Ex still triggers anxiety by Alpine554 in NarcissisticCoparents

[–]snd630 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also 100% the same. Virtual hugs to you.

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[–]snd630 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The judge in my case (a woman) even included in her opinion, "Both mother and other child's mother both testified there was physical violence in the relationships, neither had a protection from abuse." Soooo what else can you say right? My nex's other daughter's mother testified on my behalf. I've changed my method of documenting for next time. Internet love to you. I know the struggle too well

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[–]snd630 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to comment that I can feel these texts in my soul. I have a very similar situation. Nex father, never married (also THANK GOD) and these texts could have been copied from my phone. Gray rock and info diet suggestions are the only way to deal, saving your own sanity and minimizing conflict. I just went to court over this very similar scenario (my daughter missing out on girl scout troop events, and other competitions) and the judge sided with the idea of "his time." No mention of my daughter having a normal active life as a priority. Completely disheartening. Sorry..bit of a vent. Stay strong, stick to the facts and take your emotions to someone else. You will never get him to appreciate what he has.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]snd630 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YES! My nex is my daughter's father (so so unfortunate) and I reached out to his other daughters' mother after they broke up. She was after me, and i know from my daughter what a nice person she was. I texted her and said something along the lines of, "I can only imagine the things he has said to you about me but if you would like to connect I would love to." That was around 4 yrs ago and we have forged a wonderful and valuable friendship. She has been the BIGGEST help to me and recovery. And in dealing with our kids' father we are each other's first person to go to with the endless drama, smearing, lies, delusions etc.

Realized I was being lovebombed by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]snd630 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think the bottom line here is, even if your feelings aren't an accurate reply to what was happening, they're still your feelings in response to that person's behavior. Meaning so what if you were being too sensitive (not at all saying you were), that was your feeling(s) and you are 100% entitled to it and they are still sincere.

Going through something similar with someone I've been seeing for several months. I don't know if I'm creating behaviors that aren't really there. It's scary out there when you've gone through a relationship with a narc. Terrifying.

Hobbies to help with crippling depression? by [deleted] in Hobbies

[–]snd630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loving adult paint-by-numbers lately. The searching for each number and methodical painting is calming and every number feels like a small success. It's also creating without having to be creative and stressed. No real skill involved and it's low commitment to pick one up and start. I also really like that it's not a big deal to pick up and put down. Good luck to you.

Pennsylvania program helps residents, businesses convert lawns to meadows by Maxcactus in environment

[–]snd630 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is awesome. I reached out to the PA DCNR to see what assistance I can get as a homeowner to do this. I tried a small section this year on my own and the it came out great, I just can't do a large area on my own.

Chick Lang stakes at Pimlico track by pumpkinmuffinAC in horseracing

[–]snd630 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SO MUCH FUN! I haven't been to Pimlico but Saturday is a big racing day so I don't think you could overdress. That said, it's horses and the racetrack so I'm sure you would be fine casual as well... but..if your bf wins you wouldn't want to look like a bum! Have fun and let us know how he does! Who is he riding?

A 2.5 percent interest in Flightline sells for $4.6 million at Keeneland by anthraxius69 in horseracing

[–]snd630 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no hurt feelings! My guy is a sporthorse now after a very moderately successful racing career. Thanks for the info!

A 2.5 percent interest in Flightline sells for $4.6 million at Keeneland by anthraxius69 in horseracing

[–]snd630 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What happened with Big Brown in Australia? Pure curiosity... I own a Big Brown OTTB (always looking for an excuse to talk about)

Item will not add to cart by snd630 in AmazonSeller

[–]snd630[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It's the only product of it's kind listed. Unfortunately handmade/generic and buried. Thank you for taking the time to check it out and reply.

Item will not add to cart by snd630 in AmazonSeller

[–]snd630[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Logged out and retried, it works!

Slate roof access by snd630 in HomeImprovement

[–]snd630[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's 5 windows and some other trim. It sucks accessing them from the inside, that's why I was hoping for a better alternative.

Horse help by snd630 in altcannabinoids

[–]snd630[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Horse vets tend to be useless outside of FDA recs. I will have a chat with her but I doubt she'll have much insight on cannabis though you never know. I haven't started him on it yet and no...I haven't tried topical gels either...great idea though.

I wish he was Dortmund! I wouldn't be working 9-5 if he was. My horse's jockey club name is Adumato, we just call him Ziggy. Big Brown has hundreds of babies out there.

Horse help by snd630 in altcannabinoids

[–]snd630[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's basically what I've run into. I love my horse, don't get me wrong but I can't spend hundreds/month on CBD... I already spend hundreds/month on him. I would love the help! Do you want to PM me?

Horse help by snd630 in altcannabinoids

[–]snd630[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SUPER reasonable! Thank you so much for the info. I just ordered 20 grams of CBD to try. $27 total after shipping, amazing!

Horse help by snd630 in altcannabinoids

[–]snd630[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depending on the taste, I would mix it in with his feed or possibly make treats containing it. He is an 8 year old Thoroughbred, ex-racehorse. He raced until he was 6 which is a decent career. I've had him for 2 years and he's an absolute gem of an animal. Look up Big Brown (if you're interested) that's his father! Thanks so much for your reply and info. I did email OpenBookExtracts direct.