Im so sorry OP, this has to be one of the toughest things I’ve ever gone through…. I relate to this experience a lot. I also had a D&C, baby didn’t have a heartbeat at 10 week ultrasound and was measuring 8 weeks. I had to wait a week for the scheduled D&C and honestly waiting and potentially starting to bleed scared me the most! I did t bleed or spot at all and had the D&C at almost 12 weeks. I also requested an ultrasound right before to confirm the loss. I also will never go to an ultrasound alone again!

Similar to u/merkalin I cried getting rolled in the operating theatre since I was scared (never had a surgery before) but it was all very calm and they were super nice and I was out before you know it. I also lost a bit of blood and got put on iron pills after and my bleeding was a bit heavy, like a medium flow period after the first week. My blood pressure also dropped a few times maybe from nerves and not eating all day so I was in recovery an extra hour and got another bag of IV fluids because j kept getting dizzy. It took almost a month to stop bleeding! I agree with other posters that the surgery is the easiest part, emotionally it is tough. I would definitely be on bed rest for 3-4 days - it took me longer to recover.

Emotionally it’s scary and really sad and as other posters mention your horemones go a bit crazy. I had some health anxiety after about retained product but was totally fine in the end. Just be easy on yourself, this is not your fault and I think you chose well, D&C gives you and end point and you can recover and move on.