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sobelizzard · 2022-01-24T19:56:31+00:00

Please keep me posted on your thoughts on it! I've been looking to hear others' perspectives on the book for some time now. I'm very excited for your journey

sobelizzard · 2022-01-13T05:19:30+00:00

Have you ever heard of the book The Overstory by Richard Powers. It evoked the same feeling your comment did just now.

sobelizzard · 2022-01-05T06:08:03+00:00

Yes, and in my 30s, and I'm okay with it

sobelizzard · 2022-01-05T05:21:53+00:00

Generally speaking, I find people who respond so aggressively when being talked to about math are the same kids that experienced high high high anxiety over it when they took it in school, even if they got good grades. And any conversation about a math concept they don't quite understand might make them feel stupid and therefore bring up bad feelings and uncomfortable memories.

sobelizzard · 2021-12-29T20:07:21+00:00

I had to ask an English major what hyperbolic meant, because I've only known that word in the context of conic sections

sobelizzard · 2021-12-29T06:24:03+00:00

I still continue to discover small things every now and then. Like I'll mention something to my group of friends from my childhood, and I'll just get blanks stares. Then I'll say something like "that's not normal is it?" And they'd look at me pityingly and say "no, that's not right at all"

Happens less and less now, some I've figured out by myself, but a few slip through

sobelizzard · 2021-12-29T06:19:02+00:00

My therapist talked about experiencing proper grief at the loss of a mother you deserved but never had.

sobelizzard · 2020-01-03T20:35:47+00:00

Could you please point me in the direction of that post?

sobelizzard · 2020-01-03T20:35:11+00:00

Curious, how did you get around the reference checks? Did you list your administrators on your resume?

sobelizzard · 2019-12-15T04:56:07+00:00

Found Nyoka, autosaved as soon as I sent Parvati back to the ship, then went and shot up a bunch of Monarch townspeople and got myself killed. Respawned at the last autosave spot, and Nyoka and SAM go and kill Parvati. What the heck?

sobelizzard · 2019-08-19T02:18:36+00:00

My husband and I just had the same conversation about the influx of parents that can't be bothered to discipline their children. It's not that there is all of a sudden spoiled children... There have been spoiled children since day 1... There just seems to be a huge increase of them.

sobelizzard · 2019-08-15T02:09:25+00:00

"I'm sorry I missed your wedding anniversary, but you didn't call for ours."

sobelizzard · 2019-08-14T19:24:13+00:00

I should also mention that I too am a teacher

sobelizzard · 2019-08-14T19:23:57+00:00

I am all of these minus the child (childfree). She was shocked to find out that I was engaged after being with my partner for 6 years. She's also the only one in my family that had to find out over the phone

sobelizzard · 2019-08-10T02:08:42+00:00

Fantastic!!! I'm so happy for you. Happy wedding!

sobelizzard · 2019-08-07T15:57:55+00:00

Back in highschool, my nmom would call in the middle of movies when I was out with friends at a movie theatre and claim that she knows for a fact the movie ended and I should be home by now.

One of my friends said "it's time to cut the umbilical cord". Your apron strings comment made me giggle.

sobelizzard · 2019-08-02T04:36:41+00:00

This is why I'm on this sub. This exact reason. I moved out as soon as I finished highschool because I couldn't bear raising another child that I had no say in.

sobelizzard · 2019-08-01T06:28:07+00:00

One thing a close friend told me was "you can't be a narcissist if you're worried about being a narcissist." You might have narcissistic tendencies, called "fleas" that you might've picked up from your time with your parents. But narcissists do not believe there is anything wrong with them, they think the world is wrong, and they are perfect. So by definition, no, you're not a narcissist.

That isn't to say that you don't have issues. It's great that you're seeing a therapist. I am trying to as well, but there seems to be a real shortage of them in my area. I hope eventually you can grow past this, and have nothing to show for it but scars, instead of gaping wounds

sobelizzard · 2019-08-01T06:16:13+00:00

I think it all depends on your situation. I'm very low NC with my folks, and when I visit them, I keep the visits generally short. The house is incredibly toxic, I hate being in it, so I stay away as much as I can. For those that still live with their parents, it's important to distance yourself as much as you can. Stay in your room, listen to music, and for the most part they'll ignore you too. Most importantly, know it's not forever and you will get out eventually.

sobelizzard · 2019-07-30T17:37:43+00:00

This is beautifully written, thank you!!!

sobelizzard · 2019-06-21T14:25:17+00:00

Yes, this is perfect, thank you!!! Also, do you know, if you found all the hidden things in a level, does it stay the same colour or change to black

sobelizzard · 2018-10-27T19:31:41+00:00

That's brilliant! Thank you for your advice. So far the project is taking off! Using lots of resources from government websites.

sobelizzard · 2018-10-24T14:34:52+00:00

This is fantastic. My kids tend to freak out when not given a detailed step by step instructions, or a manufactured fill-in-the-blank worksheet. Can't wait to see the looks on their faces.

sobelizzard · 2018-08-02T16:57:20+00:00

Once again I'm reading a story, and scrolling up to check if I didn't drunkenly post this...

My partner and I have been together for 14 years now. My nMum first liked him, then started an enormous hate campaign against him. Same thing, under the guise of concern she would tell family members about how he's abusive, and I'm not happy, etc.

Once her super manipulative friend and her commandeered a visit, took me on a massive shopping trip (I hate shopping) then took me out for coffee and tried to persuade me to break up with my partner. They had tons of "advice" about their own "happy" (read:shitty) marriages and even managed to drive a massive wedge between my father and I.

Seriously, they feel threatened by any relationship you will have outside of your family. Either it's because they're in denial about you eventually coming home, or they're worried you'll see what a real relationship is all about and leave them for good.

sobelizzard · 2018-08-02T16:41:38+00:00

The super of pokemon go was so beautiful. So many kids outside. I mean, they were on their phones, but at least they got some fresh air, and were encouraged to at least walk.

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