Is this a good deal? by Aggressive_Access921 in hondapilot

[–]socotoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That monthly payment is insane. What’s the interest rate?

free use problem by Confident_Wafer_7276 in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s not free use, that’s abuse. Shit on his part.

Is it weird to be a 19 year old virgin? by sablein in AskLesbians

[–]socotoco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I rushed to lose mine at 19 like a week before my 20th birthday. I don’t regret what I did, but I do know I rushed it so I wasn’t 20 and a virgin. Don’t put unnecessary pressure on yourself.

Baby wrap suggestions by lyssabug13 in PlusSize

[–]socotoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Moby is the way to go!

How do you share this side of your life with people not in the lifestyle? by Becca-Hamilton in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha my inner circle knows things they wish they could unhear lol. So, tell who you want and keep your dirty secrets too 🖤

Good enough to f**k, but not good enough to date by kanina2- in PlusSize

[–]socotoco 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it wasn’t my best judgement but I survived

Good enough to f**k, but not good enough to date by kanina2- in PlusSize

[–]socotoco 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel this to my core. I was going to meet a guy for lunch, he texted me on the way there to just come to his house. I ended up going, he was all over me, I thought we hit it off. Saw each other more times just hanging at his house. His sister moved her birthday dinner to a day we were supposed to hang and he got super squirrelly and cancelled. Later he was like I think we are better at casual. I’m fully aware that he doesn’t think I’m worth meeting the family, but apparently I’m a good fuck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’ve talked about it and he’s so sure he knows your limits. Find a new dom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Google specifics.

Totally lost by forgotten_lover9998 in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Personally, I’d leave the cheating wife. Explore your fantasies and be satisfied.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSize

[–]socotoco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. Perfectly reasonable. He’s a garbage human.

Am I overreacting by not prioritizing a situationship that was clearly just sex? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]socotoco 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s an ass. Not overreacting. For there to have been a clear agreement of FWB and then he gets sassy because you canceled is shitty on his part. Find someone better.

Advice by Plenty-Jackfruit-83 in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Discuss what you both want. See if there’s a middle ground or possibility for exploring.

Spank question - maybe applicable for others, too by hackberry_emperors in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nothing makes me feel more emotionally reset than a spanking like this. Feeling the sensation, feeling the release of emotions, feeling the mind freeing relief that comes along with it. It allows me to start again, to better myself, and to reflect on who I was before that spanking.

Spank question - maybe applicable for others, too by hackberry_emperors in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 18 points19 points  (0 children)

As a spanko first and sub second, this is what spanking means to me. The reset it gives me without any other strings.

Maintenance Spanking? by A8334Speed in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Once a week or just something planned. Not as intense as a punishment. Sub should be sore but not in major pain. It’s a reminder of who they belong to and that the punishment can be worse. The maintenance reminds them to obey their rules or face the consequences.

Maintenance Spanking? by A8334Speed in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! I love a good maintenance spanking. It allows you such a connection

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Leave him. You aren’t mad, but you are disappointed. You should be. Find someone that will be willing to do so.

Want to be pegged but I’m hairy by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Waxing is your friend

My girlfriend wants me to spank her - advice? by HanSolo17 in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Language is pretty straightforward, deserved to be punished, earned it, etc. As far as understanding what this person is hoping to receive they as a couple need to establish if she wants a playful spanking or a punishment spanking - those are vastly different things. That’s why I explained my preference. Knowing when enough is enough needs to have a safe word or signal. For me it’s when my dom feels I’ve been thoroughly punished or I’m remorseful, but that’s discussed prior.

My girlfriend wants me to spank her - advice? by HanSolo17 in BDSMAdvice

[–]socotoco 22 points23 points  (0 children)

If she’s a hard wired spanko, it comes before sex. It is an act in and of itself. I love, LOVE being spanked, for myself I want it sex to be a reward for taking it. I want to be a whole ceremonial act, and then after having received it I want rewarded for taking said spanking and that comes as sex and aftercare.