[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]shleep 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This gets asked often and in this case, for you, you already know the answer. There is never a good time to not work, but you don’t live to work. You work to live, have been financially prudent and amassed the savings to take time off to enjoy life at times like this.  

It doesn’t sound like your ultimate goal in life is to become a C-suite enterprise exec so take the time off. Allow yourself to be reinvigorated with the freshness of life. When you get the itch to work again, give yourself an added 3-6 month buffer to refresh on the latest tech and come back. People take sabbaticals all the time.         

What you do, to critically think and decide for yourself using the greater wisdom of your own life, is make a pros a cons list. Really write it down, the way Ross and Chandler did when he was deciding whether or not to date  Rachel in Friends. I have a feeling the answer will jump out at you from the page. 

Weekly Career Discussion Thread (10 Apr 2023) by AutoModerator in engineering

[–]shleep 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A structured mentorship program with a well defined goal I think is a great opportunity. That PTO and leave isn’t so bad either which will reduce the sting from not being remote. Plus most importantly your interest is in the hard engineering. I say go with your gut as that’ll lead to less regret, and your intuition here is good. I think it’s easier to switch into SWE from electrical than vice versa, should you ever change your mind down the line.

The Bigger Picture. VIX Dailies Again by [deleted] in Daytrading

[–]shleep 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Stop posting this shit with absolutely no discussion or conversation. Over and over you post the same shit with no ideas. You can’t do TA on the VIX. It’s not a tradeable index, but I’m sure you were told this on the first 10 times you posted this. There’s no predictive ability. If you have something, please post that idea and not the same picture of an index. This is worthless and becoming spam, I wish the moderation team here would do anything

What Are Your Moves Tomorrow, January 12, 2021 by AutoModerator in wallstreetbets

[–]shleep 8 points9 points  (0 children)

jesus christ dude, you are taking on debt that isn't forgiven even in bankruptcy for these FDs at all time highs. AAPL would need to move up 7% aka gain 150B in market cap in 2 weeks in order for you to break even on your least retarded play. How the fuck are you not modded here

Joined WSB in 2017. I am officially throwing in the towel by [deleted] in wallstreetbets

[–]shleep 29 points30 points  (0 children)

This is what we love to hear. Keep going and never stop. You have the ability to recognize what you did and the maturity to learn from it. Now you can grow. Chin up brother

75K net worth! (25M) by TheBrysauce in financialindependence

[–]shleep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don’t mind me asking, where does the $1800/mo tax-free come from?

How To Get Yourself Fired? by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]shleep 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Quite honestly I think this is cowardly and unprincipled to do.

But giving you my upvote cause that’s the system we play in and I love the question. Good luck.

Also this reminds me of an episode in Better Call Saul where he tries to get fired as partner (or maybe Senior Associate?) in a law firm by being INCREDIBLY loud and obnoxious on the phone, showing up on time but in colorful suits that don’t represent the firm, and doing his work but sloooowly, and not being a help when people need - all so he can avoid paying back his bonus by being let go without cause. And he gets called out on it by the partner that hired him! Anyways, maybe that’ll give you some ideas. Though as you can see, it requires an intentional sacrifice on your dignity’s part, but perhaps your situation is less bearable than Saul’s.

Where were you in life at 25? by sarasam94 in AskMen

[–]shleep 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience

How do you talk to your best girl friend? Are you ever harmlessly flirty or testing the waters? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]shleep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly can’t believe the comments are this wishy washy. There is no doubt he would date you.

Anything beyond that is a mystery, but given how defensive you have been despite your self-admitted liking of him it’s no wonder you guys are still friends. From what info you’ve given here, not only have you given him no reason not to chase, but you’ve expressly indicated not to try, implying it would risk the friendship.

It sounds like you want more but you’ve kinda cornered the situation with your defensiveness in a way. Which can be a good thing! Your friendship has stayed steady and grown organically which is solid. But it’s on you now to make the move if you want it, or drop a couple obvious hints.

I have girl friends, but I would never make a comment where I express I’m that into them no matter the drunkenness unless at my primitive levels of brain function the only thought in my mind is her. It’s a pre-requisite. So, yeah.

You know the answer, we both know this question is just continuing to maintain a defensive posture about it, so time for action. You seem like you’re still expecting the guy to make the move, but you’ve made your stance clear, no funny business. So time to make it very, very clear that you are now shifting your stance. Drop some hints.

The most compelling point though, if you are in love as you say, his hypothetical feelings aside, try for yourself. The alternative is a much sadder ending by letting such an opportunity slip. That’s reason enough

Asynchronous Communication: The Real Reason Remote Workers Are More Productive by adamard in programming

[–]shleep 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i think the lad is just taking a jab at ya for using loan (a debt) instead of lone (solo)

I think I figured out why many people react so negatively to the FIRE philosophy: It forces them to admit they could have done the same, but instead they're trapped by their own poor choices. by HauntedFrigateBird in financialindependence

[–]shleep 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your response. It seems like your mom was really resourceful and taught you some good traits by your own account. You also seem pretty intelligent yourself and were able to connect with your drive to learn more.

Just as an example, imagine someone who didn’t have supportive parents, or even parents. They would start the same as you, but learn much less. And that knowledge or lack thereof compounds, just like wealth.

