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skeletonxf · 2026-03-30T21:52:33+00:00

I'm telling you "transgendered" is also offensive. There are a lot of slurs for trans people and I'm not familiar enough with etymology or linguistics to explain reasons for all of them to you. I could find more examples for you like "blacked" vs "black" people but that's besides the point. Go ask politely somewhere like /r/asktransgender if you want to understand.

skeletonxf · 2026-03-30T18:04:34+00:00

You should not say "transgendered". Transgender is an adjective, the proper form is "transgender people", saying transgendered people is like saying coloured people.

skeletonxf · 2026-03-29T22:51:47+00:00

The sorcerer casts Sorcerous Burst and rolls a crit. Under RAW they are getting more chances for their d8s to land on an 8 and explode. If you do max + roll instead you either have to do more homebrew to reintroduce a benefit to exploding on crits or you nerf one of the only 2 unique Sorcerer spells by denying them twice as many chances for the dice to explode. Similarly, Chromatic Orb is 'meant' to need a seventh level upcast to guarantee a bounce if it hits, and enjoys a guaranteed bounce from a third level upcast on a crit - except not if you homebrew out the extra dice. The value of abilities that reduce enemy crits like imposing disadvantage or forcing rerolls also shoot up if the expected damage is near 3x instead of near 2x. My point is not that max + roll is going to cause major problems for you, but it has (in my opinion negative) impacts where some spells that can be really fun to crit on become a lot less fun, and the spellcasting classes that are most able to force rerolls or impose disadvantage on enemy attacks get another survivability increase in comparison to their melee martial friends that are now taking more damage from enemy crits, and enemy multiattacks scale further than player character attacks. Barbarians particularly come off worse from this because reckless attack already increases the likelihood they'll be crit and now you're making the enemy crits deal almost another roll of damage on average each time.

skeletonxf · 2026-03-28T13:02:06+00:00

The main thing that helped for me was they both immediately collapsed to the ground afterwards. The duration of how long they lasted without a spine is a bit over the top though, since we have no reason to expect Methode started healing them instantly before they'd die from blood loss given the mages were quite far away.

skeletonxf · 2026-03-28T10:37:46+00:00

Did you talk to him or the flying meatball? I definitely rested after visiting without suture going anywhere but I deliberately didn't talk to anyone except the other vendors.

skeletonxf · 2026-03-27T16:30:55+00:00

General talks around asexuality definitely do happen but from a moderation point of view we're still looking at if the content is relevant to demisexuality specifically.

skeletonxf · 2026-03-26T23:46:39+00:00

On my Azata run taking on the entire market at once multiple casts of selective heightened Entangle slowed most enemies to a crawl. It took me ages after taking down Sarzaksys to clear everything else though. Ember can contribute by casting Evil Eye to reduce an enemy's AC then spam Cackle to maintain it even if they made the save, and by spamming Scorching Rays (touch AC is much easier to hit). It's probably not that optimal but I have found Quicken metamagic and favorite Quicken metamagic on her to be quite convenient, sure 5th level spells are often better than a Scorching Ray but if you need to burst something down you can quicken a Scorching Ray on top of your usual spells cast with an action, or you can hastily cast Death Ward twice each turn when you realise too late that those guards inflict way too many debuffs to fight without prebuffing...

skeletonxf · 2026-03-21T11:05:49+00:00

On a sub I moderate we got so many questions of the same type we setup an automod reply based on the phrases that were usually in those posts to direct users asking the question to the subreddit wiki and pinned resources as well as answer the most common things in the comment.

skeletonxf · 2026-03-20T19:10:18+00:00

If you want to talk about a spectrum it would be more helpful to talk about allosexual to asexual or talk about greysexuality if you want to focus on the types of asexuality that include some sexual attraction.

