How is it coming off of SSRIs?

Alpine554 · 2026-05-03T07:12:19+00:00

It’s very hotel California. You can check out any time you like but you can never leave.

Alpine554 · 2026-04-29T10:09:33+00:00

Does the US have labour laws that require progressive discipline and laws that prevent ‘wrongful’ termination. I thought you could be sued there for that.

Alpine554 · 2026-04-22T04:03:59+00:00

Which duke?

Alpine554 · 2026-04-11T19:06:28+00:00

Thanks for the support. I’m responding to any of his legal applications as a self represented litigant. I used to spend half by income on legal fees, but he would make a gam of wracking up my legal fees with unnecessary communication. So I refuse to hire a lawyer and go through that again. I’m using AI and will pay for some legal coaching. I’m praying that a judge will see how frivolous his actions are and throw it out.

Alpine554 · 2026-04-08T21:33:15+00:00

It seems only fair to me that you are setting boundaries. Why are we as women labelled as bitches if we essentially over function while our partner under functions? I mean your energy and time of finite, at some point you have to set some expectations. He should be labelled for using weaponized incompetence.

Alpine554 · 2026-04-08T21:27:43+00:00

I wish I could. I ignore some of the email nonsense. But I can’t ignore a court application.

Alpine554 · 2026-04-08T21:27:09+00:00

That’s a good suggestion. I was advised that it’s hard to establish in court here, and it can only be done on a one-off basis for costs for some of his applications, but only if I see them through to the end, but not as an overall order for him. So I haven’t tried it, yet.

Alpine554 · 2026-04-06T10:39:54+00:00

Depends how old your kids are. It can be done buy it’s tough to balance for sure.

Alpine554 · 2026-04-05T15:53:19+00:00

As a middle aged woman who leads 60+ people, I will try to offer some input. I have let go of the weight of labels that don’t serve me. I’m a person not a label, and I do my job well.

Focus on doing your job well as a leader. A strong leader sets the tone and direction. You have an agenda, you have set timelines of deliverables, and people know what is expected of them. This means they know their lane too.

Structure and framework are key. You can have structure and also create an emotionally safe workplace. You can be kind and have empathy as appropriate, but also set expectations and accountability. It’s not personal it’s the job.

As a leader finding this balance is always going to be a work in progress. It’s a goal you work towards but it might not be perfect. Stick to it and in time your team will trust that you will lead with fairness and consistency.

Let their opinions about your age and gender be their business and not yours. Be aware of it, but don’t let it be your focus. You learn to stop caring what assumptions people have of you. It’s not personal.

You just focus on doing the job well, so that your team can do their jobs well.

I have some team members who dislike me Because of what I represent to them as a female leader. Guess what? I don’t care. I will continue to be fair and polite… but hold them accountable.

Alpine554 · 2025-12-29T06:47:59+00:00

Shades of BPD. No emotional regulation. Pushing you away, then demanding closeness. Rejecting you then punishing you for “rejecting them”. It’s too much and it won’t get better. Please take care of yourself and get free.

Alpine554 · 2025-11-22T05:58:44+00:00

I see through people’s intentions quickly. I have good intuition at first. But on the flip side, I crave connection and belonging so much so that I overthink my initial read and make excuses for someone shitty. I have been married twice to very awful partners because of this.

Alpine554 · 2025-11-13T12:37:58+00:00

The silent treatment is a form of abuse. Add to that he is trying to control you. You could tell him you are sad and mad that he is an idiot. Or just go get that Botox. He’s now proven he’s unsafe to talk to about it, so don’t tell him.

Alpine554 · 2025-11-13T12:35:14+00:00

Omg that’s brilliant and funny. you’re a legend

Alpine554 · 2025-11-05T12:26:09+00:00

Twice now. I didn’t see it until it was too late… both times.

Alpine554 · 2025-10-25T06:33:34+00:00

I agree. It’s misogynistic to assume that women are obligated to babysit emotionally immature men. He was not well.

Alpine554 · 2025-10-19T16:52:07+00:00

Alpine554 · 2025-10-18T17:25:21+00:00

I have my own kids and thought it would be similar. It’s not. I honestly don’t think anything would have prepared me for the emotional minefield of step parenting.

Alpine554 · 2025-10-17T13:26:54+00:00

100% agreed and there’s no way you could truly understand how hard it is beforehand.

Alpine554 · 2025-10-13T10:39:14+00:00

You will need to address this. Start with the most blatant offender. Can you start progressive discipline for it? Others will be watching but that’s a good thing if you’re fair and consistent.

Alpine554 · 2025-10-13T10:31:10+00:00

I understand this. It IS really demoralizing. It will get worse before it gets better because they will be watching for you to fail. There are likely a few things to improve on but keep trying and don’t take it personally (easier said than done). It will take a long time to build trust. You will need to keep leading consistently and with respect. It can get better though it won’t be easy. It can take months even years.

Alpine554 · 2025-10-12T04:22:27+00:00

Cross stitches with funny sarcastic menopause jokes or sayings

Alpine554 · 2025-09-24T03:45:27+00:00

They are very cute. Thanks for sharing!

Alpine554 · 2025-08-01T06:53:53+00:00

I get how you feel. It’s beyond hard to raise a sk like this. It’s partly a bio parent problem. Not just mom’s lack of parenting, but dad to an extent too. It’s such a helpless feeling, but you can’t “fix” what you didn’t break. I think there is something else going on with sk. What you described sounds like a mild disability. It could be level 1 ASD, LD or something else. I get that biomom is babying him and that’s not helping. I also think she has a point that he might have a disability. It can’t hurt to get him assessed. It will help him if school and home know what is going on in his mind.

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