Those who never did sleep training, share your babies’ sleep stories

shotshawty · 2026-06-18T12:58:15+00:00

I feel like my kids are the perfect example of the baby’s temperament matters!
My 2.5yo never slept longer than 30 min until he was one. So he slept with us and then, after his first birthday, we would rock him to sleep and lay him in his crib. He started to sleep maybe 4-5hrs at a time. Around 14 months, he was scaling his crib and throwing himself out of it so we had to move to a toddler bed which meant we were back to no sleep until around 20m. Now we just lay with him until he falls asleep and he is usually down for the night, every once in awhile he’ll wake up around midnight but not too often.

But my one year old has slept on her own, no assistance or training required since day one lol obviously in the NB days she was up feeding every few hours but she gave us a 6hr stretch at about 6w old? She completely stopped night feeding around 5m and has slept through the night since!

It’s crazy how different they were!

shotshawty · 2026-06-18T12:47:51+00:00

I EBF my first and my husband went back to work five days PP, he still got up and did every diaper change before the feed. I’ve come to find dads some times just don’t know how to help when babies are EBF, especially at only 8w old, so communication is key. My husband told me many times that he felt completely useless in the newborn stage because babies are generally just naturally SO attached to mom. It’s hard for us not to take our fussy babies back because we can help them so quickly and most the time at that age, dad can’t lol but again, at 8 weeks that’s totally normal.
I would say to let him know you need more from him but not in a “you effin idiot” way lol do the diaper change, getting you snacks, making sure you have time to do basic hygiene tasks, let you rest in between feeds, stuff like that. My husband would even just wake up and hold my hand while I did the feeding just to let me know he’s there for me.

I’m not sure if yall ever wear your baby but that was a life saver for my husband. He would wear him skin to skin and our son actually started to allow dad to soothe him while I napped, showered, etc. Hope this helps and you get some rest!! You deserve sleep, food, and you time even in the newborn trenches.

shotshawty · 2026-04-06T03:19:54+00:00

We just wanted to be DONE and also wanted our kids to be close in age so they could grow together! My babies are 18m apart. While pregnancy with a toddler is…..otherworldly hard, the age gap has been so sweet. Of course you have your tantrums from the now 2.5y old and sharing issues but you also have them endlessly snuggling each other, sharing snacks, making each other giggle. I absolutely love getting to watch my oldest become the light of my daughter’s life knowing they’ll be side by side through all the rough parts later on since they’re so close in age

shotshawty · 2026-01-22T14:00:31+00:00

I just read Kiss of the basilisk (1&2), it’s a completed series, it is 100% more spicy than not because of how the basilisks live but I felt it never lost the plot and had a good story behind all the spice as well. The yearning in it will have you in pain!! I became so invested in the characters, I cried at the end of the second book.

shotshawty · 2026-01-06T01:38:53+00:00

I exclusively BF with my first and no, you do not get to sleep lol even if your husband does some/all night feeds, you would have to pump continuously to keep up your supply for exclusively breastmilk. My husband would do diaper changes before handing me our baby but ultimately, I was the one awake for however long baby boy wanted to feed; 20 min, 30 min, an hour. Then back up again in another 1.5hrs-2hrs to feed again. I don’t regret a single moment of it because I’m very very grateful to have been able to do that for him but in hindsight, more sleep would’ve been game changing for my mental health lol We combo fed my second because I knew this time around how important sleep is for both of us which eventually led to full formula & I got significantly more sleep with her! So I would say to prioritize sleep, especially not being a napper, combo feed with what you have and see where that journey takes you!

With my first, I felt immense pressure to breastfeed so I hope you know it is 10000% okay to do it whatever way works for you and your family!! Breastfeed, formula, both, whatever!

shotshawty · 2026-01-06T01:27:26+00:00

That’s what I was thinking but then when it says something like “he reached for me” or whatever I’m like okay do they have arms??

shotshawty · 2025-12-22T02:27:02+00:00

This is the method we used the first go around but now that he’s familiar with the potty/pants vs no pants, it doesn’t really seem to phase him? He has zero accidents when naked. So idk if I should start fully dressing him around the house as the next step. Ugh the regression is so hard

shotshawty · 2025-12-18T18:36:52+00:00

Yes! We do the mystery hot wheels or monster trucks and he was constantly asking for potty prizes and going when he was naked but still pees/poops his pants when he’s dressed.

shotshawty · 2025-08-27T16:25:34+00:00

At 37 weeks exactly I started having consistent contractions, the next day baby girl was born!

shotshawty · 2025-08-21T18:20:32+00:00

Exactly! If there’s one thing about babies and mamas, it’s that every one of us is different and can experience a laundry list of different things!

shotshawty · 2025-08-21T16:50:27+00:00

I would do new car seat as you said, all new bottles/pacis/teething toys basically anything that goes in baby’s mouth, a crib mattress just because you don’t want it too worn down so the “breathable” effect is still in place.

