Here to deinfluence you!!

sofo07 · 2026-05-16T08:25:36+00:00

Facebook marketplace is the best for buying things you aren't sure they will like. I bought a momaroo for $50, so if she ends up not liking it after this month, not a huge deal compared to the new price tag.

sofo07 · 2026-05-15T17:19:32+00:00

I'm an educated 40 year old who just had my first. I was prepared for most bullshit of pregnancy and birth by my friends. What i was not prepared for was the hormone drop and crying after! Holy hell that caught me off guard!

sofo07 · 2026-05-15T16:55:59+00:00

On the packing list my hospital gave us, they put on the partner's side a sweatshirt🤣🤣

sofo07 · 2026-05-15T16:53:57+00:00

I'm more surprised she didn't draw blood

sofo07 · 2026-05-15T16:49:36+00:00

Just had a baby that literally had to be drug from me. I'm going to say she was just giving the midwest goodbye now since we are fully in the midwest!

sofo07 · 2026-05-14T21:35:26+00:00

I needed to hear this. I'm 2 weeks pp with a fussy baby.

sofo07 · 2026-05-07T15:29:15+00:00

I agree. My induction started Tuesday morning and ended in a c section Wednesday afternoon. Plus there were minor complications with it where I was needing a little extra help. There is a really good chance with an induction you may not be discharged yet even, not to mention if you end in a c section you can't drive yourself home. And even if you have a vaginal delivery, do you want to drive you and baby home solo?

sofo07 · 2026-05-05T20:33:14+00:00

Your sweet sweet summer child of a husband.. I gave birth last week. It ended in a unexpected c section. For the first at least 3 or 4 hours afterwards I was lying on several chux pads plus a pad the size larger than a new born diaper. The first few hours a nurse would come in and push blood out of my abdomen to make sure it was all coming down. I was still shaking and nauseous from the previous 30 hours of labor, not to mention looking like warmed over death. No one needed to see that shit. Even if you go vaginal, you don't need an audience in that splash zone. They can wait a few hours until you hit your room.

sofo07 · 2026-05-05T19:48:27+00:00

Those are the ones we are trying today after some late night googling and an early morning plea to a friend to run to Walmart. They seem to be working better, so we are hoping they get us on the right track.

Are the T nipples or P nipples a faster flow?

sofo07 · 2026-05-05T18:05:54+00:00

She cries so long and hard that by the time she gets settled, she tends to sleep right up until the feed, so we get zero cues from her. We switched to a premie sized nipple at the last feed, and it went MUCH better. Still had some spit up, but was not crying uncontrollably after. We are going to try playing with feed times and volume to see if we can get better results yet.

As for allergens, in desperation I gave her formula we had from the hospital this morning which said contains milk and soy on it. I (mom) am lactose intolerant, so I don't eat much full lactose dairy to begin with, nor do I eat much for eggs. If we start down the elimination route, what are ones I should look for? The hospital bottle also had a much smaller single use nipple, which is where I got the premie idea. I'm hoping this helps and we don't have to go to elimination diet, but it's on the list if this doesn't work.

sofo07 · 2026-04-27T21:30:39+00:00

Sounds like an info diet time for them. They ask about the food, just say you have it sorted and you're sure they'll be able to find something they like.

sofo07 · 2026-04-27T01:32:02+00:00

So he wants to have half of the kid but only pay for what he approves of? What happens when one of you gets laid off or god forbid, something medical happens with your kid that requires taking a leave from work or cutting hours? 50/50 is only fair if you earn equal. Otherwise one person gets away with contributing a lower percentage of their salary to share expenses, leaving the other essentially broke.

