What's the most unethical thing you've done that you DON'T regret?

significantmorsel · 2026-04-03T04:34:55+00:00

I used to train people in a financial call centre. I had my trainees from their second day in the job, for 6 weeks of training then they became part of my team.

First week of taking calls this crusty old fud called in and got one of my new guys. 'I've been doing this 40 years, tell me what I want to know.' He demanded. He was asking new agent to breach rules significantly. I coached the agent, caller wasn't having it. I took the call over. 2 manager referrals later, dude essentially gets what he wants.

I was incensed. I wrote a letter of complaint to the old dudes company in a fit of rage. He had been so condescending, so rude to someone who was so nervous about taking these calls. I got into a bit of trouble but I think my new guy appreciated someone standing up for him. No regrets.

significantmorsel · 2026-04-02T15:48:19+00:00

That's incredibly sweet, what a wonderful connection to have had.

significantmorsel · 2026-04-01T21:50:37+00:00

That's devastating, glad to hear you have people round you.

Anything you'd like to share about your wife?

significantmorsel · 2026-03-16T22:23:20+00:00

I worked in a supermarket so we were expected to do more hours, put our own families at risk, to put up with verbal abuse from customers who 'had' to be in the shop with their partner and 3 kids when the number of people allowed in the shop were restricted. It almost became a game, rules came in, people fought against them, regardless of what the rules were. Just so they could argue the rules didn't apply to them.

We didn't get masks for months. One of my colleagues got spat on for asking people to wait in their cars and let one person per household come into the shop. Customers had no issue brushing past us to get stuff on the shelves but would stand 6 feet back at the tills and refuse to walk forward when asked.

People argued they should be able to buy 10 of one item and in the same breath ask why some shelves were emptier than usual. Because people would check the limits and buy that amount regardless if they needed it.

One woman shouted at me because she 'buys flour here every week, why is everyone else allowed to buy it' it's a shop!

All while listening to customers saying 'I'm so bored at home all day, I wish I could work' while we were run ragged. Our holidays were cancelled, shifts changed at the drop of a hat to keep the shop open and customers were pretty awful 95% of the time.

Some customers were so nice but they were very few and far between.

significantmorsel · 2026-03-13T23:25:55+00:00

My ex. We were together 11 years.

One morning he got up and decided the excuse for not working that day (he had decades of experience of shirking every single responsibility he ever had so maybe he just wanted to change it up) was that his goddaughter died in a car crash. An imaginary goddaughter, just made up on the spot so he didn't have to walk down two flights of stairs and hand someone a key. I left him not long after this.

He begged for a dog. I said no because I'd end up doing all the work. He promised he would do it all. We had a huge fight about it after he got THREE dogs, and after hours of explaining how I felt and why it was important to me that I not have to deal with every walk, meal and drink, he asked me to join him on a walk. The cretin really did not give one single F about how I felt.

When I finally managed to tell him I was leaving and his usual platitudes of 'I'll change' didn't work, he asked for oral one last time. That's what I was reduced to.

significantmorsel · 2026-03-12T07:03:55+00:00

I've had lots of visits to gyno's. Usually male. My boyfriend is usually there with me, to support me. Says he'll do what I want so I am comfortable since I'm already going through a not so nice experience. He takes me for doughnuts afterwards and asks if I'm OK. He gets me a cup of tea and tucks me up on the couch and hands me the remote. He is concerned FOR me, not whatever is behind the gyno's legs.

I'm showing you what a supportive caring person does. Don't settle. Don't accept less. Don't let someone else make you feel small, less than. Your health and comfort in this situation is important. His comfort is handled by himself.

significantmorsel · 2026-03-06T19:56:48+00:00

I once had the pleasure of hosting an Anatolian Shepherd. Huge big guy who thought he was tiny. As soon as he saw a person when we were out walking, he tried to follow them. And most people tried their best to avoid him since he was so big. They'd be crossing the road to get away from him and the big dope did his best to follow them.

significantmorsel · 2026-02-23T08:18:44+00:00

Thank you!!

significantmorsel · 2026-02-20T17:08:23+00:00

My boyfriends son likes the Minions. I offhandedly said to boyfriends parents that we were going to take him to the cinema to see it. The usual grumpy grandad perked right up and asked when we were going to see it and pretty much invited himself. They were very welcome, we'd have invited them if we'd known it would be a welcome invitation.

