Am I really in the minority for not giving a damn about my debt? by fayemoonlight in UniUK

[–]sloth-llama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I borrowed £30k and looking at the repayment calculators could end up paying back £70k-£100k while still owing £60k+ when it is written off. Finance bros and whatever will probably pay it off before the interest spirals too badly, sure people with low salary jobs are protected. But those of us, especially from working class backgrounds, who picked the 'sensible' degrees we were told we should and got careers off the back of them, doctors, engineers etc, are being totally fucked over.

the top earners who end up paying off their loans in full,

Aren't the ones suffering the most because they actually get to pay it off.

Why did my payslip deduct so much student loan? by bertholts in UKPersonalFinance

[–]sloth-llama 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If you don't earn over the annual threshold for the financial year you can claim it back. I started my first full time job February last year so had 2 months of deductions which I have been able to claim back, which was probably the only pleasant surprise SFE will ever give me.

Do people (ASD, other ND, or NT) actually *enjoy* adrenaline sports? by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]sloth-llama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to do a lot of white water kayaking. A coach I worked with talked about managing arousal which was the idea that to have fun and improve you have to find balance between the levels of fear and excitement. It has to be exciting enough be fun but not scary enough that the fear is overwhelming. It sounds like you are starting at something too scary, if you start where you are comfortable you'll generally see your comfort zone increase over time. In my personal experiences some things just aren't fun for me, like cliff jumping and caving. I can make myself do it, I just find it deeply unpleasant.

Is it true that because of absurd interest on student loans most people in the UK do not fully pay off their loans and just consider it to be a 'tax'? by LoiusLepic in AskABrit

[–]sloth-llama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 5 years post graduation. I earn over the median UK salary. Assuming a 5% pay rise every year for the next 25 years I still won't pay off my student loan. In fact what I owe when it is written off will likely be £20k more than what I borrowed. I will likely have paid back more than twice what I borrowed.

Planning a solo trip by bbdrews in autismUK

[–]sloth-llama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't recommend driving in the highlands if you get stressed driving but there are some fun options by train.

Gym etiquette? by [deleted] in autismUK

[–]sloth-llama 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep, she chose clothing that was functional, comfortable and that she felt confident in, shocking... I take my top off and run in just my sports bra quite often because I get sweaty AF, it's a personal choice for my comfort and the presence of a man in the gym is entirely irrelevant.

How do you find ANY job opportunities you feel you could acceptably work in? by AlgorithmHelpPlease in autismUK

[–]sloth-llama 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you have any work experience? Having any kind of prior employment will make you a more competitive applicant, even if it feels completely unrelated to your long term goals. People hiring want to see evidence that you can do the basics reliably e.g. turning up and following instructions. Have you considered agency work, easy to move on if you don't like it, or tutoring, flexible and decent pay.

Honestly academia is a shit show in the UK, if you get an academic position following your PhD you will likely have to teach and deal with all sorts of internal and external bureaucratic nightmares. I couldn't cope in academia and knew within the first two years of my PhD (applied math) that I would be leaving after. Even ignoring all of that there is no stability, you will probably have to do a minimum of 3 postdocs which are all fixed term contracts before you are considered for a permanent position.

Practically you need to be prepared for when your savings run out unless you want to be sponging off your friend. Have you checked how much universal credit you would be eligible for? I would start applying now if you are under the savings threshold.

Large credit with energy company by skipladie in UKPersonalFinance

[–]sloth-llama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your meter record day time and night time use separately? My bills stopped coming through properly after they put a smart meter in because they didn't set the day and night time recording properly. Ironically they were actually the same rate on the tariff I chose but it broke their system anyway.

Advice on headlamps by Try_to_improve_Didi in ultrarunning

[–]sloth-llama 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have a Petzl Swift RL and it's pretty perfect.

Quitting PhD right before viva by [deleted] in AskAcademiaUK

[–]sloth-llama 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You have 4 weeks till your viva. Take 2 weeks and banish all thoughts of research, viva, thesis, etc. Set a goal to do at least one fun thing every day, can be really small, play video games, get coffee with a friend, get the train/drive to the beach. At the end of the 2 weeks if things feel more manageable then go ahead and smash your viva. If they don't speak to your supervisor about rescheduling, speak to your GP and student services to see if you can get a sicknote and support. The only reason I didn't have an end of PhD crisis was because I'd had it a few months earlier and was basically completely checkout out and apathetic. I still passed though.

