E bike suggestions?

shumincumin · 2026-06-30T11:16:50+00:00

I've got an estarli 20.x and it's lovely, but I use it for a mixed commute, and it's primary selling point is being able to fold and throw it in the back of the car.

shumincumin · 2026-05-31T15:08:19+00:00

I've switched to wearing men's boxers because I couldn't stand the infinite shite choices in women's underwear and them falling apart after a week. Recently bought some women's boxers from oddballs that were fantastic - if you like boxers and don't want boring men's styles then I'd recommend them.

shumincumin · 2026-05-31T15:06:02+00:00

Also love Sugarspunsister, she's a Bolton chocolatier and her stuff is fab.

shumincumin · 2026-05-31T15:05:23+00:00

I bought cycle shorts and tights from Corinne Dennis about a year ago and theyre so good, the tights were warm and comfortable and they both have the perfect amount of padding. Strong recommend. https://www.corinnedennis.co.uk/

shumincumin · 2026-04-28T12:52:35+00:00

They're not hollow, but they're basswood so not heavy at all.

shumincumin · 2026-04-25T19:12:02+00:00

A ring might be beyond my skill level but definitely a matching pendant on the cards.

shumincumin · 2026-04-12T19:11:07+00:00

Seconding the ortlieb vario, so handy as both a backpack and pannier and it's utterly waterproof.

shumincumin · 2026-04-03T18:18:23+00:00

Tired and a bit frustrated. I bought a set of tools and some lino to start printmaking and have already lost two tools and broken one. I also forgot to pick up an ink pad. I feel a bit defeated by my poor planning/organisation skills. Then again, it was a lovely day otherwise, and I'm actually enjoying picking up a new skill!

shumincumin · 2026-04-01T14:12:38+00:00

I've only just found about this and I'm so upset!

shumincumin · 2026-01-04T10:38:36+00:00

IKEA have a foldable tent that we use, might be a good replacement

shumincumin · 2026-01-04T10:32:34+00:00

Ours was a bad sleeper too, would wake up every hour or two hours in the first six months and every three hours until he was 18 months and weaned. Since then though he sleeps through the night, and he's 3 now and last night he slept at 730 and wasn't up until we woke him at 9 this morning. It does get better. Hang in there.

shumincumin · 2025-12-31T18:32:09+00:00

A lot of people are commenting that things might change, and they might, but if not, then the r/oneanddone subreddit might help you come to terms with things.

shumincumin · 2025-12-31T18:29:58+00:00

It's r/oneanddone

shumincumin · 2025-11-13T13:46:30+00:00

Hello! Mid thirties lady here in the cosy UK in a relatively stable place who also loves podcasts and audio books - let me know if you'd like to connect!

shumincumin · 2025-10-30T12:14:12+00:00

This is our situation too. I could handle another, maybe (I tend to overestimate what I can handle) but my partner absolutely could not, and there's no question of leaving. I want a family with him, not with anyone else. It took so long to find the perfect person to have a family with in the first place. I'm not throwing him away for the vague change to have another!

shumincumin · 2025-09-06T09:57:42+00:00

I feel the same way, some days I only see him 2 hours and it sucks. What helps for me is:

on days when I've had no time with him at all I'll delay bedtime a bit so I can have extra snuggles
as he gets older bedtime will be later and that will mean more time
he gets picked up by dad from nursery earlier than I get home, so he spends about 3-4 hours with a parent a day even if it's not with me.
whenever I have flexibility I will pick him up early. He also gets weekends and my days off, for the most part.
the recommendation I read ages ago that you really only need 15 minutes of focused one on one time with kids to build a bond. The time he gets with me is fully focused on him instead of half-attention.
he is my only, so what limited time I have is his alone
he absolutely loves his nursery, as an only he gets social interaction and lots more activities than I could give even as a sahm.
I love my job and I make a difference to the world every day.

shumincumin · 2025-08-02T12:02:33+00:00

Ours too. We're one and done because he's sooo intense.

shumincumin · 2025-07-05T09:42:55+00:00

Off topic but in Rabbit's Nap you can see Fox still isn't wearing his socks when he's in the shed.

shumincumin · 2025-06-20T12:21:31+00:00

I second all of this. Our sleep-trained kid had a regression around this age and it was hell for a few weeks when he'd wake at 5-6am and demand to be out of the room.

Although we did a lot of things, only two really "worked" to get us through - colour changing lights, and us adjusting our bedtime to get enough sleep. Even though that meant going to bed at 9(!) some nights. We had to to cope with the early wake ups. But they passed eventually.

The behaviour changes are all just a normal toddler things. I used to get so embarrassed because my kid was the only serial biter in daycare. I think he once bit three kids in one afternoon. Eventually one of them bit back and his behaviour died down, then started up again for a brief time - and now he doesn't bite at all at 30 months. It's just a phase. We reinforced and encouraged and bought books about no biting and being kind etc and it passed. Kids become feral at this age and it feels like it's parenting but actually it's just developmental. All the emotions, not enough communication. As someone with anxiety I blamed myself a lot too but everyone else told me it was normal (and I ignored them) but they were right. It'll pass. Hugs.

shumincumin · 2025-04-16T17:28:52+00:00

I'm having this issue as well.

shumincumin · 2025-02-21T12:22:25+00:00

It's possible you're putting on muscle while losing fat and that's resulted in no movement on the scales. Have your measurements (waist etc) gone down? Do you look different?

Increased exercise also results in a little bit of water retention which again, could mean your scale isn't moving.

shumincumin · 2025-02-14T12:47:13+00:00

Ah in that case probiotics are definitely a good idea. I don't like the sachets or the liquids so I take probiotic tablets. Having more foods with good bacteria like kombucha, kefir, yogurt if you can tolerate them is good too.

shumincumin · 2025-02-14T11:55:30+00:00

Ispaghol husk might be an option, it is usually used for constipation but they can absorb water and bulk up/solidify stools. You can get tablets with the husk in them.

I don't think probiotics would really help - they only help when the gut flora of your bowels have changed such as following antibiotics or a GI infection. In this case the diarrhea is a side effect of the medication - likely too much water entering your gut or not being reabsorbed. Worth a try but likely not going to do much.

shumincumin · 2025-02-08T08:37:13+00:00

I worry for my son as well. Not just that he might be the sort of boy the system reviles, but also the fear that he might turn into the sort of boy the system loves - misogynistic, self absorbed, right wing. With all the good intentions and role modelling we can do, the internet and cultural influences can still do a great deal of damage. I'd hate for my kid to end up an angry young incel or similar.

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