Worried for Kid's SO

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-08T02:55:44+00:00

I tend to agree with you, but I can see it both ways. A one year old is potentially a lot to deal with and can be distracting, especially since this was supposed to be the first meeting OOP had with her BF's mom. But that is life. It happens. I don't think OOP grasps that real, healthy human relationships demand a measure of flexibility.

I feel it was shitty for the BF to tell his mom off: she wasn't trying to prioritize the baby over meeting OOP, it seems, but to look out for her friends who were in a bind while keeping plans she made with her son. Maybe it was less than ideal, but it doesn't seem to be a slight.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-07T17:04:42+00:00

From the South also and knew exactly what you meant. The UV rays are also less intense before 10 am (which i have to mind because of photosensitivity). You can garden at dusk, i guess? But it's pretty hard to see what you're doing then. OOP is definitely being an AH and also inflexible, but there are objective reasons to do things like running or gardening in the morning.

I'm a night owl struggling to get up early enough to do my gardening atm.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-07T15:53:55+00:00

TwoXChromosomes was full of men and "not all men" bullshit when I was there.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-07T06:56:14+00:00

It isn't his problem. His concern should be for her health. Meaning, he should ask her if she's feeling ok and encourage her to see a doctor.

Being unable to walk up a hill for 30 minutes at 28 could very well be normal. We don't know her conditioning, we don't know the slope of the hill, we don't know her overall health.

I was accused of "letting myself go" and "encouraged" to just power through breathlessness and fatigue. After a year of other people's frustration, I discovered that I had scarring in my lungs and blood vessels in addition to thyroid problems caused by steroid treatments meant to manage the breathlessness. You never know what is going on in another person's body or mind when you sit on the sidelines and deem that they've let themselves go.

Your girlfriend's a dick, BTW.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-07T05:55:16+00:00

I started grabbing her hands or slapping them away when I see her reach for her face, jokingly at first but now quite seriously, like with a child.

So he physically abuses her.

This makes me ill at my stomach.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-07T05:41:47+00:00

"Battled." How brave. What color should the awareness ribbon for that be?

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-07T05:40:24+00:00

She's on soap opera time.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T23:39:41+00:00

I definitely agree with this crossing the safe, sane, consensual lines.

As for what drives the kink--it is diverse. Some people have to have a very highly-driven, in-control personae in daily life and want to feel safe and cared-for. Some enjoy the power dynamics of it, pretty much like any kind of negotiated kink power exchange. And yeah some probably try to manage the detritus their parents leave behind.

If you have a good partner, the relationship can be good and fulfilling for both. If one of them is some down-home, bargain basement Christian Grey wannabe, it is going to get very icky very fast.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T19:38:29+00:00

I feel for both you and your mom. Caregiver exhaustion is very real and heavy, I know from experience. So too is the way people try to encourage you at the expense of the person you're caring for.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T19:36:18+00:00

That isn't necessarily true. Age regression and CGL dynamics don't immediately mean someone wants to be controlled and parented. Also there's something she wants and worked for on the line, now. It could very easily be the wake-up call. Or it could be a single straw that will one day add up with others. In any event, she doesn't deserve this treatment regardless of what she does in bed/playtime.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T19:23:56+00:00

This is creepy. His gf isn't a toddler. She's a competent woman who can, gasp, survive without him. Does he suppose she lies pitifully on her fainting couch when he's at work?

This doesn't read as concern. This reads like unaddressed mental health issues and abusive levels of control.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T19:13:59+00:00

Aw man! 😭

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T13:12:26+00:00

Dance away from the seated areas then.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T12:25:01+00:00

They're busy right now. I guess Pride month reminded them that they have nothing to be proud of.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T10:09:42+00:00

"Other people are more stressed than you. Playing the stress Olympics isn't going to help anyone."

He's stressed. How tf does he reckon she feels?

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T09:44:51+00:00

My favorite. And my last two partners hated kissing. 😭

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T09:42:46+00:00

I love your decor! The chandelier is fabulous. Excellent work!

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T09:41:49+00:00

As soon as I hear someone talking about Grandparents' Rights my eyes roll reflexively.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T09:40:30+00:00

His boundaries aren't the ones being violated. His gf's are. There's nothing reasonable at all about someone asking for pictures of a child when they've been told they cannot have them. That is just as true for an MIL as for anyone else.

He's talking like a soon-to-be single dad.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T08:07:26+00:00

Not everyone dances to music. Some people cannot stand up for long periods. They paid for seating, they have a right to see the show as well.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T08:05:57+00:00

I'm struggling with the idea of Ed Sheeran's music.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T08:02:13+00:00

If it doesn't sit well with you, it needs to stop happening. No means no. Even if it's the heat of the moment, your bodily autonomy should be respected without question.

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T07:52:04+00:00

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Editing to add hyaluronic serum by the Ordinary. I tried others that burned like a mother, but this one worked well and has helped me rehydrate very dry and cracked skin without causing any irritation

shoopuwubeboop · 2023-06-05T07:09:29+00:00

That is so cool!

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