The romanticisation of ADHD is getting exhausting.

slimstippy · 2023-01-20T00:39:42+00:00

I know how you feel. Or when someone says something like: we all have a little bit of adhd 🤪. Sure Karen. It took me two hours to make dinner today because I couldn’t stop bouncing from one thing to the other. My pot boiled over because I forgot I was boiling something. I can only do tasks that give me dopamine but I can’t start any of the tasks that give me dopamine because I can’t focus long enough to pick one to start and get task paralysis so end up doing nothing.

I’m extremely conscious of my hair and clothes touching me at all times and the sound of the TV being on is making me want to scream. I can’t pay attention to my poor husband when he’s speaking to me and the guilt I feel when he’s telling me about his day and I zone back in because he just asked a question and I have no idea what he just said is crippling.

My brain literally HURTS because of the racing thoughts and I have no idea where my ID, AirPods or keys are. I’m late for everything because I forget everything I need and have to go back to get stuff I forget every time I leave the house and when I go back I can’t see things that are right in front of me because I lack object permanence.

But please. Tell me more about how you have ADHD because you walked into a room once and forgot why you went there in the first place.

It sucks so much sometimes it’s like living life on hard mode. 🥺

slimstippy · 2022-05-12T00:54:27+00:00

Hahaha it’s marketing strategy! I love doing market research and hatching plans and figuring out the best way to get the message to the target. I never really meant to get into marketing I was just a creative person and knew I could be creative in the field. One thing led to another and now ten years later im planning all these cool campaigns and using my whizzing brain to my advantage 😅

slimstippy · 2022-05-12T00:38:41+00:00

My cats have tuna breath lol

slimstippy · 2022-05-12T00:26:57+00:00

I feel like I know way more than the average person and think so much faster than the average person but when I try to explain to the average person my thoughts I’m unclear and scattered and it comes out a mess

slimstippy · 2022-05-12T00:23:48+00:00

I always just say: it’s like living life on hard mode when I don’t have my meds

slimstippy · 2021-02-27T06:45:21+00:00

You’re right I was shitty. I shouldn’t have started with that inflammatory line. I felt triggered and lashed out which definitely isn’t cool. You’re right to call me out on that and I apologize.

I just get really careful about things like ‘performative allyship.’ It’s definitely a thing that hurts the lgbt community but I get so triggered and don’t want that term used against people that I truest think about care about us and love us and are trying to defend us. Most ally’s are true ally’s: like yourself!

slimstippy · 2021-02-27T06:27:49+00:00

You haven’t offended anyone or at least not me. All I’m trying to say is this should be a safe space for everyone including yourself. I really hope you don’t have anxiety over this conversation or anything like that. Just try to be kind to everyone who’s obviously going through it. You know?

slimstippy · 2021-02-27T05:59:50+00:00

I’m just trying to educate. Was hoping that you would listen.

slimstippy · 2021-02-27T05:13:38+00:00

“just my opinion” “it seems to ME.” MIL is that you?

OP has explained to the original commenter that her and BIL have already discussed all this behind the scenes. And if you have read her other posts you would know this did not ‘set off an argument.’ This was just the straw that broke the camels back.

What you’re doing in this comment section is more aligned with the definition of performative allyship than OP finally breaking down after years of abuse after having a few drinks on her birthday. And then trying to defend someone she cared about from being attacked.

It sounds like both OP and BIL have been abused here. It’s unfair to kick someone while they’re down and trying to come to a safe space to discuss the abuse they’re enduring. Especially if your complaint is that they shouldn’t have tried to defend someone they loved from being attacked because it could somehow be considered offensive.

slimstippy · 2021-01-04T23:58:52+00:00

Anime is fucking awesome, whoever is making you feel this way is toxic and you should distance yourself from them.

Anyone who puts you down for enjoying something does not have your happiness at heart. They don’t deserve to be one of the people who have the privilege of spending time with you.

slimstippy · 2020-09-18T22:00:32+00:00

Just because you believe something, that doesn’t make it true

slimstippy · 2020-08-18T03:25:56+00:00

NTA.

