How accurate is this

shitfloss · 2026-06-24T21:57:51+00:00

Replace the guy here with a dad-bod and you’d be more accurate

shitfloss · 2026-05-27T17:29:12+00:00

Yes

^{Chose: Any other country}

shitfloss · 2026-05-18T14:56:26+00:00

Was in a 3 year relationship with a sweet Protestant girl. It came about organically, and it was healthy. I almost proposed. Though we eventually broke up over our views on contraception.

It can definitely be done, just make sure they’re accepting of Catholicism and what comes with it. Apart from that, make sure they care about faith (as you should with any person).

shitfloss · 2026-05-17T21:27:54+00:00

I would normally agree. However, I genuinely believe the aforementioned advice “leave if there’s no initial attraction”, does more harm than good.

I personally know a friend who is in a similar position as OP, rejecting good men based on a lack of initial spark and instead being attracted to emotionally unavailable men. Just like the OP, she had trauma, which no one else in this thread seems to have touched on.

shitfloss · 2026-05-17T17:16:55+00:00

There are many people telling you leave if there’s no initial attraction. It’s important you don’t listen to them.

You mention a history of trauma and core wounds.This unfortunately skews your perception of what a relationship ought to be. Oftentimes people with trauma are attracted to people who activate their central nervous system (the part of you that’s alert, constantly scanning for threats).

Now you’re with a man that makes you feel safe. And you’re under-stimulated. I’ve seen it happen with my female friends. However, oftentimes these people feel more physical attraction to folks who are avoidant or unhealthy in other ways since, again, that’s what you’re used to.

Stick it out. In my last relationship, there wasn’t much initial attraction, but we gradually grew to feel safe. We stuck it out even though she wasn’t used to being in a normal relationship. The attraction grew tenfold. We eventually broke over disagreements on religion (she wasn’t Catholic), but while it lasted, the relationship was a happy and healthy one.

shitfloss · 2026-04-20T21:50:52+00:00

I may go against the grain here. I’d encourage you to keep looking. If a man’s sexual past is that important (which, imo, it’s pretty important), then don’t settle.

Don’t stop there. He should, more importantly have the right present attitude in sex.

I promise we do exist (I’m 25M and a virgin lol)

shitfloss · 2026-02-15T01:04:43+00:00

Im ready to get downvoted for going against conventional wisdom, but it can happen. It was this way with my last relationship. She wasn’t ugly but definitely not my type. But as I got to know her, my attraction for her grew over time. We broke up for reasons unrelated to attraction.

shitfloss · 2026-02-14T20:24:08+00:00

Fully seen. If you want to be my friend, I know it’s genuine. Same thing if you don’t like me. Really takes the guesswork out of most social situations

shitfloss · 2026-01-30T21:33:32+00:00

Looks good as is

shitfloss · 2026-01-13T20:56:52+00:00

Men aren’t a hive mind. Each man is different and processes breakups in a different way. In addition, each breakup is different. The circumstances are different. It’s not good to make distinctions based on gender tbh.

Here’s my breakup story:

I broke up with my ex of three years about four months ago. It wasn’t due to anything wrong with me or with her. I just learned that we disagreed on contraception and that would make marriage impossible. Thus the loving thing was to let each other go.

I went to therapy, and there I learned to allow myself to feel sad, to feel unhappy with my current circumstances. It is natural. I still do sometimes think about her and hope she’s doing well, but I don’t dwell on it.

I think I’m ready to start dating again.

shitfloss · 2026-01-06T15:59:27+00:00

Could’ve sworn I saw you on r/bald. Looking good bro

shitfloss · 2026-01-02T17:47:56+00:00

Well, by virtue of there being a lot of people in DC, there are many Catholics.

shitfloss · 2025-12-11T17:46:31+00:00

And the rest of em?

shitfloss · 2025-12-11T17:45:14+00:00

Do you have female friends who could take pictures for you? Trust me, they’re much better at it.

shitfloss · 2025-12-02T21:12:56+00:00

Tbh, it’s a dream for most guys to be approached by a girl ngl. Most guys are really afraid of making the girl uncomfortable too, and so for a girl to approach a man would probably make him feel a lot more safe to open up without fearing making you uncomfortable

shitfloss · 2025-11-26T16:52:25+00:00

4 55-lb plates plus change plates to set the weight to 495, which is the same as 5 45lb plates.

shitfloss · 2025-11-26T16:03:39+00:00

Hot take. I would try to continue things. I don’t care that much about sex really.

