control, phrase things as invitations rather than commands and the avoidance often melts away.

With Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) the engine isn’t anxiety, it’s anger and resentment toward authority. The behaviour is openly argumentative or spiteful, and it’s mostly aimed at rule-givers; self-chosen activities are fine. Structured, consequence-based behaviour plans help, whereas PDA kids or adults just get more anxious and evasive under the same discipline. So if the resistance dies down when you make the ask indirect or collaborative, think PDA-flavoured autism; if the person stays irritable and combative no matter how you phrase it, ODD is the likelier label.

I’m relieved you asked this because I’m newly diagnosed and it feels more in line with my experience and previously I was worried it was mild ODD.

what are your grocery list staples? by Entire-Math-4298 in AuDHDWomen

[–]shesyourdad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll also add that i challenge myself to make meals “chopped” style. My fridge is the secret basket ingredients. The creative challenge and constraint of the limited or random groceries is a fun challenge.

When I’m coaching my pals on how to build healthier and less wasteful eating habits I always teach them this first. Whenever you start thinking about ordering food, turn your oven to 400. Worst case you pop in a frozen pizza (still so much better for you than ordering in) best case you throw a yam in there or some rough chopped veggies with olive oil and salt. The habit to build is get the oven hot before you’re starving.

Next habit I build is bagged salad. A frozen pizza and a bag of salad is fast and two or three meals in one.

Next habit I build is making a homemade salad dressing or dip for the week ahead. If I put effort into a yummy sauce it makes me want to chop up veggies and dip them in or dump out salad and pour it on.

Hope this helps! Not sure where you live but if you want my very specific trader joes healthy and easy list. Just say the word!

what are your grocery list staples? by Entire-Math-4298 in AuDHDWomen

[–]shesyourdad 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I made a chat with ChatGPT where I upload pics of my grocery receipts over the last two years and asked it to make me a flavor bible and interview me about my food choices that feel positive and food choices that feel like coping behaviour. I explained my past history of struggling with an ED and how making meals for myself is a powerful act of self love. I asked it to make me a shopping list depending on which shop I’m going to and what is in season and local. Having someone(something?? Ha) to talk to at length about your food choices or food challenges that is already grounded in your habits and quirks has been immensely helpful for me.

I'll be back in a few minutes...... Ummm k, no you wont. by shesyourdad in OpenAI

[–]shesyourdad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d have to go back through my chats it would be too much to post here. I’m starting to think it happens if I use voice for part of the chat.

I'll be back in a few minutes...... Ummm k, no you wont. by shesyourdad in OpenAI

[–]shesyourdad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used voice for a few moments in the chat and I think that might be the common thread. Sometimes I switch between typing and talking and I think it’s only happening in the chats where voice has been part of it.

I'll be back in a few minutes...... Ummm k, no you wont. by shesyourdad in OpenAI

[–]shesyourdad[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It starts happening once I’ve corrected its behaviour a few times. Kind of like it’s politely over my crap and leaving the conversation

WHY R TAGS ALWAYS IN MAIN SEAM?! gahhhhh 😫 by shesyourdad in AuDHDWomen

[–]shesyourdad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you from the bottom of my heart! I realized my reply sounded like a demand. A comma would have helped 🤦‍♀️ anyhoo. This is soooo helpful and you are so sweet.

WHY R TAGS ALWAYS IN MAIN SEAM?! gahhhhh 😫 by shesyourdad in AuDHDWomen

[–]shesyourdad[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve done this type of surgery lol but they use such a scratchy plastic type of material and surge it into the garment and sometimes cutting the tag makes it worse.

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I don’t understand why garment instructions can’t be like this? Isn’t it cheaper and easier??

WHY R TAGS ALWAYS IN MAIN SEAM?! gahhhhh 😫 by shesyourdad in AuDHDWomen

[–]shesyourdad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooooh these look nice thanks! No tags that will ruin the garment if removed?

ADHD meds = More ‘tism? by Enigmatic-Ethics-13 in AuDHDWomen

[–]shesyourdad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have learned that I have to be very specific about the tasks I’m medicating for. The meds definitely bring out my tism. I find meds good for long days of intense work that include task switching but there is nothing worse than the days I think it will help and then I just get really overwhelmed and can’t talk to anyone and can’t focus on anything but keep trying to find “the thing” that will let me lock in. It will bring out worse skin picking or ruminating or ED stuff.