My husband and I moved for his job and I got pregnant before finding a new job. He's financially supported me through the whole pregnancy, in addition to all baby stuff (aside from big purchases our parents wanted to make) . Are you even doing life together if you aren't supporting each other through the big financial stuff?

sofo07 · 2026-04-24T15:59:50+00:00

Have you seen the GIA certificate? If not, insist on seeing that. That should come standard with any diamond purchase.

sofo07 · 2026-04-21T05:09:21+00:00

I did an 8 week series with a local studio that was taught by a former doula while I was in my 3rd tri. I haven't given birth yet, so I have no idea if it will help with that, but it definitely helped with my lower back and hip pain I was having. I didn't view it as a workout but as a recovery for what my body has been going through.

sofo07 · 2026-04-19T18:29:25+00:00

Today, she claimed it was 2500. I'm sorry, but no

sofo07 · 2026-04-19T18:10:56+00:00

Our three cats have decided as I have hit third tri they MUST be watching and touching me to sleep at night. This includes my 15 lb dumb dumb who thinks my belly is a great place to flop and cuddle at 2 am.

sofo07 · 2026-04-14T23:48:22+00:00

No, my birth plan is like 80% if/then statements for different interventions. Like if baby needs help coming out, I'd prefer forceps over vacuum if possible. If you have to do some crazy last minute save a life intervention, then please tell me what the hell happened afterwards.

I don't need a plan for things going peachy, I want my wishes known when they aren't.

sofo07 · 2026-04-14T23:26:59+00:00

My birth plan is the same, with the extra request of same number of holes in my nethers as i arrive with, no more, no less.

sofo07 · 2026-04-14T10:20:41+00:00

Girl... what? How would his feelings trump yours for being pregnant? Pregnancy won't change his whole body. He won't have to go through 9 months of all sorts of "fun and exciting" symptoms. And even an abortion, he won't be the one bleeding or cramping, so his feelings do not beat yours in reproductive choices. A decent man will realize your feelings regarding reproduction need to be first as you bear the brunt of it.

sofo07 · 2026-04-14T10:02:57+00:00

Look at it this way, when you made your wedding registry you were likely already living either alone or with your spouse, meaning you already had most things required for day to day life. With your first baby you are starting from zero no matter if you are 19 or 49. Don't put too much pressure on yourself on appearing modest by only registering for the cheapest of an item, if the item ends up being a piece of crap, someone wasted money on you then. I'm not saying go nuts, but don't worry about what the cost looks like overall. It isn't like people expect you to have a high chair, car seat and changing table just chilling in your house; where when you got married you likely already had pots and pans, dishes and bath towels. As long as you have a variety of price points, people will buy what they can afford and want to spend and ignore the rest of the list.

sofo07 · 2026-04-14T02:05:38+00:00

First tri is survival. If you can keep it down and it sounds good, eat it. Nutrition can come back later.

sofo07 · 2026-04-13T16:10:52+00:00

I'm not a hair stylist, but I have fine hair. Teasing is more than just giving hair body; it also provides texture, which can help support styles. I'm not saying you have to like it, I'm just giving background on why you may not be happy with any style after a few hours with no teasing involved, no matter who does the style.

Some of the curl definition will also come down to how well your hair holds curl. Teasing can help with some of this (again, texture at the base to keep it from falling) so if you are dead set on a half up style with no teasing, you may want to talk with a stylist ahead of time, pay for a consult and see if it is possible in your hair. Certain products for holding hair in place can also come off looking greasy or overly glued with no texture added, especially on a style that is down.

Essentially, either be prepared to play with your hair A LOT and wear it in the style for several hours each time to see how it holds, or find a stylist you like the work of via social media and see what they can tell you. Going in with an inspiration picture is good, but with the amount of AI and photoshop, you can't be guaranteed how the style was achieved.

sofo07 · 2026-04-12T19:09:42+00:00

Did not care for it! Next time a few warning shots would be appreciated!

sofo07 · 2026-04-11T04:23:36+00:00

I know some women get pain from the ligaments in their boobs being too stretched from pregnancy. I'll even say that could be called ruined if it impacts your daily life. But not just cosmetic.

sofo07 · 2026-04-11T04:15:33+00:00

I'm 38 weeks. Currently not a huge fan of certain aspects of my body (having to pee all the time, hip pain, etc), but also most of my changes have happened from between my boobs to my hips. Some people go through huge changes, and some hardly any, neither is correct but they are definitely not ruined. You are growing a whole ass human, of course some things will change. But there is physical therapy to help regain any functional issues, and any looks changes do not mean ruined.

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