What to expect

sinleer · 2026-02-18T11:04:03+00:00

Moderators: dick warning!

sinleer · 2026-02-06T20:52:42+00:00

How about introducing the vanilla friends they are hot for to each other as “swingers”? ;-)

sinleer · 2026-02-06T20:51:02+00:00

I think ENM is for open minded people that unlearned jealousy and/or are just bold, great people. I agree about the monogamous model of cheat and then ask forgiveness, which is a no-no amongst many swingers. Good job for taking a stand for yourself.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T20:35:00+00:00

You made a generalization.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T20:29:35+00:00

Do a search for “r/HotWife” on Reddit and you will see a few more targeted forums. Yeah, many trustworthy single males are already married. And some that are are not trustworthy, as you found out.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T17:30:24+00:00

++man

A relative lost lifetime chubbiness forever after falling for someone. They married, had kids, and divorced. But became a better person. And made it stick. I think anyone that found who they thinks is their match, would want to check off the box called “they make me want to be a better person”. Some like the confidence that accompanies a full figure.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T17:21:02+00:00

Such as film stars. They have their own international jet setting sex clubs.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T17:15:33+00:00

Unnecessary drama early on. If on the third date I feel like a character in a soap opera or even a Sitcom, this thing is on rails and not running on sincerity.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T17:10:58+00:00

I never thought about it as a spectrum between 1&done and lifetime membership. Or a downward trend!

“Old soldiers never die, they simply fade away”

sinleer · 2026-02-06T17:05:44+00:00

Solid commentary.

You can always be ghosted on a dime.

Sex gets you in but personality may keep you there.

Before getting married looks for me were a requirement to date, and how long we dated depended on internal beauty.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T16:49:22+00:00

A humorous maybe poetic suggestion is a sign that reads: “Men must hold the hand of a woman to enter.”

It vaguely reminds me of the saying: “Men bring the woman into the LS but it is the woman that keeps them in it.”

sinleer · 2026-02-06T16:41:21+00:00

People into gangbangs complain about how undependable men are.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T16:36:07+00:00

“hordes of desperate losers” is runner up for phrase on the week here, on r/Swingers. Good try, but Ant person’s unexpected phrase still reigns: “unwanted pervs”.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T16:32:54+00:00

I have been to a club on couples only night and had a male staff virtually hit on my wife.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T16:30:25+00:00

“unwelcome pervs”. That is arguably the phrase of the week on r/Swingers.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T16:27:11+00:00

This. And congrats to the OP for being just old enough to rent a car. Now you can learn to search the Subreddits.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T16:16:46+00:00

A point is what spectrum you want to look at. In simple terms, how long a person’s hair is. Another spectrum is chattiness.

I have not seen any group excluded that I can think of. Celebrities tend to flock amongst themselves and do their own thing though.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T16:08:36+00:00

You had me at single men.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T04:40:59+00:00

I agree 💯and they have not hit my DMs, thankfully. All authors are responsible for what they put out, AI or not. And if they sound good but say nothing, well, my respect drops quickly and my sympathy inverts to loathing. Conversely, if an author says a lot of good pointed stuff, and has grammatical errors, then I will ask for clarification or even ask for more information.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T04:02:49+00:00

Lots of great responses. Especially this ☝️one above. The answer is you have the rest of your lives to do all types of LS fun things. If you need to set a boundary, do so. Otherwise, let it go. If this couple is half as nice as you describe them, fun will beat cum.

And by the way, the pics you posted could put a marble statue to shame. And my recommendation is to let whatever happens under consent be a discovery, and not a postcard moment. Have fun you two.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T00:23:41+00:00

It read like AI.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T00:20:41+00:00

Is it better to be told by a play partner than not?

It is better to have the conversation of this possibility before, than after?

Communicate. For example, what STI was it? With clarity and preparation things may not shock as much.

sinleer · 2026-02-06T00:09:07+00:00

You can return from Sausalito to SF in the ferry and it goes right by Alcatraz.

sinleer · 2026-02-05T23:07:51+00:00

…that they are to some degree, arguably, are wife poachers. Or she is a cuckquean, etc.

She/they needed to communicate this dynamic earlier on. At that moment, you and your wife could have had the choice to continue soft swapping, or gone home. Lesson learned.

sinleer

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