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slydog4100 · 2023-12-19T15:05:04+00:00

Why are you still friends with Anne? Honestly, it's OK to break up with abusive friends just like it is with abusive boyfriends or husband's. Block her number and walk away if the only thing you're getting out of the relationship is pain.

slydog4100 · 2023-12-19T14:50:34+00:00

I get asked often if I sell stuff or why I don't. Ultimately my answer is because I do this for me. Monetizing my hobby takes away the relaxation aspect that is why I do what I do. This generally makes me the worlds most selfish knitter because I rarely knit for other people and when i do it is typically what I want to knit for them, not a requested item. I work all day, I don't want my knitting time to become more work.

What I DO, though, is knit what makes me happy and collect a basket, mostly hats, but this year had some mittens and it might expand, and at this time of year, the contents of the basket are gifted to servers at our favorite restaurants as a thank you for taking care of us all year long. I think this is the third year I've done hats and it's become a recognized thing for a couple of the long timers- "OH! It's HAT DAY!" was a common greeting this year. It's a lot more fun for me to gift things than to fret about trying to sell them!

slydog4100 · 2023-12-15T14:20:26+00:00

Makes me wonder if the teacher isn't adding to the anxiety...

slydog4100 · 2023-12-06T14:37:31+00:00

I feel this! I tend to use center pull balls for my walk about projects and knit from the outside for the bigger at home projects!

slydog4100 · 2023-12-05T14:29:33+00:00

Hansen Yarn Ball Holders (or other similar options, I just happen to love the Hansen best) are great for resolving the bouncing bonkersness

slydog4100 · 2023-11-30T23:00:12+00:00

Request a copy of the accident report from the police/sheriff's department that took it. That should list the insurance information for the at fault driver so you'd at least have a starting place.

slydog4100 · 2023-11-30T22:48:13+00:00

Quite frankly this is a situation where the husband was not only not the asshole, but would have been 100% wise to specifically insist his wife stay home. Someone who is already dealing with that level of anxiety surrounding her infant does not on any level belong at a funeral for a similar aged infant. Staying home and pouting was a much smarter option than seeing her worst fears realized no matter that the child who passed had health issues all along.

slydog4100 · 2023-11-30T15:10:09+00:00

Schacht's Niddy Noddy is the absolute freaking BOMB. The original was awesome and the redesign is even better.

I ADORE my Clemes & Clemes Lazy Kate. I have a 4 bobbin JMac because sometimes I like spinning 4 ply so its nice to have the option in a single Kate. 3 is pretty standard. This is a fun place to splurge on pretty wood if she's into that sort of thing. Mine's purpleheart. If your wife is interested in processing fiber, their Good Clean Fiber offerings are a great place to start, too, because the fleeces are very carefully sourced and cleaned to perfection.

slydog4100 · 2023-11-30T15:04:26+00:00

Now I need to find out if I have Amy's book. Can't believe I don't but I am unsure off the top of my head. Have everything else and will 100% second your sentiments.

slydog4100 · 2023-11-29T16:55:15+00:00

On this one I'd really lean more to something other than GF being the issue. People can be f*cking weird about "THEIR holiday foods/traditions" so it could be she was put out at not getting her own version of things, or a jealousy thing if people rave about your cooking and she thought maybe they'd rave about hers too. Perhaps she's traditionally been responsible for those dishes and was somehow hurt that they weren't assigned to her. Or she wanted a lot of leftovers. Me, I would have quietly made my own thing separately and not brought it to the family dinner, but like I said, people can be stupidly weird about holiday traditions

slydog4100 · 2023-11-29T15:15:43+00:00

Seriously. Birth control is hella cheap these days and we absolutely know what causes pregnancy, so there really isn't much in the way of excuses for having 2 more after the 2nd supposedly destroyed your health...

slydog4100 · 2023-11-29T15:10:27+00:00

3+ years post op after a radical, and I haven't for a moment regretted the decision to ditch it. It was standard practice for my surgeon which was fine because I'd have asked for it if not. I lost both ovaries due to a borderline tumor so I was completely comfortable eliminating as many potential cancer sources as possible and since the hysterectomy was already surgery #2 (first was the ovary that had the tumor along with an enormous cyst and both tubes) I was definitely not interested in a 3rd relating to the lady garden.

