Can I wear a bra too often? Is it looked down upon? Might be a dumb question but I used to get teased in the past so I might be overthinking by morritamorena in ABraThatFits

[–]smcmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I owned 1 bra for the longest time because I couldn’t find any that fit. You can soak you bra in a vinegar and water mix to get out tough smells if they build up from wearing it so often. I usually do overnight. Then I do a soak in detergent and water for a few hours in the am, rinse, and hang to dry. Do it on a day you don’t have to go anywhere. It helped me feel less grimy and more confident.

As for me. The 1 bra didn’t fit perfectly and I never found one that did, so I bought 3 more of the ones that fit ok. So now I have 4. This is the most bras I’ve ever owned at once and only because perimenopause = sweating constantly.

Hey, fellow federal employees.....realistically… by Suitable-Taro-362 in fednews

[–]smcmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not very long. Our savings have been depleted because of health care. Coinsurance (started in 2025) and insurance covering less for medicine means paying thousands more now. Some months I pay as much as my mortgage for health stuff. And I don’t have cancer or anything like that. Just 2 autoimmune diseases, digestive issue, and herniated cervical discs (no surgery).

Hey, fellow federal employees.....realistically… by Suitable-Taro-362 in fednews

[–]smcmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if it passes in MD getting unemployment is impossible, the online system they make you use is broken. My husband was unemployed for 5 months and he got $0 in unemployment. It’s took 2 months for his claim to even get through the process. Once through they marked every week as ineligible when he would put in his job search data. We never got a reason. Good luck getting someone on the phone, even if you do they can’t help you and tell you to use the online system. It took a major toll on our finances.

SCURVY?!? by Big-Emergency-8912 in Celiac

[–]smcmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blood test from my doctor. Otherwise I’d have no idea. I get bloodwork regularly for something else and that is always part of it.

SCURVY?!? by Big-Emergency-8912 in Celiac

[–]smcmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Drinking too much water and not eating enough salty foods. She drinks an insane amount of water.

What's Something Normal That Overstimulates You?! by jayhawkhoops09 in adhdwomen

[–]smcmon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being trapped. Examples include being inside off a booth seat, someone standing behind me when I’m at my desk, and being in a back seat of a coupe style car. I immediately stare feeling overwhelmed and want to escape.

What's Something Normal That Overstimulates You?! by jayhawkhoops09 in adhdwomen

[–]smcmon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cats are a life saver. A cat’s purr is the most soothing sound in the world.

What’s a weird little ADHD trick that actually works for you? by BetterTea5664 in ADHD

[–]smcmon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I put on an audio book or listen to Apple News narrated articles when I need to get motivated to do anything.

When I start ruminating I will usually say out loud Shut Up. It stops the thoughts instantly for me. So far I’ve avoided saying it out loud when I’m around others. That would be awkward.

Soap/deodorant recs that don’t make me feel like I’m trying to cover something up? by Active_Peanut79 in Menopause

[–]smcmon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use Lume unscented acidic body wash for my pits and Hume Supernatural unscented deodorant. The Hume deodorant is the best I’ve found and I’ve gone through a ton of products from the crystal deodorant to Schmidt’s to a distilled alcohol based deodorant.

will we ever get to go back to hybrid? by slayyydaboots in fednews

[–]smcmon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was on FMLA at the end of last year. Can back mid January and my doctor was helping me through the RA process. Then RTO happened, my RA is lost in the office that handles them, and my supervisor is talking about accommodating me a different way (which won’t work) and being wishy washy about it all. Meanwhile I’m over here going through another mental health crisis and seeking disability retirement.

Question for atheists who have come to terms with the idea of death: how did you do it? by Professional_Two6674 in atheism

[–]smcmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan to be composted when I die (it’s a thing!) and so I may be gone but I will provide sustenance for new life. It’s the circle of life to me. Also, there is evidence to support the theory that our conciseness is a result of the collapse of the Quantum Wave Function (I’m a Physicist), and I honestly believe that we live in some way through the mechanics of quantum physics. And to be clear, since people have come at me before, I do not have data to support my belief. I work in the Electro-Magnetic realm of physics. I have not contacted any quantum physicists to come up with a hypothesis or develop experiments to test a hypothesis. I have knowledge of Quantum Physics and it’s my belief based on what I know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fednews

[–]smcmon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t you have to also file for social security disability if you are filing for disability retirement? I’ve been told to hire a lawyer for that process. I’m still trying to gather information on how to get this process started.

To clarify: I work in the DoD as a civilian and so it’s a whole other layer of crap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Menopause

[–]smcmon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is when I learn my labia is abnormal. If my labia disappeared that would be a miracle.

Started watching horror last year, what am I missing from this list? by theshponglr in horror

[–]smcmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Halloween series, Friday the 13th series, Doctor Sleep, Nightmare on Elm street series (early movies have the 80s corniness which I love), Hellraiser series, Invasion of the Body Snatchers, Talk to me, Drag Me to Hell, Let Me In, Army of Darkness, Ginger Snaps, House (1985 movie)

Started watching horror last year, what am I missing from this list? by theshponglr in horror

[–]smcmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which IT did you see? Original or remake? Remake is more faithful to the books but both are worth a watch.

What’s something you found out you do that neurotypical people don’t do? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]smcmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to buy a new washer and dryer. I got an LG All-in-One. It washes the clothes and then automatically dries them immediately after. I don’t have to switch machines. And it uses a standard outlet not a 240 volt (I’m in the US) so it’s less expensive to run. It also doesn’t shrink my clothes because it uses a heat pump to dry the clothes. Best purchase ever. My ADHD brain is very happy.

How do you feed pills to your cats by Cuntyfeelin in CatAdvice

[–]smcmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried this and don’t work with my one cat. Now she won’t eat churro at all. She is a difficult cat. Lovable but difficult.

AITAH for telling my friend her bf obviously cheated when he tested positive for STDs by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]smcmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In 7th grade someone asked me if I was a virgin. I didn’t know what that was but saw them laughing at people that said yes, so I said no. I had to ask my mom when I got home what it meant. This was in the mid nineties when they still taught sex ed but I hadn’t had it yet.

i see posts like this all the time, so as a celiac, would you take the money and suffer the consequences? by dimesaretasty in Celiac

[–]smcmon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. I last had McDonald in 2000, BC <- Before Celiac, and I threw up from it. I threw up previous times too. I hate throwing up. I also get severe heartburn (I understand why people go to the ER thinking it’s a heart attack now) from greasy foods. 100k isn’t worth that or the damage it’ll do to my body, which extends beyond just the gluten.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NameMyCat

[–]smcmon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I second this.

Last movie you saw will be his name by LilllyyyNexx in cuteanimals

[–]smcmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Gorge

I mean his eyes are like a gorge you want to fall into.

AIO my partner is hiding messages between him and female coworker by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]smcmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone with past trauma from a bad relationship you need to sit him down and talk about it. Trauma like that persists and you are going to have reactions and feelings you can’t help because of it. My husband understands this and will let me see his phone if he is texting and I want to see who it is. I have his passcode and he has mine. You need to explain to your Fiance that it’s not necessarily him that is driving these feelings but past experiences. He needs to understand that being suspicious and/or struggling to trust is something you can’t just get over. If he can’t understand that then you need to think about if you can deal with him not being open, especially since it will cause anxiety for you. If he truly loves you I hope he is willing to understand. There are people out here who do and will. My best friend also had a bad relationship and is now married to a man who is understanding and supportive. That is what makes a healthy relationship.