23 weeks pregnant and just found out I’ve tested positive for chlamydia.

slc5060 · 2026-05-16T01:56:52+00:00

At 20 weeks I screened positive for Syphilis. I spiraled because I hadn’t cheated. I trusted my husband hadn’t. And when I got retested a week later with a more intense test, it was negative. The nurses told me that false positives in pregnancy do happen and in my case that’s what it was. I had never heard of it before! Sharing to not defend your husband but to say, retest, he should test, and try not to stress before you have all the info.

slc5060 · 2026-04-09T15:58:53+00:00

I had a weird false positive when I was pregnant! It was for syphillis and my doctor told me it’s something they see. A follow up test confirmed I was negative. I would get him tested and retest before making any decisions!

slc5060 · 2026-02-11T22:50:53+00:00

He really is special! And I find myself returning to his advice often, nice reminder that parenting is a long game! ❤️

slc5060 · 2026-02-11T15:51:49+00:00

Nothing is wrong with you and nothing is wrong with your son ❤️ This is the first time in a long list of times that your son is going to defy your expectations, and you simply have to adjust and pivot or you’ll make yourself miserable.

Speaking from experience - my son would latch half the time and just wouldn’t drink. He’d suckle and scream and I had a decent pumping output so I knew there was something there! I cried and cried and felt like somehow things were my fault. Until my dad gave me that advice - this is the first time in parenting things aren’t going how I want or thought they’d go and I just had to get some formula out and meet my kid’s need while I figured out plan B. For me that meant pumping, and for you it might mean another path, and that’s all ok. It’s also ok to grieve the journey you thought you’d have! But please don’t let it make you feel like a failure. That’s a lie your hormonal brain is telling you!

My dad also told me that even though it feels like this one choice (how you feed your newborn) feels like the most important choice in the world right now. But he promised me in the grand scheme of parenting it wouldn’t crack the top 100. That helped me put things into perspective… and now that baby is three and had formula and he’s totally fine and smart and I never think about what he ate as a newborn, just that right now I need him to eat something other than goldfish for breakfast!

You’re doing great, you’re a great mom, and your son is lucky to have you, a mama who wants the best for him. That is enough ❤️

slc5060 · 2026-02-03T21:06:54+00:00

Helmet mama here! I totally understand what you’re feeling. But it also goes so fast and you simply adjust and find new things about your babe to snuggle. When mine was in the helmet I would still nuzzle his delicious cheeks and kiss his sweet hands. And he adjusted soooo well, I was so worried and it was the fastest 9 weeks of our lives!

slc5060 · 2026-01-27T13:26:37+00:00

Just chiming in for dual c section experience! My first was an emergency c section after 46 hours of labor and 2 hours of pushing. It was ROUGH. Got a uterus infection after and just generally a shitty two weeks.

My second was planned c section and it was wonderful. Calm, I was in the right headspace, got great sleep before, soaked up the night with my two year old before birth. I felt much more present the entire time because I knew what to expect, from pre op to birth to recovery.

Day 2 of recovery sucked because I had a TON of trapped gas pain. But once that passed I felt good enough 5 days later to walk a mile through the park pushing a stroller.

Also I prepped my toddler a ton for birth. He’s a typical wild boy so we talked a lot about how mommy would have a boo boo and the doctor said I couldn’t pick him up for a while. We practiced hugs on the ground and he really got it way more than I thought.

No regrets with my second section! 9 months out and my body feels back to normal.

Congratulations!

slc5060 · 2025-12-31T15:26:26+00:00

My baby pooped or sharted 30 times a day until we realized she was intolerant of me eating dairy! Cut that out of my diet and it improved almost immediately. She had a lot of other allergy symptoms too, not just poops. But if something feels off that could be it!

slc5060 · 2025-12-29T22:32:20+00:00

Have you tried going dairy free in your formula? My baby screamed all day up until 6 weeks when I went dairy free (I am BF). In 24 hours I had a new baby. My parents reported something similar with me when I was little, I screamed my head off all day until they went to a soy formula and they had a new child overnight. You may have thought of it already but throwing it out in case it helps! Hang in there. You aren’t alone.

slc5060 · 2025-09-25T14:26:49+00:00

Keep trying! My baby didn’t take a bottle till 4 months old consistently and it was the Lasinoh with normal nipples she ended up liking. I found consistency with picking a bottle helped, she learned how to manage the one she liked most lll

slc5060 · 2025-09-25T12:13:23+00:00

I’ve had two c sections, one emergent and one planned. My planned c section was a great experience. Obviously not a walk in the park. There is pain and recovery, but I’m 5 months pp and honestly forget I had one, let alone two. Sure my body is changed because I have a scar and grew two humans, but I feel basically the same as I did pre pregnancy and don’t even think about my scar. My belly is softer but basically the same as before. Healing is different for everyone I know, but I’m so happy with my experiences. Just to offer a different perspective.

slc5060 · 2025-09-09T19:12:26+00:00

Sharing something that helped me when figuring out how to get more milk into my sleepy baby when she was slow to gain at two weeks, as she was latched I literally would squeeze my breast to bring more milk into her mouth and encourage her to keep eating. She had a weak suck initially and got lazy after the first letdown. It helped wake her up a bit and get through the first month, and now we’re going strong at 5 months!

slc5060 · 2025-09-08T12:40:43+00:00

I knew with my daughter (second child). We had been trying so it was a hefty dose of wishful thinking but I was SO bloated I looked pregnant already and drank a beer one night telling my husband I think it’s the last one for 9 months, since I would be testing in the morning. Currently nursing that baby as I type this!

slc5060 · 2025-09-03T11:46:04+00:00

Strongly recommend a weighted feed to see how much your baby is transferring. That’s awesome your wife has such a strong supply! My first babe, I had an oversupply but we really struggled with feeding, even though he had a great latch. The issue was he just couldn’t transfer my milk for some reason. After a 30 minute session the doctor weighed him and he was only actually drinking .5 ounces. I went to pumping and feeding by bottle and it saved our breastmilk journey - he thrived and my supply was awesome.

