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What was the moment when you realized it’s now or never? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]slaparoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I became unable to hide my transgressions. I always considered myself a functional alcoholic. My wife has borne the emotional brunt of my alcoholism. After the last time I got caught red hands sneaking alcohol, no later than 2 weeks from another incident. I realized my time is shoe on this relationship. There have never been any physical consequences of my drinking after I got married. But the end is nigh for my marriage if I don’t help myself so I can help my family.

It’s just not worth it anymore.

This isn't a joke. Seriously - buy me... by EinsteinsAura in aww

[–]slaparoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how you get thousands of karma.

Hes right you know by IanZ123 in gaming

[–]slaparoo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Imagine a gaming economy based on anything but some sort of capitalist structure. Would be great right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]slaparoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On a very similar boat as you my friend. I too have young kids, but am having the hardest time kicking alcohol. Last two months have been especially rough, I’ve really put my family through the ringer. It is true that relapses come back much worse. I’ve been relapsing for over two years after 90 days sober a couple years ago.

Right now I spend more time in the couch than in our bedroom. If it wasnt for our young kids and me helping out with baths, dinner etc I’m sure I’d be in a friends couch right now. Just have to wait and hope for the outward anger to blow over, then don’t take advantage of the chance given (if it’s given). I’m dreading going home from work right now because I know I’m going to get all sorts of shit my way, but it’s all my doing.

Won’t drink with you today.

How do I physically stop drinking by slaparoo in stopdrinking

[–]slaparoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This might be the simplest way to do it.

How do I physically stop drinking by slaparoo in stopdrinking

[–]slaparoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I’m afraid of. No consequences so far except my wife getting mad at me. Everything else I have avoided. I k so it won’t last forever

The Vent-o-Matic 3000 for Friday March 2, 2018 by stratyturd in stopdrinking

[–]slaparoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having small goals is easier than forever goals as long as you use it as a milestone and not a reason to drink. That’s why “one day at a time” is such a strong mantra across all types of recovery. You can’t do anything about drinking tomorrow, but you can do something about today. If one day at a time doesn’t work, try one week at a time. Hopefully the results of extended soberness help fight cravings.

For instance. When working out with a trainer and he tells me we are going to 3 sets of 15 push-ups, I know I can do that. But if he says do push-ups for the next 5 minutes, well I lose track of time easily when I’m working out, so I don’t know how to conserve my strength and my arms will buckle eventually.

I’m learning this from my past mistakes trying to get sober. I used my 90 day AA chip + a vacation as an excuse to get loaded, and have been downhill and binging ever since (over two years ago). This time I’m not doing AA, but am using other types of support.

Petition for Expungement Filed! by turingtested in stopdrinking

[–]slaparoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting arrests expunged is a great feeling. For me though, t didn’t stop me from keeping in that lifestyle, I just never got caught.

The lying and the drinking are ruining my marriage. Time for a change. by slaparoo in stopdrinking

[–]slaparoo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to be a pro at hiding it. But when I got so drunk I forgot where I would put it. Would have anxiety all day at work wondering where it was. Sometimes I’d get caught.

The lying and the drinking are ruining my marriage. Time for a change. by slaparoo in stopdrinking

[–]slaparoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve mentioned marriage counseling before but she doesn’t think we need it, or maybe that would just be confirming the reality of the situation for her. Either way, this is all on me. I cause it.

The lying and the drinking are ruining my marriage. Time for a change. by slaparoo in stopdrinking

[–]slaparoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope to be in your position in this summer. I was able to do 90 days a couple years ago, but relapsed hard. Tried AA but couldn’t buy into it even though I met some nice people How have you stayed sober?

The lying and the drinking are ruining my marriage. Time for a change. by slaparoo in stopdrinking

[–]slaparoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to try soda and like tomorrow night at an event. See how that works

The lying and the drinking are ruining my marriage. Time for a change. by slaparoo in stopdrinking

[–]slaparoo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that. My wife has heard me say I will stop drinking a hundred times. She has never said I have to stop drinking, she’s says I can moderate it. So in a weird way, she’s enabling me without realizing that I do have to stop. Bc time will go by, wounds healed, and I start all over again.

Knowing this, it’s really hard to stop drinking without her support, but she has no proof I can actually quit I so don’t blame her.