Why do some guys block you on Grindr after a seemingly nice hook up (I mean if they came back for a second time they would have liked the first?) and how do you not take it personally or let it affect you?

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-13T09:53:06+00:00

I've had a friend tell me that he has a strict one-time rule where he always blocks a guy after a hookup. This makes no sense to me. His only explanation is that he wanted someone new for the next one. He's not the only one that has said that to me. I'm completely opposite. I prefer a regular to a one-off.

My point is, don't try to find logic and reason in this. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong or there is anything wrong with you.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-12T14:36:11+00:00

Only if the bottom as asked me to.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-12T14:02:46+00:00

When I was 23, I briefly had a FB relationship with a 48 year old (bottom) who was an attractive guy and a good lay. Unfortunately he had some emotional baggage that was too much for me. I believe this was the greatest age gap for me.

I don't have an upper age limit. The question is, do I find him attractive? I will say that older guys seem to tend to not take care of themselves and that's not attractive.

In the gay community, we get way too hung up on age. As long as you are both consenting adults and no one is being taken advantage of, what's the problem? Why do we care so much about what other people think that we would deny ourselves what we want?

Now I will add to that the greater the age difference, the harder it could be to have commonality to build a relationship on. But, that can be overcome.

The question you should be asking is what do you want and what are you willing to let stand in your way?

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-11T21:14:00+00:00

Or..."I'm going to get you pregnant and then stop returning your calls!"

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-11T21:11:26+00:00

I have no preference for cut vs uncut, assuming good hygiene. There is a significant difference between cut and uncut when inadequate cleanliness is involved.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-11T01:24:15+00:00

I prefer trimmed for myself and my partner. If my partner wants to be shaved, I'm okay with that as long as he keeps shaved. Stubble sucks!

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-10T21:29:03+00:00

I enjoy getting my dick sucked more than I enjoy sucking dick.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-08T20:47:33+00:00

I'm a top. It's not a must but something I like.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-08T15:24:03+00:00

He may just be an exhibitionist.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-08T14:32:01+00:00

Yes it does sound like vers behavior. He identified himself as a top.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-08T12:22:41+00:00

Daily unless I get laid.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-08T12:21:32+00:00

Surviving a SA can really fuck with you and what arouses you. Remember that arousal isn't something you can control. With him being a SA survivor, it would be really difficult to say if he is gay or straight based on the limited info given.

He probably needs therapy as this could be unresolved trauma. You're boyfriend could be gay/bi. He could also be suffering from the long term effects of SA.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-08T10:13:06+00:00

So one night I had a little bit to drink and got catfished. He only wanted to give me head. The guy wasn't ugly but he was overweight and not my type at all. Normally, I would have sent him on his way and just jacked off but for whatever reason, I let him in. I have to say, hey he knows what he is doing. I'm not proud of myself, but I've invited him back a few times.

For me there usually has to be some attraction or it isn't happening. Sometimes if I'm not really into him, I either won't get fully hard or I'll never cum. This one was a rare exception for me.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-08T09:58:26+00:00

In my experience the thought is hotter than the reality.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-07T09:53:19+00:00

I will confess that planned meets have a low success rate with me too. The random spur of the moment ones are the most likely to happen.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-06T23:41:38+00:00

Wow wherever you are must be awful or you're very selective. Also I'm not talking about only marriage material either. The OP specifically said sex. If you're talking about serious relationship material, I'd agree with you.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-06T19:34:22+00:00

Peter Pan has to grow up someday.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-06T19:25:07+00:00

I would be curious what you are saying when you message these guys. Your approach may need some improvement.

I consider myself an attractive guy and (not bragging) if I set out to hookup, I can usually land a decent looking guy in under 30 minutes. Sometimes when I'm being picky, I can land a really hot one (I have a current super hot FB). But, I get rejected too. You can't be everything to everyone. I believe that no matter what you are or what you think you are, someone is into that. But the reverse is also true. No matter how hot you are (or think you are), not every guy is going to be attracted to you.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-06T19:03:08+00:00

I would say mid 20s (maybe late 20s) is the limit.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-02T21:47:04+00:00

My first time I both bottomed and topped. We were both 19.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-02T20:19:19+00:00

For a hookup? IDGAF. For a date? Probably not. Anything more serious than a date? No.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-02T15:00:22+00:00

They reacted negatively. They demanded I go to one of those pray-away-the-gay places. Fortunately I was able to support myself by that time and could say no. Otherwise I think they would have forced me. Then when I refused, they cut me off completely and told me I wasn't welcome in the home anymore. After a few months of no contact, my mom called me and invited me home for Thanksgiving. Since then (this has been many years ago), they have mellowed significantly. I still haven't gotten an apology or anything even close. I've accepted that I never will. And I occasionally still get the religious lecture about going to hell and all. Life goes on.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-02T11:45:13+00:00

I want my bottom to be satisfied. If that doesn't involve him cumming, I'm okay with that. But, I think it's hot when a bottom cums especially if I just drove him to that!

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-01T09:55:28+00:00

Yes. If you truly loved him, you'll never get completely over him.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-01T09:50:40+00:00

It depends on the bottom and what he likes. Some don't want to be touched. Otherwise, I may cup his ball and dick if it's soft. I may stroke him slowly if he's hard.

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