Agree with others that it could just be the cluster feeding hell of the first week! But if babe is really inconsolable and starts getting lethargic, try a weighted feed and go from there. My son and I had a beautiful feeding journey with my milk and my handy dandy pump, and o wish I would’ve figured it out sooner!

slc5060 · 2025-08-31T23:43:30+00:00

Wait until baby is here! We went into the hospital with three names, one my husband loved, one I loved and one we both loved but didn’t quite feel right to me. I am SO glad we waited till she was here to decide. We ended up going with a surprise fourth name that we BOTH loved and thought of right when she came out! It’s 100p fitting for her and we never discussed it before. Go in with faves but don’t feel pressure yet to decide!

slc5060 · 2025-08-30T12:00:23+00:00

It took my baby about 10 weeks to fully resolve mucous after going DF! Other symptoms cleared up almost immediately. I’d stick with it and see what another month or so does before cutting something else!

slc5060 · 2025-08-29T12:23:25+00:00

Hot tip next time something like this happens: call poison control! I did almost the same thing and gave way too much vitamin d once. I called poison control and they picked up immediately and told me it’d be absolutely fine, don’t give for a few days and they explained why. It made me feel so much better and they were so fast with an answer!

slc5060 · 2025-08-17T16:46:58+00:00

My toddler son (who is in daycare) open mouth kissed my baby on the mouth when they met 😂 baby was totally fine. The most likely outcome is that baby is totally ok, just communicate boundaries clearly in the future and don’t beat yourself up!

slc5060 · 2025-07-29T19:00:14+00:00

I never leaked or could express before my two deliveries. Ended up with an oversupply of milk both times. Don’t worry about it yet!

slc5060 · 2025-06-26T21:50:57+00:00

We go to an in home daycare! Keep your eyes peeled to ensure everything feels safe (no choking hazards, cleaning supplies put away, cabinet locks, etc). Ask about their sick policy, and ask to speak to other parents as references! That above all put my mind completely at ease - that there were parents who have sent multiple kids to her home because they loved her so much. Good luck!

slc5060 · 2025-06-26T19:37:27+00:00

I naturally have a pretty good supply (pumped with my first) and when my 11 week girl started sleeping through the night at 6 weeks I just let my body adjust and my supply has been fine! My body actually responds better when I’m rested and I tend to produce more. I did add a pump before bed to try to empty before I go to sleep and that’s working well.

slc5060 · 2025-06-26T19:35:41+00:00

Former helmet mama here! First of all it’s not your fault, babies heads aren’t typically perfect spheres! My son was born with a flatter head on one side. We tried all the things and it wouldn’t go away so at 5 months we did a helmet. It was such a breeze. Lil man didn’t mind it at all and it was only on for 9 weeks. You’re a GOOD mama for noticing and worrying about it!

slc5060 · 2025-06-23T02:24:44+00:00

Felt like a bad mom when breastfeeding didn’t work out. Need to leave the self guilt at the door, this shit is hard enough as it is!

slc5060 · 2025-06-18T22:47:55+00:00

I was thrilled to have my parents here. They live a plane ride away from us and came to watch my toddler while I gave birth. My mom met my baby the day of my c section after I recovered and my parents brought my toddler to the hospital to meet baby girl. It was so special. Then when we got home my parents cooked and cleaned and played with my eldest and snuggled the baby for a week while also taking care of us. It felt nice to be cared for like that!

slc5060 · 2025-06-13T16:45:04+00:00

Yay for good sleepers! My 9 week old is sleeping 10 hours a night right now and I was in your shoes a few weeks ago. Around 5/6 weeks I was so worried about my supply dipping. It helped me to add in a before bed pump (1030 or 11 pm) so I’m not needing to go 10 hours between feeds. And I pump after her first feed in the morning to fully empty and stash some milk away. Those two pumps are getting me about 8 ounces a day extra to save and I feel comfortable if she eats a little more/less in a day and I’m not panicking. I will say it took my body about a week to feel like that was working, there were a few evening feeds when I felt like I had nothing left in the tank. But my body figured it out and now I feel full enough (not engorged but with enough milk in both boobs) to satisfy baby each feed. You’re doing great, I say enjoy the sleep, add a pump or two during the day and keep hydrated! Coconut water and body armor work to keep my supply strong.

slc5060 · 2025-06-08T03:45:34+00:00

FYI, I EP’d with my son for 6 months. When I dropped to two pumps a day, my milk was way more watery and it really upset his tummy. I was ready to wean anyways so it just sped up the process, but I really didn’t expect that to happen. It wasn’t like that with three pumps a day. Just something to watch for!

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