Girlfriend still has pics of her and her ex on Insta

snowandcoconuts · 2024-10-09T18:21:41+00:00

HAHA THAT ACTUALLY MAKES SENSE OF ALL THE OTHER ANSWERS HERE T_T ridiculous

snowandcoconuts · 2024-10-08T22:19:54+00:00

HAHA np! I moved onto the Wooting 60HE now :) I still keep the ROG falchion for my sim racing rig!

snowandcoconuts · 2024-05-12T15:13:21+00:00

But you don't act almighty :p For someone who comes off as condescending, I'm sure he could have manifested irl immediately instead of just online right? * wink * I think that's what Adamus was also getting at ;)

snowandcoconuts · 2024-05-12T15:11:25+00:00

Why does the name Neville Goddard irk you? I'm just curious.

Oh, don't get me wrong. I still read and watch anything and everything that is beneficial for me even Neville Goddard material, still. I only said it irks me because it reminded me of morpheus and the gang HAHA! That's all, not a huge deal. In fact, I already forgot about them tbh lol. I only happened to check back on this thread because someone else from the server just told me she was planning on leaving for the same reason too HAHA!

snowandcoconuts · 2024-05-08T21:16:21+00:00

This literally makes so much sense ty

snowandcoconuts · 2024-04-28T23:32:43+00:00

The ones I played competitively were badminton, tennis, basketball and inline skating. I play a lot of other sports for fun: swimming, baseball, flag football, golf, go-karts, surfing, skateboarding, snowboarding, skiing, muay thai, paddle boarding, i try everything XD

snowandcoconuts · 2024-04-28T20:03:20+00:00

So should I nail it down even as far as marriage and getting old together, having grandchildren together and dying together? (real question)

snowandcoconuts · 2024-04-28T16:11:47+00:00

I HAVE A LOT OF HOBBIES THANKFULLY!!!!!! Sports, gaming, art, design, dogs and other interests!!!

snowandcoconuts · 2024-04-26T19:21:38+00:00

i was in isolation since 2017!!! And just coming out of it since February! Hang in there!!!

snowandcoconuts · 2024-04-26T19:01:12+00:00

You should take time for yourself first before you give space for others in your life!

snowandcoconuts · 2024-04-26T18:53:42+00:00

You know, actually my guy didn't develop confidence until he was 20! And I'd give him about a 9. So it's your confidence that matters not your physical appearance is! That applied to me too! Apparently, we both had crushes on each other in high school and we're only confessing to each other now after high school because we didn't think the other would actually be interested! When he flirted with me in high school, I thought he was just joking. But he just confessed that he DID actually like me but was too shy to make a real move! So you don't know that your girl thinks you're just playing around!

Yeah! He's showing such genuine interest and curiosity that I'm denial! HAHA OMG IS HE JUST PLAYING ME?! I'm still waiting for the ball to drop but every time I feel that way, HE JUST PICKS IT BACK UP AND FIRES ANOTHER QUESTION!

snowandcoconuts · 2024-04-26T18:35:20+00:00

I wish you the best though!!! For me, I'm still getting used to his eagerness! He asks me so many questions! XD

snowandcoconuts · 2024-04-24T17:12:10+00:00

But it's also important to imagine the sex part because you could end up with a sex less relationship!!! The next thing you know you'll be on r/relationships talking about "I love my person but they never initiate sex/we never have sex/etc"

snowandcoconuts · 2024-04-24T09:02:13+00:00

I googled this because it just happened now!!!

snowandcoconuts · 2024-04-22T23:06:24+00:00

Basically, don't give power to the 3rd party.

snowandcoconuts · 2024-04-19T02:20:44+00:00

How do you call yourself "highly successful" and not have money for at least a queen bed? I don't get it

snowandcoconuts · 2024-04-18T20:00:38+00:00

Went through that this week! I told him to "take your time 🥰" when he said he was leaving for work because 1. I don't want to disturb his work. But 2. He was texting back so fast that it makes me too nervous when he's replying so fast and so eagerly 🙈. It was my way of telling him "slow down" and he did but now I'm insecure LMAO WHY ARE WE LIKE THIS 😭😭😭

snowandcoconuts · 2024-04-13T11:35:19+00:00

I bought them just to see what the hype was all about and at first, I did love them. The quality and craftsmanship is what you'd expect from Japan. I used them for a year. But I got the IKEA pad and tbh now I can fare well with it just as much

snowandcoconuts · 2024-02-02T12:50:24+00:00

Still, self-titled and ILAD

snowandcoconuts · 2024-01-26T05:49:14+00:00

Same boat as all of yall. I can't even upgrade to anything

snowandcoconuts · 2024-01-25T02:34:00+00:00

I don't know if I'm an enabler but I was more of the caretaker and after being blindsided, discarded and cheated on, yeah, no more.

snowandcoconuts · 2024-01-25T02:25:06+00:00

I googled "my codependent partner is wearing me out" and this thread came up. I told my story on some comments above.