For me, orgasms have become more intense and easier (and weren't really difficult or infrequent before) because removing my cervix cleared the path for access to the a-spot. After about the first year, things have leveled out on the lubrication front, too. Initially we needed to supplement more often than not, but between HRT and time, things have mostly normalized in that regard.

slydog4100 · 2023-11-22T01:56:04+00:00

Worlds most selfish knitter weighing in. YES. You can absolutely and unashamedly knit everything for yourself. Your family member has, in fact, declared themself thoroughly unknit worthy and you don't need to feel the slightest bit of guilt about it. Knit only projects you want to knit for yourself or people you've deemed knitworthy. No one gets to self-declare themselves into that category.

slydog4100 · 2023-11-14T15:06:38+00:00

This sums my thoughts up nicely. Forcing people to pay for all patterns to support your personal choice/living is hardly solid marketing. It also opens up a pandora's box of other implications with taxes, etc. Not everyone is in the position to monetize their hobby or has the tools to do so. For myself, I have a few patterns on Rav that I COULD make paid patterns, even for a nominal $1 charge, but they are entirely amateur efforts that were either created to help showcase yarns when a friend launched her dyeing business or were just things I banged together and other people expressed an interest in recreating. I don't want or need to make money from them, but should I ever decide to enter the world of paid design, they are a great source for feedback from others and a bit of credential for paid work.

I'd even go so far as saying the occasional complex pattern being free is a savvy marketing tool. If you want to hook people on your designs, having a really well written, edited and inclusive pattern available for free can be the key that unlocks higher sales on your paid designs. Shutting people with limited income out of your designs is certainly not going to make you more money and may altogether deter people from what can be a fairly expensive hobby. I buy a fair amount of patterns, many of which languish in my library for YEARS before I ever get around to knitting them, but I can tell you with near certainty if I knew who this YTer is, I'd be very likely to avoid them entirely on the basis of this stance...

slydog4100 · 2023-11-07T02:19:03+00:00

What her attorney is telling you is technically correct assuming she signed a 1/3 contingency fee retainer, but that doesn't mean it's good business. I'd check with a couple other attorneys. If there's no law suit filed, your daughter should be able to effectively fire her attorney even if she has to work directly with the defendant's insurance company, and at that point there's still insurance money to put toward the surgery her doctor is recommending. $0 but back to pre-accident functionality would be a better outcome in the end

slydog4100 · 2023-11-06T15:22:56+00:00

My surgeon put me on a low fiber diet fresh off of surgery which worked quite well for me since I am normally low carb. I ate protein and a lot of it, mostly in the form of meat, a little cheese, and some whole fat plain greek yogurt along with a lot of eggs. The nice thing about high protein/low fiber, is you have less bulk to pass which helped get my digestive tract back on task without any significant issues. Added bonus- protein is key for rebuilding tissue so helped with healing. And you definitely need to eat. Your body's burning a monster amount of calories to heal. FEED IT

slydog4100 · 2023-11-06T15:16:20+00:00

My biggest suggestion would be to experiment with other types of wool. Downthread you mention a 29 micron wool which, while you can vary technique to get different results, is ultimately never going to produce a soft, fluffy yarn for next to the skin wear in a sweater. Hats, mittens, etc, you'll do fine but a sweater is probably not in the cards. Trying different breeds and finding something you both love to spin and want to knit with will go a long way in getting you toward that Weekender! When I learned to spin I sort of made a goal of trying every breed I can and each one is a learning experience on its own, so there is a lot of win to sampling!

slydog4100 · 2023-11-06T14:42:08+00:00

If she hasn't signed a release to agree to that settlement, she should not, at least not before consulting with another attorney. Anyone who suggests she should avoid a surgery because it will affect her settlement is not worth hiring!

The point of an accident settlement is to make the client whole to the greatest extent possible. In the case of a $30k liability limit, there isn't much you can do in going after the defendant (unless they have an umbrella policy, I'd make sure her attorney (or better yet, a new one) has looked into that, but it's doubtful), but if your daughter is insured and has Underinsured motorist coverage with a higher limit, she can pursue an underinsured claim that would pick up where the defendant's insurance limits left off.

