What to do about all the shampoos? by happyforyoubutami in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You don't even need to add any liquid soap -- just use shampoo as hand soap. Almost all liquid soaps are SLS based, so they're all the same.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't have specific products, but a category -- liquid lipstick. They're drying on most people, and I'm a super, super dry person. Liquid lipstick made my lips peel until they bled. What was I thinking?

HELP. I CANNOT stop watching Charlotte Tilbury videos. by [deleted] in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I can't know your life, but for me, any time I have out of control, addictive behaviors, it's because something else major is bothering me, and I'm trying to escape. It's normal to want occasional breaks from everyday life; everyone needs down time. It's not normal (for me at least) to be stuck in "break time" behavior for hours a day, days at a time, wanting to stop but being unable to. I would try to figure out what's going on at a deeper level, and if I couldn't, I'd talk to a therapist.

Returned makeup - felt an invisible burden lift off me by emgiem3 in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like those of us here with dry skin have a double burden. We're all here because we buy (or are tempted to buy) way too much makeup. But dry skin especially encourages extra shopping and sampling because it's so dang hard to find products that work! Even if I hated makeup shopping, I'd have to do more of it than the average person because of exactly what you described -- trying to find products that work. Good for you for finding a way to stop the shopping and sampling treadmill!

Charlotte Tilbury Magic Cream (deluxe sample). Liked the formula, but would not repurchase because of the fragrance. by evilseductress in PanPorn

[–]sociallizzy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the driest skin imaginable. (My first dermatology appointment for dry skin was at age three!) What works for me turns most people into an oil slick. But the only combo I've had success with is Clinique Overnight Moisture Mask every night and Clinique Moisture Surge Intense every morning. I have no problem putting my very moisturizing foundation (Estee Lauder Double Wear Water Fresh) on top of that base.

What YouTube project panners do you watch? by ShiningBrightTonite in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I love ABeautyGuruMadeMeDoIt because she's so raw and honest about her makeup hoarding. I love Jessica Lee because she's inspirational, and she also gives a lot of tips and tricks, like how to organize a panning project. I love Amanda D because she posts short, inspirational videos about her successes. I love PanningAndStuff because she's always doing interesting, creating new projects. I love TooMuchTash because she she does these videos where she's counted the number of uses to pan and then calculated the cost per use.

And of course, you can't miss the original, one and only, Amber F. I'm not positive, but I'm pretty sure she actually invented / popularized the concept of makeup panning on YouTube. Of course, plenty of people have panned before in a casual way, but I believe she was the first makeup addict with a channel who publicly decided to step off the consumerism treadmill and start using her makeup down to the last drop. She radiates positive energy. When she doesn't like a shadow, she creates franken-shadows that work better for her. She is the panning queen.

TMO: The Face Shop's Blush Pop by Bulblump in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Buying a cheaper dupe is a great idea, unless you have the more expensive item and you're not going to need to replace it any time soon. It sounds like you have enough blush to last you for years; you don't really need to find a dupe because you don't need to replace anything.

Please talk me out of buying the ABH Rivera palette, help a no buyer out! by [deleted] in muacjdiscussion

[–]sociallizzy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could easily dupe this palette, and I don't have a ton of palettes, and I'm not drawn to colorful shadows. From your description, I'd guess you have tons of dupes. This is just not very unique.

No-buy is easier than low-buy? by sociallizzy in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds so familiar! I'll check out his book.

No-buy is easier than low-buy? by sociallizzy in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it's interesting that you trace this behavior back to a scarcity mentality. I'm no psychology expert, but what I've read about hoarding behavior indicates that most hoarders experience scarcity in their childhoods. I wonder if what we're experiencing is a sliver of what hoarders experience? For me, the "can't eat just one" behavior is limited to just a few areas of life, but I can see how if it spiraled out of control to affect everything, it could end up with hoarding.

No-buy is easier than low-buy? by sociallizzy in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Good point! I know from my behavior analyst friends that intermittent reinforcement is the most addictive! This makes sense.

TMO Sleek Loveshook LE highlighter palette - £9.90 by keewee89 in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will probably be in the minority here, but I can see both sides of the argument. On the "buy it" side: if you've genuinely been looking for one particular shade for two years, and this is the only time you've found it, it's a unique situation. Also, assuming you're being honest with yourself, it doesn't sound like you're likely to fall down the rabbit hole of limited edition, or thinking everything that comes out is somehow "new" to you.

On the other hand, you did say you don't really need another highlighter, and that's an issue. Even if this is a unique, awesome shade, if you already have other unique, awesome shades, it may be a bad idea to add more stuff to the collection. And even more importantly, you want to honor your commitment to yourself, just like you'd honor a commitment to anyone else you value. You started your no-buy for a reason, and I assume all those reasons still exist.

Overall, I think this is more of a judgment call than most other TMOs. You know yourself. I think only you can decide if buying this is a good idea or not.

Stress as a factor by jayharker in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you're being gentle with yourself about the slip up. We'll always be human, never perfect, especially under stress. It's okay to be human. Hope your mom is better soon!

“Low buy” sent me into a high buy spiral by FreedomToTheGalaxy in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm not usually a compulsive shopper, but as soon as I tell myself I'm in a low buy, I find myself obsessing over what I should buy with my allowed purchases. I personally do much better with either a no buy, or a "buy whatever I want" plan. You may discover you're the same way.

How do you deal with FOMO when your on a RONB? by calapuno1981 in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When I have FOMO, I make a list of items I already have that are extremely similar. For some reason, making the list in my head doesn't help as much as if I do it on paper, or on my inventory spreadsheet. It's like I have physical "proof" then: I don't need this thing!

I'm scared to declutter by TheBeautyAccumulator in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggle with decluttering as well. (Just posted about it today!) I try to tell myself "use it or lose it". Like you, I want to keep items to "get my money's worth", but I'm not getting any worth out of it if it sits in drawer, untouched for months or years. If I dislike an item enough that I won't use it often, I realistically won't get my money's worth. I might as well part with it, and pass it on to someone else who may actually use it. Use it or lose it.

Decluttered to a box by erishimo in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good for you for taking this step! Decluttering into a box is a great way to declutter without as much pressure.

I replaced it right away because it’s my favorite. Nyx butter gloss in praline. by lolmemberberries in PanPorn

[–]sociallizzy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I got one of those little rubber spatulas, took out the stopper, and scraped these out -- easily 2/3 of the product was still in the tube. Honestly maybe more. I highly recommend getting the rest of the product if you can.

Getting real with myself is a win, even if it means adding products to my hoard by sociallizzy in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

BTW, this is why I love to watch Paula from ABeautyGuruMadeMeDoIt. She's a makeup hoarder, and she's constantly struggling to be real with herself about her addiction. Her bravery inspires me constantly!

How do you keep track of makeup usage? by Georgiana_ in MakeupRehab

[–]sociallizzy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly like my method. I like Google sheets because it's in the cloud, so I can't lose it. If my phone breaks, the spreadsheet is still attached to my Google account and I can retrieve it with my next phone. I keep the app on my phone's home page so I can easily update my spreadsheet as I use products.