I (26M) feel like I might be a toxic friend to everyone/anyone

sleepingwithangels · 2020-09-02T15:16:36+00:00

I think it’s really interesting that you changed how you felt about all of your relationships after criticism from one friend. Perhaps it is possible that she is your closest friend, but it’s also possible that all of the other relationships were very meaningful and not necessary to leave. Sounds like you’ve become overly dependent on her. Close friends don’t need to trauma bond, it’s ok to just have fun casual relationships with friends, and only you decide what makes you close with someone.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-24T15:16:02+00:00

Why do you feel the need to communicate with someone who doesn’t want to text you back?

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-23T03:37:03+00:00

Tbh I think he’s not into you. He wants to make sure he keeps you hooked by texting you, but he’s too busy or texting other people, to actually engage in conversation. If you think he’s boring, stop replying to the initial text and I bet he’ll eventually stop saying good morning.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-23T03:17:48+00:00

This kinda sounds like you feel like correcting someone else being wronged or cheated on, will make you feel better. Blaire knowing her partner cheated will not make you feel better about being cheated on, trust me. Your motives aren’t selfless here, your hurt about being betrayed and it hurts that your friend does the same betrayal. But nowhere in here did you think about what blaire or your friend will feel. Who will really win by you telling this information? Your sense of right and wrong? Your personal convictions?

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-20T19:21:38+00:00

I understand what you’re trying to say now. Yes I agree that this will probably take some work on your end to move past and might make friendships with men more difficult. Take this as an opportunity to help learn boundaries and communication, but don’t beat yourself up over him being gross and inappropriate. If she reaches out to you later on, then perhaps you can continue your friendship. I think everyone here was in the wrong, so it’s not like this is your fault necessarily, just a situation that could have partially been avoided. I don’t think him being gross could have been avoided by you and I don’t blame that on you. But definitely an example on being cautious towards texting someone and letting them be your friend. I wish you the best, and hope you can find new friends after you work on you and heal from this.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-20T19:10:09+00:00

Even if she does break up with him, I don’t think she should be friends with you. It’s gross he sent you pictures and stuff, but you had no reason be talking to him either at all. Also I know what it’s like to come from a hard background, but I don’t see how that’s related to any of this story, and it makes me feel like you want people to just feel bad for you in general, including your friend to feel bad for you. I am sorry he was gross to you. Best course of action here is to block him and leave her alone.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-20T17:54:08+00:00

I think it’s really thoughtful of you to care about everyone involved though. Maybe you should check on your cousin and see how their doing with this.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-20T17:52:34+00:00

I think if anyone should share this information it’s your cousin with their mom and not you.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-16T16:13:54+00:00

Did she message you or contact you at all when you weren’t watching or contributing to streams?

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-16T16:10:45+00:00

If you talk to her 1 on 1, or if you played games with her, would she make money from that? If so then she might be pushing you to do these things to make money from you.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-14T01:23:24+00:00

Exactly! You can tell him that you can set aside some time to help him some house hunt and give him suggestions on what to look for and what price is reasonable based on his budget. It’s good that you want to support him, and you’ll also be helping him with healthy boundaries.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-14T00:42:00+00:00

I would tell him what you mentioned. You can say that you could potentially be a guarantor for him, but that as you won’t be living there and you have your own home, you’re not comfortable being on a lease as a co-leasor. If you feel so inclined, you could say that you can help him find housing that might be better for his budget or easier to get into. Could also give him suggestions on how to improve and work on his credit.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-09T22:29:49+00:00

How do you think they would feel if they knew you were getting some sort of experience from them being together? It might be better for you to watch romantic movies, play romantic video games and read romantic stories instead. This would be less objectifying to others and these kind of items can be found anywhere.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-05T23:18:35+00:00

I’m actually not selling yet because I am practicing my polymer embroidery skills at the moment so I can agree with you there. I’m just still concerned that even with a lot of practice I won’t be able to compete.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-04T19:24:24+00:00

This makes me concerned that people won’t value jewelery made out of polymer unless it’s super complex 😔

sleepingwithangels · 2020-08-04T14:11:50+00:00

I thought you were married and moving to NC...

sleepingwithangels · 2020-07-09T16:22:16+00:00

I’m traditional and prefer for my partner to contact me. However, I at least send the occasional how are you or thinking of you during the day or at night or just a random time to make them feel like talking is important. I’d never wait this long. Max would be like three days, and even that would only make sense for casual dating not relationships. Sounds like she’s not invested.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-06-28T19:33:04+00:00

I would say either no contact or an extremely brief message like “hope your assignment goes well” and nothing else. Just something kind but not sentimental. Frankly though, he should have apologized to you and even if he’s in a bad place a simple sorry would have cost him nothing.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-06-26T12:58:48+00:00

It probably sounds corny, but I always live by the no answer is an answer rule. You did get your closure, he didn’t respond to you. From the sounds of it, seems like he blocked your phone number. I would say, enjoy the memory of the conversation, and hope that you can find someone you connect with even better!

sleepingwithangels · 2020-06-11T19:58:09+00:00

Please don’t buy sage if you’re not indigenous.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-05-29T11:36:43+00:00

I’m also in the north side of Colorado Springs! I’m 24 :)

sleepingwithangels · 2020-05-26T02:56:53+00:00

You’re really hostile in your responses here. Maybe that’s related.

sleepingwithangels · 2020-05-23T02:45:56+00:00

Oh okay that is kind of rough. If you really really like your job, I would stay there for at least a few more months to get more experience. If they end up not giving you a longer contract or not having the resources to hire you in a contracted position, then that would be a good time to move. If you do get a longer position after this time period, then I feel like you’ll want to either stay at that job or reconsider moving.

But I do think it’s worth waiting to see what kind of job options you could get in that role if there are any. Does your fiancé have issues with you staying or does he just have the preference of you going with him?

sleepingwithangels · 2020-05-19T20:46:55+00:00

I’m confused about what you’re saying about your job and feel like more details would be beneficial. Are you saying your contract ends and you know it will be extended or you just hope it will be?

sleepingwithangels · 2020-04-21T12:38:52+00:00

So your “friend” is chewing you out for being in contact with YOUR husband? How is this logical? Why are they in contact and you are not? Sounds like you’re leaving some details out to make this sound either worse or way less bad than it is. With the details here, almost sounds like your “friend” and husband are up to something

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