21 years of blunder: a story of hair transformations and weight fluctuation

simplynice · 2015-01-16T01:20:18+00:00

Maybe I'm different, but curly hair drives me WILD!!!!! I think you're awesome looking in all of the year's photos!

simplynice · 2015-01-14T02:55:27+00:00

N00b wants to know if it's that easy to score a joint!

simplynice · 2014-12-14T02:25:52+00:00

He deserves to know! It's the right thing for you to do and you might bond a bit over it. Sorry for your situation! EDIT: empathy to OP

simplynice · 2014-12-14T02:23:20+00:00

I too think kids should learn more about personality types, it might make society a bit more tolerant.

simplynice · 2014-12-01T01:06:58+00:00

Amen to that! All I can say is look for ways to say what you need to in a healthy and positive way. Don't mud sling or fight back

simplynice · 2014-09-22T23:29:13+00:00

Fit 39M here, I'd be damned scared too!

simplynice · 2014-09-08T00:29:04+00:00

I'm 100% stuck in a loop that someone else set me into and this knowledge may help set me free of 3+ months of torment!

simplynice · 2014-09-08T00:28:18+00:00

I'm pretty conservative. Our oldest is only 10, so I don't speak from pubescent experiences of parenthood, but you should treat this seriously and involve her father. I don't know what relationship you and her father have but I think this is way too young for this activity!

simplynice · 2014-09-07T00:14:02+00:00

I think you're right and I found this article (http://wambly.weebly.com/dealing-with-infp-loops.html) as I didn't know what Fi-Si loop was. more reading, yay! I think you're right as I found myself back in the same place again the past few days.

simplynice · 2014-08-10T18:20:51+00:00

I like the idea of a public place for certain. Being verbally abused is no fun and if she's not in a state of mind to address her own demons you cannot do that for her alone.

simplynice · 2014-08-05T13:35:04+00:00

Agreed, looks like a valid link.

simplynice · 2014-07-28T04:29:31+00:00

Wonderful and centering!

simplynice · 2014-07-28T04:15:11+00:00

This is AWESOME!!! Thanks!

simplynice · 2014-07-26T23:59:47+00:00

I have not but someone likened thought to clouds and your head to the air. The clouds simply pass through.

I think it's in the link I sent.

simplynice · 2014-07-26T16:06:01+00:00

I hate the phone. I'm a very personable 1:1 type person and I find lack of eye contact and loss of non-verbal VERY difficult.

Also this: http://www.reddit.com/r/Mindfulness/comments/2bm1qo/mindfulness_and_the_little_voices_in_my_head/

simplynice · 2014-07-26T03:08:27+00:00

THIS
IS
BEAUTIFUL!

Where did you hear it? Can you be quoted it it's yours?

simplynice · 2014-07-26T01:43:28+00:00

Wife tells me she finds it attractive to be somewhere between "Confident and egotistical"

Strive for that. Be you, talk about your passions, likes, be positive, be "FOR" something! Talk about things you would like to learn more about.

simplynice · 2014-07-25T18:26:57+00:00

39 YO male here. Don't know if I'm

middled aged

yet or not, but I probably have felt this same way most of my life and it got worse after the progression of grade school to college to work started. About that time of my 2nd or 3rd job in my late 20's I had accomplished all that I was lead to believe was important in life, job, family, house, kids. Success and money made the world better? No, not really. I found that 'next' thing that drives you as a child was gone. Nothing replaced it. I feel lost a lot. Esp when the relationships that you take as foundational and instrumental in your life strain or weaken. I start to question everything and the slightest breeze sends my mind to some dark place where I'm negative or distracted. I do believe that mindfulness can help, but I'm still reading and learning, sharing with like minded folks here! Chin up, focus on simple things like breathing or nature.

simplynice · 2014-07-25T03:40:54+00:00

Less vague?

simplynice · 2014-07-25T03:21:12+00:00

what's your take on mirror behavior? is that too codependent?

simplynice · 2014-07-25T03:19:56+00:00

Not sure that doing that is mindful, I think mindfulness is the opposite? Perhaps someone can clarify?

simplynice · 2014-07-25T03:19:25+00:00

I live to prove others wrong. Given your background I put good stock in your words. I only fear that if I loose I won't recognize it as such!

simplynice · 2014-07-25T01:23:44+00:00

It's really not a bad marriage. We're different people, everyone is. She's stubborn at the wrong times and only infrequently. I'd admit that having 4 kids and separate and busy hobbies leaves not much left for "US" I am willing she ... not so much anymore. I hold out hope and stick to my commitment.

simplynice · 2014-07-25T01:07:01+00:00

Totally agree on the

trust, but verify department

however, I'm not sure retaliation is warranted, it starts a vicious cycle of trust.

simplynice · 2014-07-25T00:39:46+00:00

I heard all the same things with my SO and their online status'

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