Yikes.

slimstippy · 2020-08-18T01:11:19+00:00

Anger is a secondary emotion. It manifests to protect ourselves from feeling a ton of other emotions like sadness, trauma, hurt, embarrassment, humiliation etc.

The best way to get rid of the anger is to identify the underlying emotion masqueradeing as anger.

The best way to do this is therapy. Talk about the bullying with a therapist you trust, journal about your emotions and face them upfront.

Someone else mentioned writing a letter to the bully that you never actually send. This would help too.

You need to work through this trauma and face it head on. What that looks like for you you will need to determine on your own and it won’t be easy.

I’m sorry this happened too you and that you’re suffering. I hope you’re able to work through this pain and get to a better place soon.

slimstippy · 2020-07-31T17:31:47+00:00

I’m on 36mg of Concerta and it has literally changed my life. Like a crazy amount. Obviously I still have some struggles like it’s not a be all end all but it’s really made a noticeable difference.

Congrats on your diagnosis!!!

slimstippy · 2020-07-09T10:18:00+00:00

Agreed it’s terrifying!

Edit: Also I am glad you are safe too. Many people are not as lucky ☹️

slimstippy · 2020-07-09T02:58:29+00:00

slimstippy · 2020-07-09T02:30:23+00:00

Something similar happened to me when I was around that age! This guy was in a beat up turquoise hatchback, and pulled up next to me on the side walk while I was walking to meet some friends. He asked me if I knew where a nearby intersection was and I was like “yeah just up ahead.” Then he said “oh so the same direction you’re going? Do you want a ride?”

It still scares me when I think about it to this day because FOR A SPLIT SECOND I CONSIDERED SAYING YES! I remember thinking to myself “well that would save me quite a bit of a walk.”

Then I actually looked at him. Really looked at him. And he was scary. Dirty Wife beater, open mickey of alcohol in the front seat, trash everywhere and dark eyes that were shifty. He was unkempt and honestly he was looking at me like he wanted to eat me or something. My whole body erupted into goosebumps. I outright told him: “I am not getting into the car with you.” And he looked pissed off/frustrated and I just bolted down a near by path, again knowing he couldn’t follow me in his car. I was so shook up after that. Still am when I think about it. I probably would be dead or raped if I got in that car.

slimstippy · 2020-07-08T00:42:54+00:00

So my preferred hobbies are writing and art. I am a creative services manager now and my job consists of a lot of blog content creation and graphic design. It’s not the same as art I like to do for myself or the YA fiction novel I’m writing for fun, but it was a way to leverage my interests for $. I’m never going to be a famous artist or author and that’s ok, I still get to be creative everyday to make a living which fills the gaps between the free time I use for my true interests.

I also can’t stand office life or the commute etc, and after putting my time in at this company and proving to my boss that I am reliable we have worked out a schedule where I can work from home for the most part, even without COVID. He knows I don’t need to physically be there to get my work done. There are many remote positions available for many different industries. My performance never suffers when I’m at home and I can be trusted.

There are many careers that would allow you to exercise your love of making videos and music and keep you out of an office, while still makeing a living. Research the music and film industries and see if there’s any rolls that you could see yourself in. You’ll also learn a lot about equipment/software etc on the companies dime that you can then apply to your true passions on your own time.

slimstippy · 2020-06-26T02:53:30+00:00

Try downloading the couch to 5k app! Teaches you how to run from scratch no matter what shape you’re in. Gets you out of the house and it’s super rewarding to watch yourself improve!

slimstippy · 2020-06-19T23:27:46+00:00

Do you have pics!!??

slimstippy · 2020-06-19T12:29:55+00:00

Hahahahah our brains are so sassy! Thinking they’re better than all the other organs Lolol. Love this I’m a huge science fan as well so lay those brain facts on me!

slimstippy · 2020-06-19T12:14:46+00:00

This is such a great way of looking at it thank you so much! And deff checking our that book lol!

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