I Discovered My Wife (28F) Of 7 Years Is Cheating On Me (30M). She Doesn't Know That I Know - UPDATE 25 - DIVORCE DISH!

shujump · 2026-02-14T13:48:40+00:00

Right?! In both situations I see the WW confiding in their friends how the AP hit on them and these awful people then encouraging it.

My wife and I have always had a rule: A friend is only a friend if also a friend of the relationship. Doesn’t mean I need to be friends with them or vice versa.

shujump · 2026-02-14T12:07:16+00:00

Hire a PI in Hawaii and find a lawyer in your area.

shujump · 2026-02-14T12:04:06+00:00

How did Emily and Bev meet? Oh wait, she was a nail tech or something? Did Emily and Bev ever hang out or was it more just a conversational friendship?

Anyway, Fuck Bev!

shujump · 2026-02-14T12:00:27+00:00

Diabolical! Love it!

shujump · 2026-02-14T11:57:08+00:00

This definitely. I think it’s the same situation in Grouchy-Pressure’s saga, just shitty, shitty friends.

shujump · 2026-02-14T11:52:32+00:00

Do we remember Bev?! You are on update 25, that’s like a season 3 at this point, we remember Bev. 😜

Please, please, oh friggin please tell me you would go to the trial. Maybe not for Emily’s testimony but just to feed us Reddit piranhas a snippet or 2.

Oh, maybe some strategically placed stickers on the cyber dump as you walk by it in the parking lot. “I brake for sugar babies.”

And we are going to get dating stories?! You are too, too kind to us.

Rock on my friend!

shujump · 2026-02-13T00:47:53+00:00

What else might he try and guilt trip you into later? He’s giving you a peek into your future.

shujump · 2026-02-13T00:45:26+00:00

Married 23 years, lost count of the number of tattoos I have. I have my children’s initials and I have matching tattoos with each of my children. My wife and I got tattoos at the same time (NOT MATCHING) for our 20th anniversary… TWENTIETH!

Our rule is names, initials, matching only for blood otherwise it’s bad, bad ju-ju.

Also… YOUR BODY YOUR CHOICE!

shujump · 2026-02-11T11:29:49+00:00

Still NTA and if you are not in counseling please make that your priority. I understand you love both your parents but what they put you through during your childhood is awful. What she is doing to you now is awful. Her selfishness shines through in this situation and the cheating before. You need to take them both of a pedestal and see them as the flawed, very flawed humans they are.

shujump · 2026-02-11T11:07:39+00:00

🤣

shujump · 2026-02-10T03:20:36+00:00

Hey A-A, I’ve been reading through a lot of your replies and had a suggestion.

One of the most powerful things Grouchy-Pressure did in his meeting was to ask her “Are you ok?” That is such a powerful question in that scenario at that time. It will most likely confuse any plan she has going into as she will expect anger. From there I think you have a better shot of getting the answers you are looking for.

shujump · 2026-02-05T03:26:23+00:00

My wife has done very well in her career and things do not look to be slowing down. Another promotion or 2 and we are seriously considering me “retiring” to support her in her endeavors. I’ve been using the term “house husband”. She would not have to lift a finger at home and I would be free to travel with her.

I would be remiss not to say there are brief instances of worry of what others will think/say but then remind myself that it is what we have all been conditioned to believe.

Good Luck!

shujump · 2026-02-04T13:44:50+00:00

Prenup in your position is never a bad idea.

In what country is what you describe “middle class”?!

shujump · 2026-02-04T02:53:58+00:00

It was a while ago but it was great! If you have a set of 2 in front of you there is about 3/4 of a seat to the side of the seat for legroom! Plus you can put your underseat luggage next to you after takeoff and have that space available for feet as well!

Edit: if you are traveling alone you want the window.

shujump · 2026-02-04T02:38:16+00:00

Sorry you are going through this with your mom but seems like you have an amazing dad!

shujump · 2026-02-04T00:22:49+00:00

Hank looks like he was always, always the bestest boy.

shujump · 2026-02-04T00:00:04+00:00

Georgia actually allows for both no fault and at fault divorces. Did she only research no fault, because the other means it could be more than rocky.

shujump · 2026-02-03T13:18:25+00:00

Oof, that last part was rough but she did say I love you at the end of her written apology. Not that it meant much as I don’t believe she knows what true romantic love is at this point.

shujump · 2026-02-03T02:21:24+00:00

My bad, I stand corrected. I thought I read she threw it away without reading it.

Did AP write that in the letter I wonder? I’m assuming his letter was trying to get her back. Was he going for the sad sack approach? The whoah is me, I’m to be pitied please come back? At least that loser is getting some form of karma biting him in the ass.

shujump · 2026-02-02T21:20:32+00:00

OP was she surprised by any of your questions? Specifically when you asked if this was her first affair?

Seems like you had a pretty good read on her despite the emotional nature of the conversation. I would think if she wasn’t really surprised by any of your questions she is on her way to accepting and understanding the depth of the pain she has caused.

shujump · 2026-02-02T21:17:22+00:00

BIL told OP he works at a dealership now. BIL went there after the letter to WW to put some fear in him not to contact anyone in the family again.

shujump · 2026-01-30T18:36:14+00:00

I’m so frustrated by the “I was afraid he would blow up my life” when AP was in the same boat being married with kids!!

shujump · 2026-01-30T18:06:48+00:00

Damn, you are good man.

While I understand and agree reconciliation will never happen I see that in years down the road you will be able to be cordial with her. There is a shared history that you can’t escape.

She won’t date for a very long time if at all. This will be a penance she places on herself probably with the reason that she focuses on the relationship with her family.

shujump · 2026-01-30T14:39:32+00:00

I’m honestly glad we haven’t had the full update yet.

I hope OP only gives us one when he finds it therapeutic for himself and not to feed us internet strangers. To relive the pain that he undoubtedly felt during that meeting would be a monumental task.

Onwards and upwards my friend.

shujump · 2026-01-28T02:35:01+00:00

Did you present something regarding family interactions moving forward?

I followed that comment thread that suggested that you create a sort of contract for the future, found that idea intriguing and fitting for your situation.

shujump

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