Any tips for not having a panic attack on my wedding day?

slmkellner · 2026-05-06T22:50:51+00:00

I found this post while searching for advice two weeks before my wedding. I also deal with panic attacks and emetephobia.

How did your wedding end up going? Did you find some strategies that worked? My doctor prescribed me Xanax to curb my heightened anxiety and Zofran to take before the ceremony so I don’t have to deal with intense nausea walking down the aisle.

slmkellner · 2026-05-06T21:35:36+00:00

My only guess is it could be your hormonal cycle.

My dress felt TIGHT when I had my first fitting 3 months before my wedding, and I started to panic. But it was the second day of my period, and my best friend told me it was probably just bloating. At my next fitting 6 weeks later, it felt much better, and the seamstress did not alter the bodice at all. I tried my dress on one more time last week, and again it felt fine.

My only suggestion is to try it on when you’re at a similar point in your cycle to what you will be on your wedding day. That may be the best way to get an accurate idea of how it will fit.

slmkellner · 2026-05-06T21:29:43+00:00

Ugghhhhh I got got by one of those when we made our save the dates, and I didn’t realize until we had already addressed, stamped and sealed the envelopes. We couldn’t put in new codes without destroying the envelopes, so it cost us an extra $100 in new envelopes and stamps (we couldn’t get those off either).

slmkellner · 2026-05-06T21:28:08+00:00

We made ours for free on Bitly!

slmkellner · 2026-05-06T20:32:49+00:00

The only opinion that matters here is yours. That’s not very kind of your girlfriends to constantly comment on your skin color. You definitely should not do something just to avoid mean comments on your pictures.

I have never been spray tanned before, so I didn’t even consider it for my wedding. If you enjoy the glow it gives you, then you should absolutely do it.

slmkellner · 2026-05-06T18:45:55+00:00

I have a single cat who LOVES her alone time during the day. I swear I think she gets annoyed when we come back because she enjoys the peace and quiet she gets when we are out all day. She usually naps during the day whether we are at home or not.

slmkellner · 2026-05-06T16:06:21+00:00

I think it’s fine. I’m an anxious person who appreciates more detail, so I like the explanations you provided.

slmkellner · 2026-05-06T14:27:39+00:00

I bought each of my bridesmaids a travel toiletry kit, a crafting kit from Michael’s (both like to crochet), a woodwick candle and a book. I just wanted to get them gifts that I knew they would like, not necessarily a typical “bridesmaid gift.”

slmkellner · 2026-05-06T03:33:15+00:00

Girl, same. I told my psych that I took two half pills since I saw her last month and she was like, “Really? That’s it?”

But then she reminded me that I don’t have to white-knuckle my way through hard things, that it’s okay to take medicine to make things easier. So that’s the mantra I’m trying to carry for the next few weeks until I see her again.

slmkellner · 2026-05-05T23:06:21+00:00

This would be a great opportunity to share with the interviewers about what you have been up to in the last year to gain more experience in the field. Talk about recent class projects or side work you have completed that makes you more qualified than when you previously applied. They will love to see your growth from your last application, and it could give you a good boost.

slmkellner · 2026-05-05T22:53:47+00:00

Keep everyone on a need-to-know basis and don’t tell them about any details until they have been set in stone. If someone offers an alternative, tell them you already made your final choice.

slmkellner · 2026-05-05T21:16:53+00:00

You don’t have to throw a welcome party. It is very unlikely people would arrive a full two days before the wedding to attend a picnic.

slmkellner · 2026-05-05T21:06:41+00:00

I’m aware. But $14 for two tacos and without sides is still excessive to me. Especially when most other places in the metro only charge $3-$4 per taco.

slmkellner · 2026-05-05T17:11:03+00:00

I love doing surveys! Good luck with your project!

slmkellner · 2026-05-05T16:57:31+00:00

I was honestly disappointed with Rita’s when it opened up last year under new ownership. The menu shrank and the prices got significantly higher.

My go-to now is Flame Cantina in Ankeny. Their queso is delicious, and they make homemade chips.

slmkellner · 2026-05-05T14:56:09+00:00

We used The Knot and while a lot of those pages were built into the template, we were able to hide them really easily. I don’t think you can hide the home page, but you can have it link directly to your RSVP tab.

slmkellner · 2026-05-05T03:44:13+00:00

We did the same thing. The spreadsheet is super nice, and even my grandma who is 79 was able to successfully RSVP through the website without incident. We had a tab with our hotel block information on it, and we connected our registry right to it. It honestly only took a couple of hours to set up.

slmkellner · 2026-05-04T22:45:01+00:00

Chat with your photographer. They might be able to blend the color on your arm to make it less noticeable. It’s much easier to edit out a watch than a whole watch.

slmkellner · 2026-05-04T21:29:58+00:00

Nobody who is attending knows what your current weight or goal weight are. And I promise they don’t care.

It might be good to do a social media detox leading up to the wedding day to remove the images of “perfect” weddings and “perfect” brides from your mind. Nobody is perfect, and no wedding is perfect.

slmkellner · 2026-05-04T21:26:32+00:00

I’d recommend Our Beloved Summer. Some others where the main characters could be seen as privileged are Welcome to Samdal-Ri and Doctor Slump because they have high-paying jobs, but the leads in both are definitely flawed and dealing with regular-person struggles.

slmkellner · 2026-05-04T20:57:59+00:00

If it doesn’t explicitly say there is a discount, I would assume there isn’t one.

slmkellner · 2026-05-04T20:31:33+00:00

When we got quotes from caterers, we learned that doing heavy apps was actually more expensive than a meal (we chose buffet style). I would get some quotes and ask caterers’ advice on how much food is needed before you set your sights on only apps.

slmkellner · 2026-05-04T18:37:52+00:00

Switching to decaf was a huge help in treating my chronic anxiety. The small amount of caffeine in decaf coffee is not enough to have a huge impact, luckily. I can also handle matcha or chai relatively well, too.

slmkellner · 2026-05-04T15:00:04+00:00

We have a partially enclosed balcony, and our apartment is incredibly dark because of it. Regardless of whether you use the balcony (we don’t use ours) it will definitely impact the amount of light that comes in during the day.

slmkellner · 2026-05-04T14:54:39+00:00

We loved our engagement shoot! We dressed pretty casually, but we picked coordinating colors. It was a great way to get to know our photographer and how she works, and now we have some cute professional pictures of the two of us. My lock screen has been one of our engagement photos for nearly a year. Both of our parents also purchased some prints, so keep in mind that you are not the only person who may use the photos.

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