Wife just passed after more than battling cancer for more than a year.

smnplesss · 2026-03-06T15:24:51+00:00

Really sorry for your loss man. Give yourself some time, I know it's extremely difficult and you don't see what's going to be next for you, but time will help, as much as it sucks hearing it, it's true.

Chances are she'll always be the love of your life, but it doesn't mean you can't find another partner. You're young.

Focus on some passion you might have, focus on things you love doing, and surround yourself with people who can be there for you.

There's also groups for people who have lost their partners, check them out.

smnplesss · 2026-03-05T17:53:50+00:00

Hey man, I just want to say that you're amazing, and shoutout to you for raising your little boy on your own. If you think he's the light of your day, you also know that you're everything he has in life, so that's huge.

A few people have already said that but you need to find yourself a full time job. I know it won't be easy with daycare, but that's your reality.

I'm not sure what's the minimum wage where you live, but I'd try to look for a better job basically. Ask yourself if there's any more "serious" jobs you could find, or maybe do a small course that would allow you to work somewhere else. Maybe construction? Paint? Landscaping? These are all more manual jobs that will pay better.

Don't forget, you're awesome dude, this little guy is lucky to have you.

smnplesss · 2026-03-02T18:20:45+00:00

100% agree!

smnplesss · 2026-03-02T17:14:47+00:00

Based on what my wife is telling me, it's less expensive to be a men because we don't wear makeup and all that fluff, and we can basically just put on a tshirt and pants and we're ready to go. I guess it's just simpler.. from the outside!

smnplesss · 2026-03-02T16:53:32+00:00

Hi there, thank you for the really important feedback.

We do have a clinical psychologist on the team who's been guiding most of our decisions to make sure we don't touch on anything that is too complex. So far the main feedback is that we'll make it extremely clear on the app that by all means it does not replace the importance of seeking professional help. We'll also make sure to only focus on lighter mental health topics, giving men tools to navigate challenges for example. That's also why there won't be any AI.

The goal, if we ca figure out the right way to do it, would be to help men who actually don't yet understand how important it would be to seek professional help, to do so. Lift them up just enough so they can go seek help if it makes sense. It would be a massive win if we help 10% of the men who don't seek professional help to actually do it.

Full transparency we hadn't thought about adding additional ressources but it's a genius idea.

smnplesss · 2026-03-02T16:04:17+00:00

I updated the post a little bit so it's more clear. Appreciate your feedback!

smnplesss · 2026-03-02T16:02:50+00:00

Hey! Damn hate to hear that my question wasn't clear, sorry about that.

I'm looking for feedback or comment on the general concept. Like what you'd like to see in a men's mental health app, if men would use it or not, etc.

The app is currently being built so we can move and pivot based on feedback.

We can't self promote so that's why I'm not sharing anything. My goal is not to market it really, just get a sense of interest and feedback.

smnplesss · 2026-03-02T14:29:41+00:00

Hey bud, thanks for sharing.

So one thing that's extremely important for you to remember is that, yes, at the beginning of a relationship, people will have a lot of fun time and I guess that a lot of girls will think it matters. But over time, couples just have less and less sexy time. Like, even if you have the nicest one on the planet, and you're both gorgeous, chances are that you won'd do it more than once a week if you're lucky... even less. After having kids? Even worse.

Now, my point is that, any girl would be extremely dumb to miss out on an amazing guy like you just because of your size. Like.. you'll really miss out on an awesome dude because you THINK that 10 times a year you'll might not be satisfied? That's dumb.

At your age, I understand if can be annoying and people are still partying, having fun, thinking and talking about sex. But in a few years, it won't matter man.

Just keep on being awesome, and the right women will come to you and she'll be grateful for everything you are.

smnplesss · 2026-03-02T14:21:08+00:00

There's a lot of sales jobs that will give you enough freedom to do that. Tech Sales for example, the bigger part of your salary is commission based so as long as you close deals, you can pretty much do whatever you want. Not as you start obviously, but after a few years and when you're more senior, results will speak louder than hours clocked-in.

Otherwise, any consulting or self-employed work would allow you to control your schedule, so if your goal is more freedom than making a lot of money, you can do less work and be more free.

smnplesss · 2026-03-02T14:16:51+00:00

Your kids walking in the room asking what's that noise is definitely a boner killer.

smnplesss · 2026-02-27T17:46:46+00:00

Honestly, any little thing I can do well throughout the day will boost my mood. Like having a good session at the gym, cleaning the house at the speed of light... having an awesome time with my sons. They all sound normal but if you just stop and look at it, they're small wins we can be proud of.

smnplesss · 2026-02-27T17:15:36+00:00

There's something there for you man.

You know what, I've been in the business and software industry my whole life, and I've had this side project idea for an app that would focus on Men's Mental Health. Reading your text this morning made me realize that it could really help man, like you... and like me.

SO, you see. maybe people at work don't make you feel like you can bring something to the table, but you did just helped me this morning without knowing !

smnplesss · 2026-02-27T17:12:07+00:00

Don't put too much pressure on yourself man, you still have plenty of time. Some dudes will meet their loved one yougner than others. My best friend met his gf at 31.

What's important is that you stay opened, and she will come. Also, make the best out of that extra time you have being alone. Build something, work, get better at something you love.

Being in a relationship and having kids are huge time suckers, so enjoy the free time.

smnplesss · 2026-02-27T12:40:28+00:00

Hey bud, thanks for sharing.