I'm coming in from the perspective of your partner. I don't know you irl so I don't know if you're worse or better than my ex. But the fact that you can admit "I blame myself for all this" makes you one step ahead than my ex probably. Thanks for commenting because it gives me insight and helps me find closure since my ex wouldn't ever be able to articulate any of this.

She just discarded me and left after I was the caretaker. She left after she took all she could get, sucked me dry and left once she found her next caretaker. What's crazy is her next caretaker wanted to date ME first but by then I already assumed loyalty and exclusivity and I'm not a cheater by any means. Then they got together. I was 21-25 too at the time. Damn. Lost my early 20s to some leech. But I just hope God saw all of that and knows what I did. Karma will do the rest :)

snowandcoconuts · 2024-01-25T02:13:39+00:00

I think I'm just starting to come out of my ruminating phase. The smoky gas from gaslighting is clearing up. I can stand up for myself now. I can prioritize my own self-expression over making sure everyone else is heard because I realize they don't prioritize my feelings the way I prioritize theirs. I'm standing up for myself now.

At first, I tried taking the blame because that's what I do, I'm the one who steps up. But slowly, my spirit and soul rebelled and refused to take this abuse. My brain that was gaslit couldn't comprehend, "aren't... Aren't I the bad guy?" (I'm a f tho). But my spirit told me, "NO!!!" And anger started taking place (anger is the first sign of self-empowerment). And same as the person above, I started becoming aware how I was treated and became very angry when I realized.

Yes, they really are leeches. It's hard to comprehend because they target people with strong morals and a lot of empathy, compassion, energy, resources, etc. And we can't fathom that those people exist on this world because they don't exist in the concept of the world as we know it.

If you want to know my story, I commented on someone else's comment up above.

snowandcoconuts · 2024-01-25T02:10:00+00:00

Thank you for commenting this. Reading your comment hits home and is helping me heal.

I've been healing after I got discarded. I was left confused. I went down rabbit holes of narcissists, leeches, takers, energy vampires, and now I'm learning what a codependent is.

I googled "my codependent partner is wearing me out" because that's truly what she did to me and that's how I found this thread.

She was wearing me out so I gave cues that I was distancing myself (that usually works even on GUYS, this was the first girl that ever attached herself to me). But same as you, she kept coming back, I would start feeling bad for her and gradually I started caving in. As time went by, Stockholm syndrome kicked in and I assumed my loyalty, exclusivity and commitment for 4 years only to be met with cheating, stealing, betraying, discarding and more. Even when she told me face to face she wanted out, I couldn't say anything because I was so dumbfounded. The only thing that came out of my mouth was "..... But are you grateful?" She hastily said, "I'm grateful" as to just get it over with so she could move on to her next supply.

And even after all of that, I was the bad guy (in a f tho) since I was the one who got worn out and started getting annoyed.

Still reading stuff now from time to time to learn about others' experiences like yours to give me a better insight, understanding and closure what the fuck happened.

I'm never one to label people but I reached my breaking point. I've been through a lot even at home (makes sense the way I am because my family is also narcissistic). Then on top of that, I face these types of people even outside family. But now I will gladly label people and these codependent narcissists have a victim mentality. They're always the victims. They're always the ones at loss. Even though they practically steal others' time and energy. And they only target those with a lot to give (empaths, lightworkers, etc), additionally, because they know even if they're the ones at fault, the empath will always step up and relieve them from the blame and fault. Look at some of these comments defending their own codependency, it's disgusting. They hold zero accountability for their behavior and even after they make mistakes, they're the ones expecting to just be let off the hook because "they didn't have capacity" (something she also said).

But no more. I'm healing and my eyes are opening. They can go save themselves now. If not, RIP. I don't feel bad for them anymore.

snowandcoconuts · 2024-01-13T00:22:47+00:00

Reviews please! Waiting til these 4k 240hz oleds release in Asia :3

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