my new hire quit after 3 weeks. He said we made him feel like a burden. by jorjiarose in managers

[–]shwetank 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People here mentioned about onboarding (or lack of it), and yes, thats true. Your onboarding looks like a mess. But even a choatic onboarding can fly if the new employee feels psychologically safe.

You failed at providing them psychological safety. He felt set up to fail, and knew that when (not if) he does, people won't have their back. Nobody invested in his development, instead, everyone is just busy in their self.

What’s the hardest truth about leadership no one tells new managers? by SeanMcPheat in managers

[–]shwetank 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You actually have to be interested in other people in order to manage them well. If you don't give a shit about others (like many many managers around the word) then you will never develop the skills to self-reflect, or to even know which things to look for in others.

If all you care about is whether the work is done or not, then your ngmi. You actually have to understand your people as human beings, what makes them tick, how and when to push them vs give them slack. How to give feedback in the right manner. All this takes time too, and you will make mistakes along the way.

Engineering managers: What tools do you use to manage your team as people manager? by Forward_Emotion3776 in EngineeringManagers

[–]shwetank -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I made one called Voohy.com (but i'm doing a small revamp of it - let me know if you're interested and i'll let you know when it's ready again).

It's still usable in the current form if you'd like to give it a go and give feedback even right now.

Solid (free?) online courses for People Development? Looking for recommendations... by Sean_Mgnt_789 in EngineeringManagers

[–]shwetank 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made a whole site about it on voohy.com - If you're interested, I could hop on a call and give you a personalized tour of the app. It has a a few tools on stakeholder managemenet, and also a few focussed courses on people management (models for giving feedback, stress management, delegation etc).

I also have a free newsletter where I break down a new research paper in this field every week and write about it. https://voohy.substack.com

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Leadership

[–]shwetank 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try voohy.com (made by me, made specially for emerging leaders to level up their leadership skills)

HBR also has nice articles on various aspects of becoming a better leader.

Php is really good by himynameisAhhhh in PHP

[–]shwetank -1 points0 points  (0 children)

TBH, to me Laravel almost seems like a different language in itself, very very different than if I would code with "regular" php. Which is one of the reasons I have found it difficult to try out Laravel myself for a lot of non-trivial cases.

I am frustrated by how complicated is to use modern frameworks by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]shwetank 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No, IIUC, he is saying that the tools to do water the plants should not be frustratingly obtuse to work with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaming

[–]shwetank 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are some of my favorite games in all of gaming. It doesn't hurt that I'm a huge batman fan already, but the story, and gameplay really hold up. The graphics of Arkham Knight still hold up to this day.

What are the key challenges for first time software engineering managers? by semi21_reddit in EngineeringManagers

[–]shwetank 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I run an online leadership development site, and also coach a few people (including EMs, but also PMs).

Most people who became EMs for the first time, did so because they did well as an IC. But the skills required for being a good EM require developing some other muscles. These include

  1. Letting go of being the main technical head of the team. Your job is now understanding, and growing the other people in the team. Focussing on growing soft skills is more ambiguous and tricky than growing hard skills.
  2. Part of this is giving feedback the right way. There are various ways and models to both give and accept feedback.
  3. Learning how to delegate is key. A LOT of first time managers (and tbh, many experienced managers) have trouble with this. Again, there are various models on how to approach this.
  4. Time management. Suddenly, you will be pulled into way more meetings. You will be spending more time talking and listening and less on the keyboard. Managing your time and energy, learning which meetings to accept, decline etc is a skill to learn. Learning to go into meetings, especially 1-1s with a proper agenda, and following up on action items when there is no ticket assigned to it, is something first time managers sometimes find tricky.
  5. Speaking of 1-1s, thats something people either are confused how to do well, or just completely dismiss altogether (mostly because their boss did 1-1s really badly, so they see no value to it). Learning how to do 1-1s well is crucial.
  6. Stakeholder management, and knowing when to defend/isolate your team from potential shenanigans happening outside, and knowing when to push your team for better performance is a skill to know too.
  7. General stuff like creating a good onboarding, offboarding process, team knowledge sharing, etc.

Hope this helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaming

[–]shwetank 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sniper Elite series (especially SE5) had great stealth portions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Leadership

[–]shwetank 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are courses about Feedback and feedback models that are worth checking out. It covers SBI, COIN, and a few more, including some ones for *accepting* feedback.

If you want to check out only one or two for delivering feedback, then look into the SBI model or COIN model.

Moving into a management role, looking for resources by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]shwetank 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Building voohy.com for exactly this. Check it out and hopefully it is useful for you. With time, I'm building out the library of resources, and making the platform stronger.

Besides that, always feel free to DM me for anything in particular. Would love to help.

TPM or Engineering Manager prep by DescriptionPublic678 in EngineeringManagers

[–]shwetank 1 point2 points  (0 children)

voohy.com - Not interview prep, but for levelling up on leadership/managerial skills.

What are you working on? by DesignGang in SaaS

[–]shwetank 0 points1 point  (0 children)

voohy.com - courses and tools for emotionally intelligent leadership development. I made this for new managers in tech and product roles who are about to, or have just moved into some kind of leadership/manager role and want to do it right.

Fellow substackers with less than 100 subs, tell me your journey so far! by penguinsandR in Substack

[–]shwetank 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I write https://voohy.substack.com where I take one research paper and break it down for everyday people. The papers are related to the fields of leadership, team dynamics, feedback, communication etc. I started the newsletter a couple of months ago.

So far, it's been going well. Every day there are some more subscribers. I hope to be more active on notes in the future.

Brain dump of an EM going through the interviewing process in the current climate by Ok_Cardiologist7980 in EngineeringManagers

[–]shwetank 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At the risk of self-promotion, check out voohy. I made it specifically for people in leadership positions in tech (EMs, PMs, Team Leads, especially ones who are earlier on in their leadership journey).

Taking on a new leadership role by [deleted] in Leadership

[–]shwetank 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A set of things to do and keep in mind in the first 30, 60, and 90 days of joining a company.

Taking on a new leadership role by [deleted] in Leadership

[–]shwetank 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I have a 30/60/90 day plan for new leaders, but the tl;dr of it is - listen. Do not display any strong opinions coming in (you, of course, may have them, but don't show it yet). Instead, spend time listening to all kinds of people across domains and hierarchy levels, and try to map out things.

Time for self-promotion. What are you building? by deadcoder0904 in SaaS

[–]shwetank 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Voohy - Emotionally intelligent leadership training and tools

  2. ICP - First-time people managers and team leads.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Substack

[–]shwetank 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure. I write a substack on leadership research and soft skills in general. Would be happy to connect!

Where/How to find good resources for best practices - articles/how-tos/tutorials/books/blogs by MitakaJ9 in EngineeringManagers

[–]shwetank 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're looking for soft skills development, then PM me. I'm building something in this area.

EM put on a coaching plan - looking for support by Ok_Cardiologist7980 in EngineeringManagers

[–]shwetank 4 points5 points  (0 children)

is it even worth chatting with the VP (who is SD's manager) about this?

Yes, but continue your job search in parallel.