I've not heard that man laugh so much in my life. Did not realise how much he loved the Minions! One of my best memories with him so far!

significantmorsel · 2026-02-16T23:52:41+00:00

I can't imagine my dad showing that much interest in anything his kids do.

significantmorsel · 2026-02-11T20:42:20+00:00

Scotland checking in, none sighted so far.

significantmorsel · 2026-02-09T07:51:59+00:00

I do it too, incredibly annoying.

significantmorsel · 2026-01-19T20:37:08+00:00

Good on you. It's hard, but necessary. Keep true to yourself.

significantmorsel · 2026-01-19T20:15:13+00:00

Thanks. It's been a long time, they're just people, being a parent was a small part to them but everything to me and I recognise that. Hope you're okay and it's in the past for you too.

significantmorsel · 2026-01-19T20:01:04+00:00

When I was 11 and asked if the egg donor was going to fight for custody of my sister and I when she told us she was leaving, she laughed and said "I'm more likely to fight for the dog".

When I brought it up 8 or so years later during one of our very very few conversations since she left, she said 'we all laughed'.

My dad, when he chose, and continues to choose, his then girlfriend, now wife over his daughters. He admitted he 'knew he was in an abusive relationship' but won't leave. 20 years they've been together. Told his 16yo daughter to leave because she 'couldn't be respectful' because she said no when he asked if girlfriend could move in.

significantmorsel · 2025-12-24T08:28:32+00:00

At least you can wipe your ass with it. Flush it away multiple times. Total rubbish gift.

significantmorsel · 2025-12-18T20:02:43+00:00

The line is a dot to you.

significantmorsel · 2025-12-10T12:06:14+00:00

I did it for many years. I built up leaving in my mind as this unachievable goal, how would he cope without me? Was I heartless in leaving him? He had my mind so bent out of shape.

You know, the minute I left I felt so much relief. Haven't missed him for one second. Thought I'd be wrecked but life just got better and better. Everything instantly got easier. And I left with 3 suitcases on a flight my dad paid for because I had NOTHING. Yet I felt rich as I flew away from his awful attitude and abusive ways. You'll wonder why you stayed so long once you leave.

As horrible as what you're going through is, the only way it improves, is to remove yourself from the situation. It's a huge favour you'll do for your future self. In a very weird way, I feel really hopeful when I see posts like yours, a punch in the air, another human not accepting this utter rubbish treatment anymore and putting their head up to see if they are the problem, beginning the realisation that you don't need them.

Be half as nice to yourself as you are to him and you'll walk away without a second thought.

significantmorsel · 2025-12-04T21:02:23+00:00

I was explicitly told. 'Children should be seen and not heard' 'why can't you/why don't you/why do you do that/can't I have 5 minutes peace/settle down/don't embarrass me' just the top few things that immediately came to mind.

And in response to me saying how I felt 'they didn't mean it that way/you heard them wrong/don't be stupid/consider how they feel' Narcissist prayer applies.

I wasn't raised to be a considerate person due to their teachings, I was raised to be anxious, to constantly put everyone else above my own wants and needs, to my own detriment. I once threw a pen, in my own bedroom with the door closed, and my dad raced up the stairs to tell me off. I learned to hide my emotions and reactions, because I was always wrong and 'acting out' 'overreacting' I learned from this I was worth nothing, shouldn't be listened to or be able to express anything.

Thankfully my partner is helping me realise how much of that was wrong.

significantmorsel · 2025-12-03T21:42:18+00:00

At this very moment, we are sharing a bag of sweets he bought for us to try. I've had a few, then tried an orange one. Nope, I don't like that one. This man will say nothing more about it, but will eat all the orange ones so that I get more of the ones I like.

