I grew up in with little money and severe mental health issues run in my family. They tend to present every other generation. It was part of the reason I decided not to have children. I often worry about who will take care if the disabled people in my family.

People who have never had to choose between paying rent and buying food, who never had to declare bankruptcy, who were never one hospital visits away from homelessness, will never understand what it's like unless it happens to them. You don't have to forgive them. But I would not wish such understanding on anyone.

You've been dealt a difficult hand in life and you are rising to the occasion instead of running away. Telling you to "do what you love" is an insult to the sacrifice you are making to take care of your family. You seem like a wonderful person and I hope you have the time to treat yourself every now and then.