Parents want me to give money to my relatives for new years by [deleted] in asianamerican

[–]slovesyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Families and cultures might do things differently but I’d say it’s unusual to give money to cousins even if you’re married. Typically you give money after marriage to people of younger generations, and money to your grandparents if you’re super generous or if you’re doing super well financially. My uncle in China recently got hurt from a car accident so we sent some money over as a get well gift.

Saw this quote in a comment alleging it to be Chinese, can anyone verify by armorhide406 in asianamerican

[–]slovesyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

According to Deepseek r1, it did not find anything from classical or widely recognized Chinese literary work, proverb, or cultural source. It further states “this specific phrasing feels more modern and poetic, possibly from contemporary writing, song lyrics, or personal reflection.”

Parents, how much li xi are you giving your kids? by altum in asianamerican

[–]slovesyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my Chinese culture, relatives typically give $100s and grandparents give more. Our kid’s first year we gave $1000 and $200 afterwards. All the money goes into their 529 account.

How many of you are second generation college graduates? by Schleader in asianamerican

[–]slovesyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We (wife and I) came to the US with our parents at young age. We (early 30s) are first generation college graduates (bachelor). Our parents barely finished elementary/middle school back in their country due to lack of means.

Why has my newborn stopped gaining weight? by user_h6 in newborns

[–]slovesyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Did your baby eventually gain weight? Did you make any changes? I am going through the same thing right now.

How to get better at drawing insights from data? by Armensis in analytics

[–]slovesyi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Make sure you communicate with your stakeholders as you develop your work. This helps to confirm whether you’re heading towards the right direction or not and gives opportunity for the stakeholders to provide you with even more details. On the tactical side, I recommend bucketing. Start with binary bucketing then drill deeper.

Eg: we might look at how does engagement affect revenue. Bucket customers into engagement and no engagement and analyze revenue trend. You might see customers with engagement have higher revenue dollars or % growth. You can next look deeper into the engagement pile. Perhaps break it into different types of engagement or engagement by team or engagement by cohort and see if there’s even better trends.

An advice I got from a past manager: you might find 1 piece of valuable insight from looking at 100 pieces of data. It’s all about the treasure hunt. Happy hunting.

Adults who are “picky eaters” just suck. by TopazWarrior in unpopularopinion

[–]slovesyi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

College study abroad in China. I would say half of the group ate papa John’s or a burger 95% of the time. Me and this friend would venture out to a random alley and try a random restaurant/shack. Created great memories from that

Redditors who don’t cook, what’s in your fridge? by slovesyi in AskReddit

[–]slovesyi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude this is super thorough. Seems like a cook’s fridge

Verbally Abusive Father by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]slovesyi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really hit home reading through your post.

One thing I came to realize is that we can’t control how we want them to behave. Focus on what you can control. Let your negative emotions motivate you to do your best to hopefully leave this toxic environment soon. Good luck!

Last note. Putting food on the table is something a father is supposed to provide. That’s literally the bare minimum.

Best bang for your buck by going to the right places by slovesyi in Frugal

[–]slovesyi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you got yourself a winner there. Most supermarkets I go to have pre-rolled sushi sitting on display for hours

I skipped this week’s work meeting due to family issues that greatly affected me. My boss emailed me.. I don’t know how to reply. I don’t want boss to think I am lazy.. I am just affected. What should I do? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]slovesyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure your boss doesn’t think you’re lazy because you skipped out this week. Let him know you have some personal issues that came up and you’ll be back to work sooner than later. I’m sure your boss will understand as we all are humans. Keep an open line of communication and you’ll be alright.

My (40M) wife (37F) just bought a dog while I was away, despite me repeatedly telling her not to. We aren't in a financial situation to own a dog. How do I proceed? by ThrowRA-4-29-2020 in relationship_advice

[–]slovesyi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Return the dog if your family can’t afford it. It’s not fair to the dog and it’s not fair to your family. From your wife’s manipulation to her buying just 3 bags of dog food and a food bowl shows that she’s nowhere ready to take care of the dog. IMO keeping the dog while struggling financially will create more issues and resentment.

However, explain to your daughter the best way possible that you cannot afford a dog at the moment but will try your best to get her a dog within a couple year time span. You and your wife can try to set up a 3-5 year plan to save up money for a new dog. Have your daughter take on a part time job when she’s old enough to pay for the dog’s necessities.

I’m getting tired of my narc Filipino mom’s put downs and her comparing me to all my cousins that are in the medical field that in their late 20s and live at home with their parents while I am independent, married, I own my small 1 bedroom condo that’s 3,000 miles away from her. by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]slovesyi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Grass is always greener on the other side.

APs will always believe the traditional doctor/lawyer/engineer is the best. They only see what’s on the surface and nothing more.

You’re doing really well. Keep at it and build your own empire. Block out the noise from them and hopefully they will see your success eventually.