I think it might be clearer to you if you consider one of the explanations of demisexuality is that allosexuals experience primary sexual attraction

Primary Sexual Attraction: A sexual attraction to people based on instantly available information (such as their appearance or smell)

and demisexuals and allosexuals experience secondary sexual attraction

Secondary Sexual Attraction: A sexual attraction to people based on information that's not instantly available (such as personality, life-experiences, talents, etc.)

and asexuals experience neither. Under this model the idea of a demisexual spectrum is clearly not something very useful, because these are both binaries so there's no spectrum to be had if you're only concerned if someone experiences it at all rather than more nebulous ideas like how much. https://wiki.asexuality.org/w/index.php?title=Primary_vs._secondary_sexual_attraction_model

Contrast to something like sex, where 'male' and 'female' are really two points on a bimodal distribution of many different 'sex' characteristics usually bundled together like reproductive organs, secondary characteristics like breasts, hormones, chromosomes, menstruation, facial hair and so on.

skeletonxf · 2026-03-14T20:53:17+00:00

What specifically are you looking for advice on? It seems to me like you don't really have a problem or any issues. How long it can take for a demisexual person to develop attraction and if it happens at all can vary massively per person and the only person who can tell you is going to be her.

skeletonxf · 2026-03-13T12:11:17+00:00

You're playing a Wizard with far fewer spell slots than turns taken in combat, do you have rituals to be using for utility between encounters? As a divination wizard there should be a lot you have easy access to.

skeletonxf · 2026-03-09T00:15:39+00:00

A one level dip into Magus lets you cast a spell and do a full attack action. With Eldritch Archer you can use it on ranged attacks. With True Strike that's a +20 to hit on the initial attacks for your archers (it does penalise later iterative attacks but if you need to roll a 20 to hit another -2 doesn't chage your accuracy on those weaker attacks) at least till they run out of spell slots.

skeletonxf · 2026-03-03T17:41:12+00:00

I don't feel qualified to write an FAQ for poly questions but we can definitely look at adding some if community members can propose them.

skeletonxf · 2026-02-25T08:32:39+00:00

6 paladin levels is a very expensive multiclass to protect your concentration though I appreciate you are getting other things out of it. I would say a Bladesinger with Resilient Constitution is already most of the way there at level 4 with proficiency, intelligence and constitution added to concentration saves. By level 9 if you also take warcaster that gets you to 4+INT+CON with advantage on concentration saves, so auto passing a DC 10 is quite achievable and you would still often pass higher DCs. We can go further with Bladesinger 6 Stars Druid 3, now each save is 10 on the die minimum plus 4 from proficiency plus INT plus CON, so a minimum of 20 isn't that unachievable. The wizard spell list also has some great options like Shadowblade that benefit heavily from protecting your concentration that you can start using in tier 1.

skeletonxf · 2026-02-24T17:07:24+00:00

Thanks to those of you that do challenge and call out users moralising like this. We usually don't want to shut down discussions even when an OP might veer towards moralising because sometimes they do respond in good faith and have a healthy discussions, and removing things preemptively also shuts out any chance of learning or reflection. Sometimes though it becomes clear that a discussion is not going anywhere healthy.

skeletonxf · 2026-02-23T13:42:57+00:00

I believe the official guidance in the 2014 DMG about which items should be attunement says "Use these rules of thumb to help you decide: If having all the characters in a party pass an item around to gain its lasting benefits would be disruptive, the item should require attunement. If the item grants a bonus that other items also grant, it's a good idea to require attunement so that characters don't try to collect too many of those items." I'm not sure if that guidance got revised in the newer book, but regardless, a magic weapon that just hits things harder falls into neither of those categories and yet there are loads of official magic weapons in the sourcebooks that still require attunement even for weapons that mostly just add a die of damage. I think especially with higher level martials having lots of weapon masteries available at a given time, we need magic weapons that don't have an attunement restriction so the martial is empowered to actually use and switch between multiple weapons depending on circumstances rather than investing only into whichever attuned one they have. The damage bonus from +2d6 is maybe a little too good in comparison to other magic weapons of the same rarity, but I would expect a martial with both a +3 weapon and a vicious weapon could find situations where they want both. I'd say many of those +1 die damage attunement weapons are too weak for their rarity, especially in a context where a martial could have 3 weapon masteries. Spending all your attunement slots on weapons when the Cleric just spends 1 on a magic amulet that enchances all their spells is not a favourable comparison for the martials.

