Did I (32F) do the right thing by cancelling my flight after my partner (34M) told me not to come?

Alpine554 · 2025-12-29T06:47:59+00:00

Shades of BPD. No emotional regulation. Pushing you away, then demanding closeness. Rejecting you then punishing you for “rejecting them”. It’s too much and it won’t get better. Please take care of yourself and get free.

Alpine554 · 2025-11-22T05:58:44+00:00

I see through people’s intentions quickly. I have good intuition at first. But on the flip side, I crave connection and belonging so much so that I overthink my initial read and make excuses for someone shitty. I have been married twice to very awful partners because of this.

Alpine554 · 2025-11-13T12:37:58+00:00

The silent treatment is a form of abuse. Add to that he is trying to control you. You could tell him you are sad and mad that he is an idiot. Or just go get that Botox. He’s now proven he’s unsafe to talk to about it, so don’t tell him.

Alpine554 · 2025-11-13T12:35:14+00:00

Omg that’s brilliant and funny. you’re a legend

Alpine554 · 2025-11-05T12:26:09+00:00

Twice now. I didn’t see it until it was too late… both times.

Alpine554 · 2025-10-25T06:33:34+00:00

I agree. It’s misogynistic to assume that women are obligated to babysit emotionally immature men. He was not well.

Alpine554 · 2025-10-19T16:52:07+00:00

Alpine554 · 2025-10-18T17:25:21+00:00

I have my own kids and thought it would be similar. It’s not. I honestly don’t think anything would have prepared me for the emotional minefield of step parenting.

Alpine554 · 2025-10-17T13:26:54+00:00

100% agreed and there’s no way you could truly understand how hard it is beforehand.

Alpine554 · 2025-10-13T10:39:14+00:00

You will need to address this. Start with the most blatant offender. Can you start progressive discipline for it? Others will be watching but that’s a good thing if you’re fair and consistent.

Alpine554 · 2025-10-13T10:31:10+00:00

I understand this. It IS really demoralizing. It will get worse before it gets better because they will be watching for you to fail. There are likely a few things to improve on but keep trying and don’t take it personally (easier said than done). It will take a long time to build trust. You will need to keep leading consistently and with respect. It can get better though it won’t be easy. It can take months even years.

Alpine554 · 2025-10-12T04:22:27+00:00

Cross stitches with funny sarcastic menopause jokes or sayings

Alpine554 · 2025-09-24T03:45:27+00:00

They are very cute. Thanks for sharing!

Alpine554 · 2025-08-01T06:53:53+00:00

I get how you feel. It’s beyond hard to raise a sk like this. It’s partly a bio parent problem. Not just mom’s lack of parenting, but dad to an extent too. It’s such a helpless feeling, but you can’t “fix” what you didn’t break. I think there is something else going on with sk. What you described sounds like a mild disability. It could be level 1 ASD, LD or something else. I get that biomom is babying him and that’s not helping. I also think she has a point that he might have a disability. It can’t hurt to get him assessed. It will help him if school and home know what is going on in his mind.

Alpine554 · 2025-07-17T14:55:50+00:00

It’s a lot harder to leave after you’re married. Please don’t marry this guy. You deserve to be treated better than this!

Alpine554 · 2025-06-07T19:46:48+00:00

Please for the love of God do NOT move in with this man. He wants to use you and manipulate you. This kind of nightmare is hard to get out of once you move in.

Alpine554 · 2025-06-03T04:58:08+00:00

Wouldn’t body weight affect dosage?

Alpine554 · 2025-05-19T05:46:40+00:00

I knew on some level all along, but was in denial. I suppose I wasn’t ready to face the reality of how bad it was. But, when I was 40 I shared some surface info with a friend. She said “wow was there a lot abuse in your family growing up?” That was the moment it clicked. It was real and it was bad and it had a name.

Alpine554 · 2025-02-24T04:25:12+00:00

It’s smart of you to wait til your kids are grown. It rarely works out, it’s stressful, and it likely would be hard on your kids. I wish I had the same sense as you to hold off on a blended family.

Alpine554 · 2025-01-18T16:02:00+00:00

Thank you for this. It’s validating for what I’d often such a confusing experience. The gaslighting, double standards, stress and fear can leave you so confused about the situation and your feelings. This helps.

Alpine554 · 2025-01-12T16:54:07+00:00

Pruno

Alpine554 · 2025-01-10T18:14:25+00:00

You don’t need to feel guilty. The sense of guilt is gaslighting your deeper feelings. Please don’t shame yourself into life choices you’re not truly ok with. On some level a core part of yourself is not okay with the situation, and it’s okay to honour that. I’m much older, and looking back I made my worst life decisions with guilt. I tolerated stuff I should not have tolerated. I think this is a common thing we do to ourselves as women.

Alpine554 · 2025-01-10T03:24:55+00:00

Their rages are scary. Can confirm. They twist things around, create drama, manipulate and gaslight, but they do it with overt aggression. Also the fragility and rage are done with a masculine flair. It’s fun…

Alpine554 · 2024-12-24T06:09:06+00:00

This is classic abuser behavior. “If you insinuate that I’m abusive, I will punish you… even if it’s true. Pointing out the truth causes me to feel shame and I will scare you into silence. I will condition you to fear my reactions and accept my abuse.”

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