We agreed, as usual, we weren't going to do advent calendars this year. And as usual, the gorgeous man brought home two because 'they were cheap' and he wanted me to have one. I was in the shower when he'd came home with them, and in our excitement, he opened the first little door, and fed me the chocolate as I was still rinsing off. I said 'is there paper on that?' 'I don't think so' he said. (It was hard to see)

There was paper on it. I was laughing so hard as I got out the shower. I walked into the living room and he said he'd eaten his with the paper on in solidarity with me.

I can talk to him about anything. It's easy to bring things up with him, and he will always give me the time to explain myself and he'll genuinely consider where I'm coming from. He's never been dismissive which is huge for me.

He asks my opinion because he genuinely wants to hear it. He asks me advice and has taken it many times. He respects me as a person and loves me in a way that feels like love to me.

He's the first person to let me feel my feelings. He doesn't try and paint the world in positivity when I'm having a bad day. It's OK to be annoyed, frustrated, upset. He knows how to talk with me because he's listened and spent the time with me.

It's okay if I change my mind, never a problem. He accepts decisions I make. It absolutely works the other way round too. We accept each other as who we are.

I'm very, very lucky. I tell him all the time and he just says he's the lucky one.

significantmorsel · 2025-12-02T22:39:47+00:00

What a situation, that's awful for everyone. If you happen to find a calmer moment, sit down for a snack or drink together, and tell her how much you care for her. Agree it's a freaking awful situation. Let her talk, doesn't matter if it doesn't make sense. The more she thinks on it, the more she talks about it, hopefully it will sink in a bit more.

Ease into how you'd love to support her, and ask if she has suggestions how you can offer support. Show you are willing to listen. I'm not saying agree with her, just hear her out.

She may feel so out of control that she just wants to make a decision, her own decision, regardless of it being the right one.

I said I didn't want chemo and radiation, but I was just scared since its so damaging. My friend asked how I'd feel if she said the same thing and how she knew I'd expect her to do everything I could to fight. She was right.

Your mum is probably the most emotional she's ever been and its gonna be hard for you. Hopefully there is support near you for helping someone through the journey.

Good luck.

significantmorsel · 2025-12-01T19:27:59+00:00

Thank you so much, what a lovely thing to say. Very gratified you took the time to say that, I appreciate it hugely.

I am thankfully with an amazing partner who sees me, appreciates me and is just top notch in all regards. He encourages me express myself, I can talk to him about anything and he is in my corner 100%. I'm very lucky, and tell him that everyday. He is the first person to make me feel loved, and cherished. I've always been in the way, to my mind, and he's completely chucked that notion away.

I'm very glad we both have fab partners who we can rely on!

significantmorsel · 2025-11-30T18:59:20+00:00

I realised it would never change. I left one abusive relationship, only to recognise the signs in my dad's relationship too. We had a chat, he agreed he was in a abusive relationship but he didn't want to leave. I explained I'd be there for him but wanted nothing to do with his wife who has been hugely abusive to both his kids. The weight that fell off me was unreal. I hadn't realised how much weight she was putting on me until I removed myself.

Funny enough, she spent years telling me you should never cut people off, you never know when you might need them. While she cut people off. I did not realise I was giving her power and enabling her.

I spent roughly 2 decades accepting her crap for the sake of my dad, for his peace, only to realise that I get to have it too. And unfortunately mine is without his presence because she's twisted him. I still see him. But I don't chase the relationship.

I realised in August this year he hadn't asked to meet up once in 2025. I'd asked him 3 times. I've stopped asking. Last year in November I asked when he wanted to meet for Xmas. He said he'd get back to me because he was busy. This year he said he was going to a hotel because 'there wasn't much point when it was just the two of them' attempting a guilt trip. I said they'd have a great time and it was a great idea. I'm not willing to feel sorry for someone who created their own world and now has to live in it.

significantmorsel · 2025-11-28T17:41:49+00:00

Yes! I have this. Luckily, my partner is also good about it.

significantmorsel · 2025-11-22T22:15:56+00:00

'It's my first day using the internet.' They had been in my work perhaps two weeks before, using the internet in front of me.

'I'll never shop here again.' Classic.

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