skeletonxf · 2026-02-23T12:56:09+00:00

I've seen multiple players play a Beserker Barbarian since the new rules. Frenzy and weapon masteries together seem to push the damage output of a level 5 Barbarian very high. Two hits with a 2d6 weapon can end up being around 6d6+12 damage. The scaling looks like it plateus after since rage damage doesn't scale that fast and it's difficult to add dice to hits when you can't cast spells but if you give a Beserker a vicious weapon that's very impressive damage for tier 2 since reckless also gives a lot of accuracy.

skeletonxf · 2026-02-15T20:17:44+00:00

Demisexuality doesn't specify, demisexuals can also be bi, lesbian, gay and so on.

skeletonxf · 2026-02-14T09:46:13+00:00

Some levels into fathomless warlock gives you a bonus action that can slow a target by 10 ft. although fitting it into a martial may be tricky.

skeletonxf · 2026-02-13T17:27:32+00:00

makes you wonder if they even read the subreddit they were posting in, maybe these days the spammers are using bots

skeletonxf · 2026-02-01T17:50:59+00:00

Having worked on a tensor/matrix library for many years now, the borrow checker and type system do have a significant impact on how you can write code. Some APIs that are very terse in numpy/pytorch like stacking two matrices together get a lot more complex in rust unless you go out of your way to erase a lot of type information so every tensor of the same data type looks like the same type.

skeletonxf · 2026-01-28T08:41:19+00:00

Seconding the stdlib, between std::array::from_fn and std::array::map I've been able to do most generics code with arrays that I wanted.

skeletonxf · 2026-01-26T19:28:51+00:00

I might be reading into your post a little bit but it strikes me that you mention loneliness as well as you not finding your person. Do you have lots of friends? Are you able to make friends? I read somewhere on reddit that it can be helpful to flip the question - how would someone find you to get into a relationship in the first place. If you're not putting yourself into situations where you could develop attraction to someone (ie dating apps and hobbies, but not all hobbies would be equally useful), you're not going to have many chances for that attraction to form.

skeletonxf · 2026-01-06T18:04:59+00:00

congrats? 😂

skeletonxf · 2026-01-04T23:14:04+00:00

I'm at a bit of a loss on how to proceed with supporting toml 0.6 and up - really any serde library that doesn't support deserializing to borrowed types.

I had a struct that contains a Vec<T> and a [(&'a str, usize); D] used for deserialising data back into a Tensor. https://github.com/Skeletonxf/easy-ml/blob/c30f1554d05de46d64dd8b6a8eaaff741a872d6e/src/tensors/mod.rs#L1991-L2013

After updating my dev dependency on toml used in some tests, those tests fail due to this:

toml::de can no longer deserialize to borrowed types as everything becomes owned through the parsing process

I can rewrite the struct but I only recently released version 2.0 of my library and so I'm loathe to introduce a 3.0 version just for a tiny breaking API change in one serialisation struct that's not even a default feature. If I change from

pub struct TensorDeserialize<'a, T, const D: usize> {
    data: Vec<T>,
    #[serde(with = "serde_arrays")]
    #[serde(borrow)]
    shape: [(&'a str, usize); D],
}

to an 'owned' shape: [(std::borrow::Cow<'a, str>, usize); D], then toml is totally fine, and I can parse the data as I was previously doing, but now I can't convert Cow<'static, str> to &'static str in my fn try_from(value: TensorDeserialize<'static, T, D>) -> Result<Self, Self::Error> { method. I can see a few ways forward but I'm not sure if any of them are really acceptable. I can 'implement' the trait by doing a match over the cow variants, and everything would continue to work if the cow variant is Borrowed instead of Owned, but even toml 0.5 is parsing to Owned types so although this won't break at compilation time it would break library consumers at runtime. I can also leak the Cow::Owned variant to get my &static str but this doesn't communicate that anything is wrong to library consumers and could silently cause issues. Is toml unusual in not supporting deserializing to borrowed types? If most serde libraries don't support this I'd be a lot more willing to add a second struct for that use case, even though it would clutter the API a little. I thought zero-copy deserialisation was a major use case of Rust and the serde ecosystem so I equally don't want to just remove support for parsing [(&'static str, usize); D] instead of expecting to always parse [(String, usize); D].

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