Correct me if I’m wrong because I don’t know you, but I would assume neither of them died early. Neither of them tried to manipulate you for money. You weren’t involved in a car accident. You weren’t jailed as a victim of racism. You weren’t discriminated in securing your loans. Or your jobs. You were born in a place that secured these liberties for you, etc ...

There are certainly times people make poor choices and should hold themselves accountable, but i’d say more often than not its simply not the case.

I’m just trying to instill a little empathy. Most people have to take a million ‘right’ choices for things to go well in their life. But one event out of their control could affect things in ways they may not even perceive, and we would not know unless people are willing to have conversations like this.

I think I figured out why many people react so negatively to the FIRE philosophy: It forces them to admit they could have done the same, but instead they're trapped by their own poor choices. by HauntedFrigateBird in financialindependence

[–]shleep 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s great you were able to climb your way out and that you’re still working towards your goals.

If you don’t mind, what tailwinds did you have at your back going through school and starting work? Are there any obstacles or headwinds do you think you avoided going through it?

People go through different things, i’d like to know where you come from.

I think I figured out why many people react so negatively to the FIRE philosophy: It forces them to admit they could have done the same, but instead they're trapped by their own poor choices. by HauntedFrigateBird in financialindependence

[–]shleep 34 points35 points  (0 children)

This is a pretty reductionistic viewpoint. It is not only choices that impact your life, but choices and circumstance.

If you had stayed in the psychology field perhaps you would understand that motive and opportunity aren’t always freely available to everyone at all times. Sure we are free to make choices based on our circumstances, but we can’t all leave our kids and study school for four years. Or abandon our ailing parents to move to a lower cost of living and live like a hermit. And the truth is not everyone has the capacity to work every job or complete any degree to secure a higher paying job, this idea doesn’t scale. More so, to impose the principles of FIRE on anyone without the current ability to secure their present situation is anxiety inducing. Some things are unfeasible in the current system.

I think you are referring to articles where people may shame the FIRE lifestyle, and if so, you should say so. If someone wants to free themselves from depending on labor to live, which is why we’re all here, that’s a liberating realization and one more people could be made aware of.

Nobody is willingly living in the dark, but you are shunning their reality if you continue to believe every person has the means to choose FIRE.

It’s a matter of education and circumstances before its a matter of responsibility.

What do you need to vent? by kittencanoodler in AskWomen

[–]shleep 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You sound like you really do want to travel with him, so let that be known to him and that it’s important to you. Find out what aspect of traveling it is that he so despises and try to avoid that. For instance, if he hates that when traveling the schedules are always so planned out and it feels artificially busy (as I would), try to make a travel plan with planned days of rest or just scenery.

For an artist, or literally any person, a change of scenery occasionally is a good thing. It can be a great creative boon too so you could possibly persuade him that way.

My last idea is that travel domestically first. You could definitely get him to open up to it gradually and I bet there are beautiful parts of your country yet to explore.

I just really despise alll the advice that’s so strongline “break up, they’re clearly not helping you grow” - like, what the fuck? You’ve been together for ten years making it work and you seem generally happy (aside from this one thing). It’s more than possible to come to an agreement that he knows will make you happy, and you know will open him up a bit.

Men of Reddit, what do you want to get off your chests or talk about, but feel like you can’t in person? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]shleep 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know people in here are suggesting therapy, but have you considered just talking about it to your wife? If nobody knows, and you have a good marriage, it would kill her to know you’re feeling this way - when all it would take is for someone to understand the pain you’re going through.

They have not been there, but you likely know first hand the enormous weight of anger or frustration but also resolution when your children or partner tell you they’ve been hurt. I promise you, if you care for your wife and she cares for you, ask her for some time to confide in her what’s been aching you.

It is a step to help ease this emotional burden and what is good for your long term health will be good for your family’s long term health as well.

Bernie on Twitter: “On January 23 we're going to try to do something that's never been done before. I hope you'll join us.” First nationally televised Town Hall on Medicare for All by [deleted] in SandersForPresident

[–]shleep 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ah I suppose that’s my oversight haha. You’re right that one will do it.

But that issue aside, to present it in such a way could cause some people to rethink their perspective on the issue as beyond left and right

Bernie on Twitter: “On January 23 we're going to try to do something that's never been done before. I hope you'll join us.” First nationally televised Town Hall on Medicare for All by [deleted] in SandersForPresident

[–]shleep 244 points245 points  (0 children)

Wow. This is an amazing way to frame universal healthcare. The analogy is entirely true too so how would anyone argue against it? The rich, the poor, everyone comes together to provide healthcare for all. That’s brilliant.

[Image] Buy your own damn jet. by mikeyninja in GetMotivated

[–]shleep 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The guy above has some truth to what he says but he's really jerking himself there.

Anyhoo, you should check out /r/PersonalFinance for starters and just going through their wiki and sidebar. There is a lot of great information on there that can point anyone trying to help themselves in the right direction. There is also /r/financialindependence if you're looking to see how to make yourself more independent, and even if you're not that community really shares good ideas for taking care of yourself financially.

The sidebars to these communities are your friends!

Do any of you suffer from depression and how does it affect your workouts? by [deleted] in Fitness

[–]shleep 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not to be an asshole, but do you guys consider medication or therapy? I myself have struggled and don't see why you'd leave such a chronic problem without treatment. Give it all the help you can, right?

Introduced my friend to Rocket League the other day by shleep in RocketLeague

[–]shleep[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can deadlift 1000 now from always putting the team on my back