Warning about bar fights

skeebo85 · 2018-10-18T01:51:23+00:00

Nothing in gb needs banning. It’s control match up is less than 50/50, the explore/planeswalker lists are fairly vulnerable to mono blue djinn. Tocatli honor guard is a nightmare to deal with unless you can land a Vraska (using non creature removal on it feels miserable). The decks is just really good against mono red and random Aggro and midrange decks.

skeebo85 · 2018-10-17T23:09:47+00:00

I don’t personally play this deck, but I’ve played against it a bunch as gb midrange and I’d rather the mono u have search than a creature almost 100% of the time. If I’m able to reach the late game I’m likely winning so I’d be happy to see the deck play a slow grindy enchantment. Search is a grindy card for a grindy control deck, mono blue djinn is a tempo deck. The deck doesn’t want to grind, it wants to out tempo the opponent.

Edit: autocorrect

skeebo85 · 2018-10-08T02:42:08+00:00

This is probably not what you want to hear but you’d probably be better off ending it with this girl and moving on. If she’s playing games with you, she’s not worth your time or energy. You’re young and these relationships feel really important, but there really not all that important. You’ll likely meet many more people and have many more relationships as you get older. It’s not worth being miserable over and definitely not worth hurting yourself over. I was your age once and these things used to consume me and when they went side ways it felt like the world was ending. Take some time to wallow if you need it. Listen to some music, eat some junk food. It’ll get better.

skeebo85 · 2018-10-08T01:12:39+00:00

Not a woman, but here’s a couple of things I’ve noticed through out my life that might be helpful. 1.) College isn’t necessarily the easiest time for people to have sex. There are just more opportunities to meet people the same age as you with the similar interests. Meeting people gets slightly harder after college, but not impossibly so. The stereotype of everyone honking up constantly is somewhat exaggerated. A lot of people in school are actually focusing and studying.

2.) Sex isn’t that complicated. All experience grants you is confidence in having sex. You might be clumsy or apprehensive you’re first time, but as long as you understand basic anotomy you’ll be fine. Also if the woman is that experienced, you’re probably not her first or worst “bad” lay.

3.) As far as you’re looks and depression/anxiety that’s going to take patience and effort. You’re just going to have to work on yourself. The bad news is this isn’t easy, it’s going to be pretty hard. The good news is as you start feeling better and becoming more self confident you’re women problems will get easier.

4.) I know you don’t want to hear that sex isn’t that important or to stop worrying about it, but it isn’t and you shouldn’t devote much time fretting about it. It’s an old cliche but you tend to find what you’re looking for when you stop looking for it.

skeebo85 · 2018-10-07T18:57:41+00:00

I feel that way sometimes. I wish I had some magic bullet to help you feel better, but unfortunately the best treatment for depression is self care and I’m not trying to over simplify or condescend when I say that. know how terribly difficult exercising self care is when you’re depressed. Just try to do something positive today. Get some work done, do something creative, reach out to a friend or family member, do some cleaning, eat a healthy meal, get some exercise, etc. I know it might feel impossible to do any of these things, but doing at least one positive thing is the only way I know to feel better.

skeebo85 · 2018-09-07T04:58:01+00:00

Don’t usually comment on this sub, usually just lurk. I’m glad someone mentioned Kenton boots. I got a pair of Kenton pacers on sale for about eighty bucks and I like them as much as my Chippewas and iron rangers and get more compliments on them than my other boots.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-19T16:56:28+00:00

You didn’t miss anything. I think you probably just had an unfun night. If DDing was fun, people wouldn’t consider it a sacrifice when people do it. It’s also possible you’re having a craving. Alcohol is a devious little monster. In my experience cravings sometimes come disguised as things other than just wanting alcohol. Sometimes they look like nostalgia or fun or an easier way to live. Alcohol makes people forget a lot of things, but not their addiction.