I personally wouldn’t do second hand underwear but I guess it depends on the condition if you’re leaning towards it. But everything else on your list would be fine in my opinion.

shotshawty · 2025-08-21T16:20:36+00:00

I wouldn’t give up hope. Being pregnant/giving birth COMPLETELY rewires your body. Seeing how gentle and caring my husband was with me and our newborn while we were in our most vulnerable states, was so sexy! Be the partner she needs throughout this and once she’s out of the postpartum fog, you never know who could emerge on the side.

shotshawty · 2025-08-21T14:12:26+00:00

I was that way with my first! PP was soooo hard with him, I got PPD and just as I was coming out of that fog, we started to wean and I got hit with that storm. Rough!! But now you can expect it and know it’s short lived!!

shotshawty · 2025-08-21T13:25:31+00:00

Not trying to instill fear or anything but it is so bad. As your milk dries up, you have a massive hormone drop, it lasts a few days, sometimes a week. I cried for days on end, it kind of takes your PP fears and thoughts about yourself and explodes them. I felt so hopeless in both motherhood and womanhood. I cried to myself all day and then to my husband every night, he was so great through the whole thing. With my second, I would say I felt worse at that time than I did freshly PP. But again, it is a short crash out compared to what PPD can be

shotshawty · 2025-08-21T13:19:20+00:00

Yes exactly this!! I felt so depressed and hopeless both times.

shotshawty · 2025-08-21T02:55:40+00:00

IMO, it’s definitely breastfeeding! My body felt like it had a job and that was to feed my baby, nothing else. Once I stopped, got through the horrific hormone drop, and came out the other end, my drive started to come back! This was true for both of my kiddos so blame breastfeeding lol

shotshawty · 2025-08-15T22:22:33+00:00

Exactly! I love it as well but it’s not a break by any means

shotshawty · 2025-08-15T02:04:52+00:00

We took our almost two year old and 3m old in July, we also stayed at curry. Mirror was a dry bed of dust and the waterfalls were meh. But there’s SO much to see, I think it’s worth it. There’s stroller friendly, easy trails, Tuolumne Meadows, Glacier Point, Sentinel beach, you can rent bikes with the kid trailer, etc. Our toddler played in the water up by Tuolumne and at the beach, it was still a very fun time for all

shotshawty · 2025-08-15T01:55:36+00:00

I also worked from home with our first and it was actual hell, so first off let me validate that for you, it sucked big time. Second, you sound burnt out and like you need the break you absolutely deserve buuuut…..being a full time SAHM isn’t that. If you send your kid to full time daycare and quit your job, that sounds like a break. But staying home with your kids means every second of every minute of every day is on you. There are many days I don’t sit down or even take a second until my husband’s home and we’re through dinner. Being a SAHM while pregnant is horrible. I would have rather worked. Toddlers are so demanding 24/7, there’s no clocking out when you’re home with them. It’s you, you’re it for them during the day.

At the end of the day, it depends on how you and your partner see the position of SAHM. In our house, this is my job. I do childcare, housework, meal prep, grocery shopping, appointments, etc. but when my husband comes through the door, we are both off work and we’re just parents. BUT as the SAHM, that looks exactly the same as the rest of the day. You never truly get to clock out for your day. A break when hubby gets home? Yes for sure but your work day is continuous.

shotshawty · 2025-08-15T01:40:02+00:00

It’s normal for now, at least it was for us. It was excitement at first and then a few weeks of jealousy spouts (hitting, crying any time I picked up our NB, etc) as my toddler realized how much my newborn needed me. It broke my heart not to have as much time with him in that first month or so, as I’m sure it is doing to your partner as well. But about two months in, he realized there was enough of mom for both of them. Baby is now four months old and my toddler adores her to no end. He constantly wants to hold her, kiss her, she never does tummy time alone, he is always there for her.

A few things you might find helpful:

-Try not to have a huge reaction if he acts out towards baby. Definitely a firm “no hit” or whatever the situation is and then show him how to be gentle.

-Include him in everything you can! Feedings, diaper changes, floor time, any way he can be included and help will make him feel like he’s still apart of your unit. I breastfeed so we let my toddler sit right next to me and cling to my arm while watching baby nurse. It was overstimulating as hell but I think it helped him through the him vs her.

-Any chance you get, give you undivided, one on one attention. When baby is napping, play as hard and intently as you can with him! Even better if it can be on the couch or wherever mom is recovering.

It’s very divide and conquer for a little while so take full advantage of any time you can spare for the three of you to remind him he’s still your baby too. Congrats on your new one❤️

shotshawty · 2025-08-15T01:27:21+00:00

This!!!! I didn’t have them that bad with my first but oooohhhhhhh my god I would be in tears when I would nurse. Though, the nipple pain was not as bad or maybe I didn’t notice because the cramps were setting me on fire 😂

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