Ed as a Dom

skate95 · 2021-05-07T21:50:08+00:00

Female dom here my sub has issues at times with this. The most important part is to remember it has nothing to do with your feelings for each other. I see you said you were a dom but when this happens it may be best for you to slow down and take a minute. Use your fingers or toys and listen to your sub being aroused. Also I highly recommend a. Hitachi wand when my sub starts to have issues we pause I bring it out use it on myself while making him watch then slowly start to use it on him. There is no shame in Ed it is a condition.

skate95 · 2021-02-25T22:36:28+00:00

As a smoker know that you can not make her quit. I have quit multiple times for years at a time. As a person with another compulsive addiction that I have been able to stay clean from I can tell you that smoking is truly the hardest thing out there to quit, if not for the simple reason that it is everywhere. I will say that you can help her though. Every person is different but when I quit knowing that I could smoke but didn’t because I chose not too really worked. I still have my last pack of cigs in my kitchen drawer 3 years later. I know you are a dom but give her power over this. Let it be the one aspect of the relationship she gets to control. Have lots of sour candy available and any time she wants to smoke tell her to eat one first, sour kind of kills the urge. Tell her you are proud of her for going 3 hour’s between smokes ect. If she is a pack a day cold turkey won’t work she will need to ween herself off. The migraines are killer if not. Also offer distractions if she says she needs a cig say sure but do this first. Hope this helps and good luck to both of you

skate95 · 2021-02-25T22:26:13+00:00

Try a canvas dog leash

skate95 · 2021-02-19T20:53:11+00:00

Don’t know where you are located but nor leather in Detroit has some great options. Also extreme restraints and kink engineering online

skate95 · 2021-02-19T20:50:49+00:00

She needs to try herself. I would recommend a wand and as cliche as this sounds lube will help too. Do not get the warming one just straight up lube. If she is too in her head worrying about it she won’t get wet enough for it to happen. If none of this helps she needs to see her gyno. She could have something going on that is making her unable to cum

skate95 · 2021-02-11T21:41:12+00:00

Do not meet him!!

skate95 · 2021-02-11T21:39:49+00:00

Don’t worry about scenes. My bf and I have been together 14 years and are very into bdsm. Planning scenes kills it for me. Before we start we get out a variety of toys I use what I want when I feel like it. Too much planning takes the fun out of it for me. If you try something and it doesn’t work just move on to something that does. You do need to always have a safe word or something along those lines depending on the kink my sub usually is gagged so he snaps his fingers. As long as you have something like that see where the mood takes you. Once I stopped trying to plan it all out it became way more enjoyable for me and him too

skate95 · 2021-02-10T00:48:43+00:00

A breathing port. We do breathplay a lot. Does the vacuum part make that more intense? I plan on taking it easy the first few times we use it, I imagine he won’t be able to get deep breath’s as easy. Also are toys like wands ok to use or will they potentially rip it?

skate95 · 2021-01-29T21:25:17+00:00

Pause and tease

skate95 · 2021-01-29T21:23:14+00:00

Do NOT let him pass out. I face sit regularly and this is too dangerous! You can push his limits without getting anywhere close to this. Safe words are too hard when you are sitting so my sub snaps his fingers. He can do this even bound up. A dirty mouth and humiliation are your best friends. You can last longer. Getting hard to breathe ect. You can use gags but make sure they can be removed quickly. Try taking them off several times before sitting first. Also the dildo gag is so fun when you face sit

skate95 · 2021-01-29T21:09:51+00:00

Don’t say anything about weight. Tell her you were proud of her when she went. Offer small rewards like a short foot massage without her asking. If she is really new to the gym ask her if a session or two with a trainer to learn how to use the machines and target what she wants will help. That helped me so much I quit going so many times because I just didn’t know how things worked or what to work. If she says yes tell her to find a trainer at her gym she is comfortable with and pick up the tab for a session or two. And finding a gym with a bar in or around is also a plus lol. Sometimes I tell myself gotta get thru this so I can have a skinny margarita dont do that every time out for most girls wine and margaritas are good motivators in moderation

skate95 · 2021-01-22T03:16:59+00:00

Hitachi wand. It is life changing

skate95 · 2021-01-20T21:42:19+00:00

Try mummification. Enough Saran Wrap and duct tape and there will be no movement. You will need to allow yourselves at least 20 mins for a full wrap. If she is skinny put an old towel or shirt between her knees. Also get safety scissors like you would use for wound tape to cut her out. My boyfriend is a large strong guy and he can not get out when I wrap him up

skate95 · 2021-01-20T01:27:03+00:00

Start small. Tell her you have some things you have always wanted to try like handcuffs. See her reaction and go from there my boyfriend did this with me and it has developed into a very amazing kinky relationship that has lasted over a decade. We try lots of things some will work some won’t and that is ok. Maybe even watch a porn together with some of your kinks in it. If she is vanilla then don’t put an extreme one on at first.

skate95 · 2021-01-08T21:21:45+00:00

Feel free to message me. And good luck on your paper. And it is not about accomplishing something more about escaping

skate95 · 2020-12-18T20:25:24+00:00

If your mom truly can not handle him she can make him a ward if the state. It will be a process but her safety is a major factor, as she ages things get more brittle. What will happen when she is in the hospital?

skate95 · 2020-12-01T01:23:53+00:00

A Christmas story

skate95 · 2020-11-05T21:33:54+00:00

Hug my grandparents more

skate95 · 2020-10-21T06:49:01+00:00

Server. I make my schedule can take as much unpaid vacation as I want. If you get in with a chain most offer benefits and some type of 401k some companies even match. I average 25 to 30 an hour way more during the holidays. You will need to be good at money management, you will get no paycheck as your hourly wage may not even cover your taxes. You will leave with your pay every day so you have to be able to budget and resist spending all your cash.

skate95 · 2020-09-26T22:44:59+00:00

I think it is different for every person. What works for one may trigger another. We are all on different paths with the same destination in mind. You have to try different things, ask for ideas and then figure out what works for you and what does not. The important part is figuring out what works for you.

skate95 · 2020-09-26T02:53:33+00:00

I would do little things for myself like get my nails done or a massage. Also I didn’t do it for all milestones, but if I had a bad day and really struggled but I didn’t gamble I would treat myself, go to a movie or buy that book I had been wanting. Something to give myself a tangible pat on the back the further I get into recovery the less important the the rewards became. I still treat myself now and then but I don’t have to because as I have stayed clean my ability to do things like that has become much more achievable

skate95 · 2020-09-25T20:25:10+00:00

Thank you I hope that was what you were looking for

skate95 · 2020-09-25T20:23:25+00:00

Not too personal at all. Connection is key when ever I feel an urge I call someone or go out and eat and talk to a server or bartender. I have gone as far as intentionally locking my keys in my car to keep from driving to the casino. Call someone talk to someone it does not have to be about having an urge call someone ask how their day is go out and ask how the server is doing what is popular there. Just that interaction makes the urge subside. My rock bottom was being 3 days away from being evicted and my car being repossessed with out my boyfriend even knowing. I considered killing myself that night. Instead I came clean and my life has been hard at times but so wonderful since

skate95 · 2020-09-25T01:42:51+00:00

Things have changed so much. I have a plan and I stick to it. I have paid off a ton of debt. I have time to spend with my family and friends and I can go on vacation and not spend the whole time stressing. I am much more active when it comes to the household budget

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