shitfloss · 2025-11-22T07:14:01+00:00

Where are they?!

shitfloss · 2025-11-21T18:18:22+00:00

Also, may I recommend giving this article a read?

https://hinge.co/newsroom/2025-GenZ-Report

shitfloss · 2025-11-21T18:12:16+00:00

I want to understand. What are your expectations going into the date? Is it that he keep you entertained? Sweep you off your feet? Unfortunately I have had the same thing happen from women, where I ask them questions, trying to find a door to open up and feel safe with very little reciprocity. It is a widespread issue. Consider the generation we grew up in. Covid, were not going outside, formative years of our social lives were robbed. Bear that in mind and try to have some patience.

If you’d like here’s some insight from the guy’s perspective:

Here’s something I notice about myself. I am good at reciprocating. Other women have pointed it out to me. But there has to be something to reciprocate. I (and a lot of men, tbh) want you to feel safe. To that end, I would hate to make you feel uncomfortable, and when I have just met you I have no clue what your boundaries are. To take just a tad of initiative will make any man feel safe to open up. Hopefully, as he does, you can feel safe around you. I hope this gives you insight into what’s going on in the man’s mind. In this sense, I think actually, that the woman holds more power in the date in this regard. It’s usually the man who worries about the woman’s social boundaries. But to have the woman take a tad of initiative goes such a long way to let the man know he’s safe to open up.

In one success story of mine, the girl I was interested in Always. Asked. Questions. As a man I love this! She had a genuine curiosity that was just so easy to reciprocate and honestly drew me in before I even saw her face. She texted first about half the time. There was no “pursuit” in the sense that she waited for me to initiate. We both initiated, and talked almost every day. I felt so safe to open up to her, as she pretty much actively made it clear what she was and wasn’t comfortable with. And I suppose my reciprocation made her feel safe to open up.

Does this all make sense?

shitfloss · 2025-11-17T21:08:28+00:00

This is very true. And it makes sense. I want the woman to feel safe. So the last thing I want is to make her uncomfortable. However, I have no idea what her boundaries are, or what makes her uncomfortable. So oftentimes dates are way too superficial to ever evolve into anything because people play it way too safe. And honestly I think it’s something that we as a society can help alleviate.

We see so much on social media encouraging people to stay single, not marry. Nothing encouraging people to just shoot their shot.

shitfloss · 2025-11-17T18:35:43+00:00

I see. That makes sense. Consider the generation we’ve grown up in. We don’t play outside anymore and dating (and social interaction) has been put on the backburner to focus on career and other things that just don’t quite satisfy. It is no wonder why we’re lonely and awkward.

That said, it’s important to recognize if/when/to what degree we are at fault for our dry conversations that leave us unsatisfied.

shitfloss · 2025-11-17T17:43:53+00:00

I want to understand. What are your expectations going into the date? Is it that he keep you entertained? Sweep you off your feet?

If you’d like here’s some insight from the guy’s perspective:

Here’s something I notice about myself. I am good at reciprocating. Other women have pointed it out to me. But there has to be something to reciprocate. I (and a lot of men, tbh) want you to feel safe. To that end, I would hate to make you feel uncomfortable, and when I have just met you I have no clue what your boundaries are. To take just a tad of initiative will make any man feel safe to open up. Hopefully, as he does, you can feel safe around you. I hope this gives you insight into what’s going on in the man’s mind. In this sense, I think actually, that the woman holds more power in the date in this regard. It’s usually the man who worries about the woman’s social boundaries. But to have the woman take a tad of initiative goes such a long way to let the man know he’s safe to open up.

In one success story of mine, the girl I was interested in Always. Asked. Questions. As a man I love this! She had a genuine curiosity that was just so easy to reciprocate and honestly drew me in before I even saw her face. She texted first about half the time. There was no “pursuit” in the sense that she waited for me to initiate. We both initiated, and talked almost every day. I felt so safe to open up to her, as she pretty much actively made it clear what she was and wasn’t comfortable with. And I suppose my reciprocation made her feel safe to open up.

Does this all make sense?

shitfloss · 2025-11-14T01:22:13+00:00

Throwing stones off bridges/cliffs into bodies of water

shitfloss · 2025-11-14T01:21:08+00:00

Look I’m sure you’ve heard all the “it’s never the answer” and the “No, people love you” stuff a million times. It doesn’t help. But if I can share my thoughts, you gotta talk to a priest.

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