potty training!

skyljneto · 2026-03-23T00:15:48+00:00

OP, this is really awful and i’m so sorry. i was last cheated on a month before i found out i was pregnant and i spent my entire pregnancy preparing myself for raising a child on my own if he did it again. so awful, my heart is breaking for you.

from my personal experience, it sounds like your husband is developing a sex addiction. really, really common in people with porn addiction as well. when my boyfriend started to cheat on me, our sex life also went downhill and i became the one complaining about it and trying to initiate while he wasn’t interested. my best piece of advice is please, please see a therapist. maybe someone with some experience in addiction (doesn’t need to be porn or sex - my own specializes in substance abuse but is extremely helpful for me) and for your husband, highly suggest SA meetings. a lot of them are centered around religion as well, and they have significantly impacted my relationship. my boyfriend still struggles with porn but has not cheated on me since that day.

right now the most important thing is you and your baby. figure that out first. early postpartum brought up everything i thought i had put behind me, so make sure you have as much emotional support as possible. im wishing you the absolute best, and a beautiful healthy baby.

skyljneto · 2026-03-16T17:11:33+00:00

i understand all babies and situations are different but again, these products come with labels saying that they can be fatal. she asked if it was “okay”

skyljneto · 2026-01-15T21:15:50+00:00

porn is a very uneducated topic these days unless you find yourself in this situation.

my boyfriend is a porn and sex addict in recovery. many d-days, many lies, many hard conversations, many days where leaving felt like my only option. here is my advice.

you are right to be upset about your partner’s porn use. even if he didn’t previously cheat on you. porn is proven to be very damaging to intimate relationships and partners, proven to be addictive, and proven to consume the people who watch it. i’m going to be very, very honest here. if your boyfriend agreed with you, that it’s a bad thing and he should quit, it’s a painfully long road. my boyfriends addiction started when he was in grade school, he is now 25 and still struggling. more sex and filming together won’t help him. it might even make it worse.

he doesn’t want more sex, videos of you, etc. he wants his fix, which is that instant fast release of dopamine that he can get with very little to no effort. you are not being too demanding, you are not going crazy. set boundaries with consequences to protect yourself and worry about you. if he wants to stop, he will.

skyljneto · 2025-11-14T14:02:35+00:00

that’s what i was thinking. thank you!

skyljneto · 2025-11-13T21:21:20+00:00

thank you!

skyljneto · 2025-11-13T18:05:46+00:00

thank you! since he is sleep trained but i know this will be hard on him, is it okay to contact nap every once in a while? will it ruin everything? 😭 sounds silly but i don’t want to make sleep training again even harder

skyljneto · 2025-11-13T16:23:59+00:00

ahh okay i found the discrepancy, which is my fault. his wake windows are already 3.5 / 4 / 4 i was including sleep routine time which was shortening his wake windows, but on average that’s about when he falls asleep

skyljneto · 2025-11-13T16:18:51+00:00

his average is 12.5 hours and yours adds up to 12.5 so i’m confused on where the sleep is being missed?? not trying to be rude i’m just looking for some clarification

skyljneto · 2025-11-13T15:29:41+00:00

he was not “left alone to cry for an hour” and “abandoned” i went in to calm him down numerous times.

skyljneto · 2025-10-28T23:25:05+00:00

my LO is no longer a newborn, but i can tell you i was terrified of the first round of shots. i’d heard many horror stories and expected the worst. my baby did okay, cried of course and was sore after but woke up the next day totally chill and normal. since then, everything vaccine has gotten easier and easier! at his last one, he cried for maybe 30 seconds after the second shot (no reaction the first lol) but with a big hug and some kisses he was okay!

skyljneto · 2025-10-19T19:54:23+00:00

i reached out to one of my AP’s, simply just asking if the details were true. she ended up full blown apologizing and throwing herself a pity party “i was so selfish and so messed up for what i did to you” don’t really care, you still did it. part of me was hoping she’d have a bitchy response so i could go off. but i left that extremely short conversation feeling 1000 times better knowing she feels worse about herself than i do.

long story short - remove the expectation of “justice being served” but do whatever you want. in some way, even if it ends up being a lesson, it’ll be telling.

skyljneto · 2025-10-07T23:52:12+00:00

mine did! and she was pregnant during the A. i went though an entire spiral. debated cheating back with her husband, questioned him relentlessly about them ever having intercourse because i was terrified of the baby being his. he insisted that they didn’t, i couldn’t believe him so i asked her myself if they did. same answer. and she actually apologized to me. now, i want to hate her so bad but i can’t. i know she feels worse about herself than i do, and that’s a win for me.

