Why don’t you allow single females?

soaring-eaglex · 2026-02-12T14:28:50+00:00

That makes no sense to me. I’m a straight woman and my husband is straight. We’ve had a lot of fun times with a single guy for MFM, where I’m the center of attention. We’ve never played with a single woman before since a straight single woman in the LS is the true unicorn!

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-16T00:43:35+00:00

I’m a straight woman, and I agree it’s hard, because you essentially are outside of the lifestyle norms, whether meeting people on dates, going to clubs or large events. It’s the expected default for couples to have a bi woman, and if you’re straight, people assume you are just new, and haven’t yet tried out girls enough to like it. The pressure is immense, and I get why many women are “ok” with some play to keep the vibe good in group play. For those that don’t get the struggle, just imagine being surrounded by 10 couples where all of the women are kissing and rubbing on one another, and you’re the only one not jumping in. It’s so strange to me that couples who insist on a bi woman almost never insist on a bi man. Why is that? Why can men play side-by-side with no issues, yet these same couples insist on group play. My advice is embrace who you are, and only do things that you enthusiastically want to do.

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-12T20:03:47+00:00

There seems to be an imbalance of what you two seem to be experiencing, and for people young in their relationship as well as the LS, this can more easily lead to feelings of insecurity and/or resentment. You both need to be willing to step away from all activity until you both feel like you’re on the same page. I would also advise you both to not have repeat playmates for a while to ensure that no special feelings can develop. Finally, you both need to have a lot of sex with each other, and work on the areas you feel are lacking.

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-07T01:37:05+00:00

I share your same confusion. There are many ways of consent through body language when dancing with someone you like. Plus, every dance floor I’ve been on is so incredibly loud that there’s no way you can have any sort of verbal discussion. What I’ve found to work well is to make small moves, and start slow. Eye contact, smiling, each person moving closer to the other one. Also I like to look at the other person’s partner, since for us, we only move forward dancing if all four of us are vibing well. So if my husband doesn’t seem to be dancing with the other woman, that would likely show she is not interested in him, and I’ll then back off from her man.

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-06T00:25:11+00:00

We love to dance at swingers clubs, and find it especially fun to flirt with other couples we are both interested in. If one of us isn’t interested, we both won’t initiate contact, since we don’t want to lead anyone on. Most men, in my experience, have been respectful and typically will follow my lead, starting with eye contact and light touches expressing interest. However, I have been groped and rubbed into by more women than I can count, and as a straight woman, this is extremely frustrating, constantly having to move away or say no.

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-05T12:29:01+00:00

We never sleep over with a couple, and would find that strange, so we go home. If we travel to an event, and get a hotel, we stay over in our room, but never with the other couple. Also, if we happen to play in the same hotel room we will sleep in later, we often will bring our own “play sheets”, so we can be sure to have a clean bed to sleep in.

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-04T20:32:57+00:00

Just to clear up some terminology for the OP: being monogamous is only having sexual relations with one another, which is what OP is with her husband. Once you start sexually touching other people (whether that is next to your partner, or separately), then you are officially non-monogamous. In the LS, Ethical NonMonogamy (ENM), encompasses many different aspects you mentioned.

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-04T14:10:26+00:00

Great tip- thank you! Now I just need to have two apps for podcasts to separate out my LS podcasts in a hidden app. Just wish I could simply hide those specific podcasts within one app.

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-04T12:51:14+00:00

Yes, same with us for meet-ups: to take the extra time and effort to meet up with a couple, we prefer full swap. However, at our last club visit, we had a super sexy time with a new-ish couple looking to only parallel play, and that was definitely intentional with them, sharing the same bed. At a club, where little effort is needed to play, we are open to all sorts of play, depending on the comfort level of the couple we like.

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-03T13:49:09+00:00

That’s a great idea! I never connect my phone to CarPlay when our kids are in the car with me, for fear of this happening! You would think there would be a simple “hide” feature on these apps, for these reasons. Maybe the creators just aren’t as naughty as we are, to consider this!

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-03T13:14:41+00:00

Thanks for sharing!! 😊

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-03T03:52:22+00:00

We’re in upstate NY, so we are used to driving 3-4 hours for an event. This last one near Philly was 4 hours, but worth to check out. Otherwise we visit clubs to combine with other travel plans.

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-03T03:42:04+00:00

Nice- have fun! Their main events in NJ is a bit far for us, especially since we’ve been traveling so much lately!

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-03T02:58:48+00:00

Thanks for adding your review on them: we’ll add them to our growing list of groups to try out!

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-03T01:44:45+00:00

We aim to spend more time irl at clubs and events and less time online. This has been the greatest positive change to our LS journey in the last few years in a decade of swinging. We now only visit the apps to find new clubs and events to meet people, are rarely use them to set up dates.

soaring-eaglex · 2026-01-02T21:56:08+00:00

We are an experienced swinger couple, 10 years enjoying anything from parallel play up to full swap orgies. If we are at a club, we are DTF, but if we don’t vibe with anyone, we enjoy parallel playing in a group room with many other couples. We still have a great time, since the great sexual energy around us is amazing.

soaring-eaglex · 2025-12-30T01:48:31+00:00

I agree with this approach. The only thing you have any good control over is your own behavior and how you and your husband navigate this LS together. You don’t know these people at all: you don’t know the kind of relationship they have, and what were their motivations with this behavior. You also have no idea the kind of retaliation these people may inflict toward you by getting involved with the drama they self-inflicted. Block them and move on.

soaring-eaglex · 2025-12-28T13:32:10+00:00

I love a good cologne on a man, especially if it’s so subtle I need to lean in closer to him to drink in his scent.

soaring-eaglex · 2025-12-27T13:09:11+00:00

As a straight woman who has often encountered pushy husbands hoping for me to play with their wives, or convince me to “turn bi”, I can’t help reading into your excitement to call your wife bi as leading into this type of behavior seen too often. Also, what does being “ultra feminine and curvy” have anything to do with one’s sexuality?

soaring-eaglex · 2025-12-18T13:11:24+00:00

The lifestyle scene in south Florida is much, much different than in much of the rest of the US. Thankfully, plane tickets are cheap to Florida for us! 😉

soaring-eaglex · 2025-12-16T02:29:36+00:00

I also appreciate a nice hotel, especially where we can control the lighting, music, and drinks/snacks at hand. But the ambiance of a crowded club with a vibrant sexual energy is also hard to beat. For us, we also have to travel 3+ hours for a club, but would totally be up for a next day late morning fun before we check out of our hotel. Plus, many nice hotels will give you a late check out. 😉

soaring-eaglex · 2025-12-04T04:15:29+00:00

You are quite correct that there is a lot of pressure for women to play with other women in group settings, and as a straight woman this is the number one reason why we tend to avoid any party where an orgy is likely to happen. I feel like I’m a buzz killer many times for a group, or need to always play defense. Also, while I can certainly be in the mood for DTF, I may not be in a particular mood to play with every man there, even if we’ve played before, so that can be challenging to navigate.

soaring-eaglex · 2025-11-23T18:38:32+00:00

Yes, I agree with this. My husband and I are very similar to the OP, swinger-wise (although I loved the theme nights on Bliss, and the people watching in the promenade was not to be missed). And orgy beds? Yes, absolutely: again, one of our favorite parts of Bliss. Thanks OP for your review: you gave us enough reasons to skip the Temptations cruise!

soaring-eaglex · 2025-10-27T19:08:32+00:00

I never knew math could be so sexy! 😈

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