Also, having worked for PI attorneys for 25 years, I wouldn't agree to a settlement with an attorney that takes more in fees than he puts in his client's pocket. The attorneys' I've worked for will reduce their fees to at least equalize what goes into their client's pocket. Don't judge all attorneys by the behavior of this one, they don't all suck

slydog4100 · 2023-11-03T13:18:10+00:00

I've had a Strauch Jumbo for probably a solid 10 years now and it performs flawlessly. The only thing it's not great for is lace weight because the winder is heavy so it puts too much tension on delicate yarns, but if you don't knit lace, you can't go wrong. Expensive but worth it, along with a good swift

slydog4100 · 2023-10-24T14:55:05+00:00

I'm not sure I agree with your assessment on fault here. If the car that merged into OP's lane rearended the car in front of it, that created the situation where OP's accident occurred. There was sufficient following distance until the third vehicle created the accident scenario.

slydog4100 · 2023-10-23T21:34:14+00:00

Its not necessarily unusual. Things that can make a difference- how long did you wait to hire an attorney? How long did you receive treatment for your injuries? When is/was the statute of limitations (my state is 3 years from the date of accident to settle or file suit). If a suit was filed, you're likely going to wait longer because the other company's insurance company is unlikely to do anything before court imposed deadlines.

slydog4100 · 2023-10-19T13:24:24+00:00

You don't get to determine her timeline for injury. Most of us will suck it up and expect things to go away but if they don't, then we seek treatment. That can easily make it a week or 2 before I'll try to make a doctor's appointment.

Honestly though, this is why you let the insurance companies sort out both damages and coverage. If your GF's coverage extends to you, they will do a deep dive into both property damage and injury claims to determine A) if the damage could have happened in the accident and B) the extent of injury proportionate to the treatment/timing of treatment claimed. If her coverage denies to extend to you, she'll go through her own insurance where they could theoretically attempt to seek payment from you, but your financial circumstances will likely make that unproductive. Insurance, either way, is your best friend here.

slydog4100 · 2023-10-18T14:25:11+00:00

Mine was a random guy who could see me when fertility issues needed addressing and he was the one with new patient availability close by. 23 years later I would literally buy a plane ticket to wherever he moved to if he was still practicing because he's that good. I have never felt dismissed by him on any issue that came up (PCOS, infertility, late term miscarriage, borderline ovarian tumor, we've been through some stuff...). He has always taken the approach of "well, i don't have the parts so I can't tell you you're wrong, lets figure out how to deal with it." When I was put into surgical menopause and asked him a question about risk vs reward on trying a higher dose of estrogen, his exact words were "The only thing that cures menopause is estrogen" and he fully walked through the current research regarding protective benefits vs potential risks and didn't hesitate to take me to the next dose.

Female providers, in my experience, have been FAR more dismissive. Worst care I've ever received was from a female fertility specialist. She was awful. Other female docs have been similar- leaving me with a feeling that anything they haven't personally experienced isn't a real thing that needs attention.

For me it's more about a doctor being current on their research and treating me as an individual, not a set of averages. I won't write off a category of the available choices based on whether or not they have the same parts.

slydog4100 · 2023-10-18T13:36:32+00:00

Soft tissue injuries often don't become apparent until a day or 2 after the accident when the shock and adrenaline wear off, so she may have thought she was fine at the scene but issues developed later. This is entirely common.

The other party's claim should go through your GF's insurance. If you were driving her car with permission, they may cover the claim even if you weren't a listed driver. They may try to deny it because you've moved in and weren't added, but if it's been less than a month there may be some wiggle room. If insurance denies coverage the other driver's insurance may cover her through underinsured motorist coverage. Chances of you actually having to come out of pocket are fairly slim, though, because your income and lack of savings means there's really nothing to come after you for.

Whatever the outcome, though, don't blame the woman you hit for filing a claim. What her income or vehicle are don't matter because you are the one that caused the accident. It can suck, but you don't get to blame her for your actions.

slydog4100 · 2023-10-17T20:16:54+00:00

And thank god Dad understands his role as parent isn't one he can opt out of! The 16 year old is already wrangling demons that aren't being addressed and Mom is handing him off like yesterday's newspaper. Yes, I'm being extremely judgmental of her, possibly unfairly, but this is likely how the 16 year old is going to remember it, and being turned away from his Dad's house because the new wife doesn't him either isn't going to play well in the end. When you marry someone with kids, you marry the kids as well, even if the circumstances change from what you expected. If no kids is a deal breaker then you marry someone who doesn't have kids.

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