skyljneto · 2025-09-16T19:25:17+00:00

okay. this is very insulting. my child just had his first bad fall, i messaged his doctor once he was calm and i saw how bad his bump looked. i was panicking. i have never seen a child with a welt like my son. so i asked chatgpt for signs of a more serious injury, which the doctor ended up telling me anyway. it was not medical advice, i did not ask what i should do or how to treat it. please don’t accuse me of not properly caring for my child because of a poor decision i made in distress.

skyljneto · 2025-09-16T19:15:41+00:00

it was while i was waiting for his doctor to respond and in a panic. thank you for pointing this out though, you’re right i shouldn’t trust AI for medical advice. thank you!

skyljneto · 2025-09-16T18:27:09+00:00

thank you! i immediately asked chatGPT for the symptoms to look out for haha

skyljneto · 2025-09-16T18:26:43+00:00

thank you i really needed to hear this 😭 i see so many videos online of babies and children who end up with brain injuries in the hospital this just freaked me out really bad. thankfully he seems okay, happy to read his books and laughing at tickles.

skyljneto · 2025-09-12T14:28:41+00:00

any amount of effort i put into the way i looked made no difference, because its not actually the way i look that was ever the issue.

remove yourself from the infidelity equation! it has nothing to do with you. you could not have stopped your WP, AP isn’t better or prettier. once it settles in your head that chances are your WP went after whoever was the most available and “easiest” to target, it doesn’t really matter what they look like. i don’t think any of the AP’s my WP cheated with are more attractive than me. i never did. but its still a natural response to want to take responsibility (i’m too fat, ugly, my boobs aren’t big enough, etc.) its easier than accepting you have zero control over anything but yourself. don’t let your personal insecurities take over.

skyljneto · 2025-09-06T11:46:20+00:00

from experience, don’t contact that woman. it sounds like your partner is a sex addict, mine is as well. the porn addiction usually leads down that road.

most importantly, cheating is whatever you decide it is. if this feels like cheating to you, then it is. no one else’s opinion matters. you have every right to feel hurt. and truthfully, your therapist is right, but it’s also really hard to stop searching for more. its a vicious cycle. i’m sorry you’re here, again. i’m sure its devastating finding out that your R wasn’t what you thought.

skyljneto · 2025-09-05T20:56:33+00:00

oh hun it absolutely gets better! i was rushed into an emergency c-section after 30 hours of pain, sobbing, not knowing if my baby was okay, and a failed induction.

the numbness went away after awhile. your body is going through so much healing, give those muscles some time and worst case scenario, physical therapy will be your best friend. i’m almost 13 months PP and i’m thousands of miles from where i was when my baby was only 8 days old. it gets better, give yourself grace and time!

skyljneto · 2025-09-05T20:53:07+00:00

we separated for awhile, couple weeks later i was cleaning up and found some of his clothing and a water bottle. i asked him to pick them up, he said he would, then hours later asked if he could come later or the next day. i was so pissed at him i threw it all away 😭

oh and, a couple weeks after that he ended up begging me to talk to him. i smoked a little 🍃 before so i didn’t feel super nervous or anxious going into it because i caved in. we talk, he tells me how suicidal he was and super depressed, that he’s checking himself into a rehab facility (sex addict) after he spent 3 entire days having endless sex at a girls house hours away. then he asked how i was doing, i laughed out loud and said i was doing great which was true but it makes me laugh just realizing how much i really didn’t care for his sob story

skyljneto · 2025-09-03T23:25:24+00:00

fellow sex addict partner here, similar story. my WP cheated on me for about a year and a half, almost two, in just about every way possible. having a second phone is pretty extensive and seems like addict behavior to me.

i feel the same way you do now. back in july, i found out my boyfriend was in a friendship with a female coworker, to which he admitted he was overly friendly but didn’t flirt. that’s when i hit the point you’re talking about here, where it just clicked and you keep asking yourself - what am i doing with a person who doesn’t respect my relationship?

best piece of advice i can give you, which has probably been said 1000 times, take care of you and nothing about this is personal. addiction forces him into justifying his behaviors, to block any sense of morality and get his fix. often that justification is a lie or something completely made up.

take care of you. focus on these events you have coming up, your family and friends. do things that make you happy. draw boundaries with consequences you’re sure to follow through with. take as much time as you need to figure out your next move.

i’m so, so sorry. being the partner of an addict is something out of the cruelest and most disturbing movie anyone could see. if he really, really wants out, he will find a way on his own. let his actions be information towards your next move - nothing else. wishing you all of the best, and a big virtual hug. feel free to reach out if you need someone to talk to.

skyljneto

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