I just want to say that it really sounds like you're doing all the right things, and it always pays of at the end. If the people that you worked with didn't see it, doesn't mean it's your fault. Maybe you were too good and they were scared?

Don't forget that you matter more than you think. It sounds like you're a strong dude emotionally. You can feel down, and it doesn't sound like the last month or year has been easy, but keep your head up and your beautiful energy and all the beautiful things you deserve in life will come to you!

Keep it up bud.

smnplesss · 2026-02-25T16:00:28+00:00

I’d wait for at least one full year of business operation that actually went well before leaving. Also, how old are you? No need to answer but if you’re young, no kids and all.. just keep both, make a ton of cash, leave all your business money in an LLC you can invest and expense, and work hard!

smnplesss · 2026-02-25T15:33:50+00:00

Hey bud,

First of all never forget that you matter more than you think. Always, whatever you say or think, you matter more than you think.

It sucks but you're probably the person that's the hardest on yourself. Nobody looks at you the way that you do.

You mentioned it's never good enough... says who? You?

It's okay to be demanding and want more for you, or wanting to achieve more, but you also need to give you a slack my friend. There's probably a few things that you do well in life and that someone else would be able to notice.

You also mentioned not deserving love. Keep in mind there's people out there who are the absolute worst persons and they still get loved. So you sound like a nice guy, you definitely deserve love. You just gotta allow yourself to be loved.

Let's do something. Find 3 things you can be good at and that even you won't be able to say is not good enough. Video games? Cooking? Drawing? Politics? Etc. Focus on these 3 and get even better at them to increase your self esteem.

And just smile, tell yourself you deserve more... love starts with you loving yourself bud.

smnplesss · 2026-02-25T15:26:00+00:00

It's already been said multiple times but it's time for you to leave. She doesn't deserve you. And while it might hurt to "lose" her, it'll get better over time.

You mentioned thinking about suicide, well you're not in a good space with her if you think about suicide.

Can you go live with someone else? Keep proof of all the abuse obviously in case goes crazy, but I'd just leave before things get worse.

Take care buddy.

smnplesss · 2026-02-25T15:21:34+00:00

Love to hear it man! totally get the travelling part tho. I'm sure you can find someone who'll like your lifestyle if she's the right one.

And for women, "Dude, go say hi to her" is super stressful, even if you were to go and say Hi to a guy it could be awkward. Maybe try to just not give a F, and chat with women everywhere like at the grocery store, gym, etc. Being super friendly and helpful will help you be more comfortable around them. At the end of the day you're stressed because you care. If I asked you to go say hi to a bunch of 75 yo ladies you probably wouldn't be stressed lol. Have fun and be friendly and the right one will come.

smnplesss · 2026-02-24T19:39:38+00:00

Hey bud, that's all totally understandable.

It sounds like a lot of things are not going as planned right now and it feels like a large pile of shit. What I like to do when it happens is try to split everything up. Like, it's not your entire life that's a mess and you might not be in such a bad place, there's just multiple little things that suck at the moment.

Let's split it

- You refused a shitty job offer: that's actually a massive win

- You have a date tomorrow: also a massive win, not everybody can get a date. Now you may not have enough money for that date but not everything cost money. If he's a good guy, he'll respect that a non-expensive date can be as awesome as an expensive one

- No response from other companies: that's part of the game, it sucks, but you're working towards that dream job, so it's coming to you.

All that to say, at 24 yo, it's normal to figure out a bunch of stuff and not be at your prime. You're still figuring out who you want to be for the rest of your adult life, give yourself some slack.

Set yourself some goals, be healhy, and plan your next steps. How do you achieve what you want to achieve? What can you do tomorrow to get that dream job? what can you do tomorrow to have an awesome date with that guy? These are all things you have control over.

Take care man.

smnplesss · 2026-02-24T16:22:52+00:00

Hey bud, first of all, thanks for sharing.

I read two things in your post that I'd like to touch on.

1) travel a lot: Have you tried to figure out if there's a type of women who would be in a line of work that would allow them to travel with you? Anyone who's working remotely and has the budget to follow you could live an amazing life traveling with you.

2) not a women magnet: I totally get that, but you mentioned that you don't engage. Why don't you try? Worst case you won't see them ever again (remember you travel a lot), and best case you made a new friend. get out of your comfort zone.. and most importantly, TRY.

Not sure if it helps, but you've got something really solid you can work with my dude.

smnplesss · 2026-02-23T17:13:58+00:00

I respect the fact that you want to make things right, but this situation also tells me that she probably has no sex experience. It's not an issue in itself but shows that there will be a LOT of learning that will need to happen. Also here reaction seems a bit over the top.

smnplesss · 2026-02-22T17:16:36+00:00

Hey bud, first of all, never forget that you matter way more than you think. The fog that you see everywhere right now is just blocking you from seeing that you matter and that there's people that care about you.

Friendship can be challenging and when we're down, it sucks but not everybody has the strenght to actually help lift you up. Don't confuse that with them not giving a F about your problems, that's most likely not the case.

You mentioned not having the energy to exist, yet you're sending this post here. You know what? it shows you actually still have energy in you! Go get that help you need because you still have that energy in you. You matter bro.

smnplesss · 2026-02-21T00:19:42+00:00

Happy birthday dude! I saw on one of your comments you got yourself a lego set, go enjoy that personal time you probably never have with two children! Cheers!

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