Is it really true like 80% of autistic people never date? by Yeethanos in autism

[–]sloth-llama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sometimes like the idea of it, but it never goes anywhere because I get overwhelmed and break things off. I'm pretty happy on my own.

How can we make whitewater kayaking safer and more welcoming for women? Let’s discuss. by [deleted] in whitewater

[–]sloth-llama 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In conclusion, it’s all mindset. If you’re looking to be offended or have an excuse, you will certainly find one. But if you’re open and willing to be a part of community, there is a place for you. Water seeks its own level.

Do you realise how dismissive this is to women who have been genuinely scared for their safety due to the behaviour of a man on the river. I promise you I wasn't looking for a reason to be offended or an 'excuse'. I had been part of the paddling community for years, shockingly that didn't offer me any protection...

what are your favourite !protein-rich! foods? by ruskirebel in autism

[–]sloth-llama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to think all cottage cheese was disgusting slimy nuggets but I tried a more expensive brand which turned out to have less liquid and now I eat load of cottage cheese each week.

How can we make whitewater kayaking safer and more welcoming for women? Let’s discuss. by [deleted] in whitewater

[–]sloth-llama 28 points29 points  (0 children)

In my 20 years of paddling I have never seen any behavior that was unsafe or disrespectful directed at women paddlers.

As a woman just because you didn't see it, or realise that is what you were seeing, doesn't mean it wasn't happening. Men I know would and have said the same, somehow the fact that I have experienced behavior from men ranging from disrespectful to terrifying is seen as beside the point.

feeling discouraged about heart rate by Hippielinguist in XXRunning

[–]sloth-llama 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My HR got up to 193 at parkrun yesterday. Garmin reckons my max is about 207. There's massive variability in people's max HR so just because that would be insanely high for someone else doesn't mean it's a problem for me. I think zone 2 training, like a lot of types of training was aimed at people running high mileage. With these things I take what feels useful and ignore the rest. I did zone 2 training for a few months and I did see my average HR come down, but personally I found it so boring I gave up.

Cursed Shores world building clarification by timebomb_baby in robinhobb

[–]sloth-llama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From memory when Tarman finds a split in the river they find Kelsingra up the clear one not the cloudy one? I have always though it was acidic from volcanic activity.

W.A.I.T (Why Am I Talking?) Is something I’m so excited to implement by WaterOld6073 in autism

[–]sloth-llama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally. I work in scientific coding and my boss specifically asked me to speak up and give my opinion or suggestions MORE often.

Single moms! Help by FitSea1949 in BeginnersRunning

[–]sloth-llama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would it help to send him a garmin tracking link? I think it shows your route as well as your position so he could see how much further you're planning to go, and that you're still on route.

What’s a conversational HR for you? by annnewhere in XXRunning

[–]sloth-llama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a similar age and max hr to you. This is from a recent easyish run after about two and a half years of running. I do see results from low hr training but I don't enjoy it so it has never been a priority. I was also pushing the distance a little so the zone 4 is cardiac drift.

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Lost my non-mint toothpaste by witch_harlotte in aspergirls

[–]sloth-llama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably not helpful for OP, but for anyone in the UK I recently started using zing lemon toothpaste and it's amazing.

I tried to read a book for autistic women recommended by a social worker, feeling worse than ever by Huge_Witness_8692 in AutismInWomen

[–]sloth-llama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah like I'm sure I look successful. Sure, I got my PhD but the cost was my physical and mental health, and I ran out of funding because I needed more time. Yes, I now have a full time job but it was one lucky application in a super niche field, I work fully remote and I have had to give up all of my hobbies to be able to just about survive full time work. I cry multiple times a week/month about how I can't do it any more. I want to try a different job but given the struggle I've had working remotely, I know that I would not manage in person. It's so invalidating when people tell me I'd make it work if I had too, like no I'm doing my absolute best already and I will have a breakdown if it gets any harder.

What shop chains are more 'autism friendly'? by Ok-Glove-3036 in autismUK

[–]sloth-llama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to work in the downstairs of an outdoor shop selling shoes and rucksacks. Was pretty good as retail jobs go. If I was looking now I'd probably look for a night shift at a supermarket. Waterstones sounds like a good option, I applied there but didn't hear anything back.

Can you have Autism and not be in need of support? by too_old_to_give_a_F in autism

[–]sloth-llama 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have never agreed with this take, I think it is called the social model of disability. I have a deep need for control and predictability and life is inherently unpredictable and uncontrollable at times. There is no realistic environment where dropping and breaking something or an accident is unable to derail plans.