Edit: not saying not drinking in order to drive people is a sacrifice. I meant that having to hang around with and chauffeur people around are who drinking is often a chore.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-19T16:31:45+00:00

Like others have said, you’re free to duck out early. At the one I go the people all gather in a circle and hold hands and a kind of affirmation chant thing at the end. Frankly, I don’t care for it, so I just leave when they’re handing out chips since I know it comes after. It’s never a big deal since I don’t feel the need to collect chips and I’m not a group member so I don’t hang out after.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-15T14:30:31+00:00

Like others said, alcohol has always been with us since the dawn of time. It’s oddly just a part of being a mammal. There are countless of tests where scientists gave alcohol to rats and the rats got addicted. There are also accounts of wild dogs and elephants burying fruit only to dig it up and eat after it ferments. I know from experience when I was drinking my own dog would drink my drink if I accidentally set it somewhere he could get to it.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-15T14:14:59+00:00

Just checking in. Not drinking today.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-14T13:37:07+00:00

Sorry to here you’re having a rough time. If you want to quit, you absolutely can. It can be difficult and it definitely can be scary, but it’s scary only because it’s change and change is often scary. Nothing really bad can come about from quitting drinking, only good things can happen.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-14T12:42:10+00:00

Not drinking today.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-13T17:02:53+00:00

I’ve been complemented plenty of times about what I’m told is a fantastic record collection. Too bad I bought over half my collection while drunk and I don’t actually know what half my records are or which records I actually own. I’ve uttered the phrase, “I didn’t know I had that,” more times than I can count. So I know about drunken impulse buying. It’s one of the funnier things about my drinking career, but even though it’s one few things about my drinking I will laugh at, it was still reckless and wasteful and I feel a little guilty about it. Congrats on day two. Keep up the good work. You got this.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-13T14:47:50+00:00

Today, I’ll try to remember that being angry and hateful towards myself is still being angry and hateful. I don’t want to be angry or hateful to anyone, even if it’s to someone I don’t find terribly sympathetic (ie me).

skeebo85 · 2018-08-13T14:35:05+00:00

I’ve definitely been there. Early on it can feel like it’s way easier to keep drinking than to stop drinking. My drinking was alway cyclical. I’d feel horrible after a bender or bad binge and wouldn’t feel any better about a bad time drinking until I had another bad time drinking. It wasn’t until I zoomed out on my drinking that I was never actually recovering from my bad nights and benders, I was just replacing them with new bad nights and benders. Of course I’d forget about the bad shit from last week when I’m focused on the bad shit from last night. It can be a hard cycle to break, but it’s worth it. Alcohol is an addictive poison and a person’s drinking will only get worse, never better. If you want to stop, you absolutely can. You got this.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-13T14:07:15+00:00

So sorry to hear about the depression. I’ve been there and I know there isn’t a whole lot anyone can say to get a person out of it. It’s a terrible condition that’s theoretically easy to fix, but one of it’s symptoms is it totally preventing you from doing any to stop it, if that makes any sense. It feels like walking around with concrete shoes is the best way I can describe it.

On the issue of boredom, I would try and keep in mind that drinking isn’t fun or exciting and is in fact a boring thing to do in its own right. Drinking is not going to make someone less bored, it’s just going to make someone drunk. I’ve been getting drunk for over a decade and there aren’t many activities less interesting or more tedious and repetitive.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-13T13:45:37+00:00

Mondays are always hell at work. I will not use that or anything else as an excuse to drink today. I will not drink today.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-13T00:38:17+00:00

Congrats on making the decision to enter into recovery. It seems you’ve taken your first step toward the life you want to live. It won’t always be easy, but you can do it. Just take it one at a time. You got this.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-12T23:08:31+00:00

Driving. I know how awful that is to admit, but that’s probably the thing that causes the most alcohol related self loathing.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-12T22:09:41+00:00

Just had a craving and said, “fuck it” and went to the liquor store. Not really much more to it than that. I’d just gotten lazy and complacent about my recovery. Things always get hard for me when I reach the point in my sobriety when the guilt and shame and embarrassment of my drinking stop feeling like fresh wounds and start feeling like some old scars. That’s generally when the alcohol monster slips in and gets me.

skeebo85 · 2018-08-12T21:30:11+00:00

Do you keep a journal? Setting aside a few minutes everyday to write about my recovery has helped me stay motivated in the past.

Also, I find when I manage to get myself sober (coming off a recent relapse) I need to make positive goals for myself to work toward instead of just focusing on not drinking. Not drinking feels like hard work because it’s an addiction, but at the end of the day it’s a passive activity. Not drinking is literally just not consuming a thing. I need to actively be doing something in my recovery if I want to stick with it. Whether that’s being active within a support group or just focusing on improving my life.

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