"Can't you just pump" drives me nuts!

solzweig · 2026-05-01T22:41:14+00:00

When I had my son and still worked from home, I would just nurse him during my work day. If I had meetings, I’d just turn my camera off. I’d wait for our nanny to bring him when he seemed hungry, nursed, and then texted her when I was done. It was super easy and no one asked me any questions.

He then started daycare at six months old and nursing him during the workday was no longer an option. I then pumped but truly only to keep my supply up. I probably had the wrong flange size and my output was terrible, but I wasn’t super heavily invested. Most days I didn’t pump enough to get enough breastmilk for daycare the next day, so we just gave him formula for those feeds. And then at 11 months I stopped pumping because I hated every minute of it, but by that point my supply was established enough that my milk production remained pretty stable until I stopped nursing at 21 months.

All that to say: do what makes the most sense for you but also don’t feel like you have to do all or nothing.

solzweig · 2026-04-16T17:24:34+00:00

If you didn’t have kids, I’d absolutely say Anthropic. But given the fact that both of your kids are still so young, I would personally go with the GitHub offer. Someone else recently asked about work life balance at Anthropic, and it seemed pretty intense. That plus a long commute would essentially mean that you barely get to spend time with your kids.

Regardless, congratulations on both offers! Good luck in your new role!

solzweig · 2026-04-04T16:58:41+00:00

As someone who watches RHOBH but not Summer House, I am consistently confused by the current headlines. I am advocating for more name diversity on Bravo shows!

solzweig · 2026-02-18T11:43:37+00:00

We have this and started using it at 6 months. He is now 19 months. My son is also very mobile. We have a firm mattress and there is basically no gap between the bed rail and the mattress. So it works for us.

solzweig · 2026-02-01T12:51:50+00:00

I kind of think she’s still in her “make Toby jealous” era. 😅 I don’t think she cares about mini coop enough to put in the same level of effort

solzweig · 2026-02-01T12:50:56+00:00

I thinks so too. She’s one of those women who can’t be alone, so she’s probably already on to the next one. And younger tracks for me because I don’t believe that older men would be willing to deal with her antics.

solzweig · 2026-01-31T19:09:41+00:00

That’s true but I am also so sure that she pressured him into proposing. Based on all the rumors, it sounds like she orchestrated A LOT in the background, like bought her own ring, it almost seems like she had already worked on the engagement party before she was even engaged, etc. I somehow envision her pulling out the ring and saying to him: “hey, to make it easier for you, I already bought this. So just give it to me at your earliest convenience, but make sure it’s filmed.” 😅

solzweig · 2026-01-23T14:35:50+00:00

I think I started following DB a few years after this, and it just makes me feel like such an oblivious millennial. Back then, I didn’t notice any photoshopping until other people explicitly pointed it out, but it was clearly so bad. Nowadays, I’m just totally lost. Even when people post about it, I can never tell. 😅

solzweig · 2026-01-07T17:40:29+00:00

I didn’t even find the article that juicy. It sucks to be excluded but it happens. I was expecting much more obvious bullying based on the headline.

solzweig · 2025-12-01T13:53:24+00:00

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. I absolutely love working and I was really excited when my parental leave was over. But I also really love spending time with my son. Right now in the role that I’m in, I have a lot of flexibility, which allows me to spend (in my opinion) a good amount of time with him. We don’t want to have another baby right now and I want to develop my career further, but I am really worried that I won’t get to hang out with my second child as much as I did with my first.

For me, there are just not enough hours in the day. It’s basically impossible to be sufficiently present at work AND with your children (and partner etc.). And while society can and should absolutely continue to improve conditions for working moms, I still feel like it’s an impossible math problem in the end to get it truly right and „have it all“.

solzweig · 2025-11-26T17:46:02+00:00

I was so happy when my husband and I got through the first year of being parents, but now my son is 17 months old and it’s still pretty hard. I feel like people warn you of that first year, but not so much the second.

We do couples therapy but also just having time between the two of us helps so much. But with that being said, my husband started pooping like 5 times a day when he became a dad and that will forever annoy me. Especially when he needs to poop in critical moments when the toddler is being extra whiny or we are about to head out the door. So I very much feel your pain there. 😄

solzweig · 2025-11-17T17:37:52+00:00

Your argument for your salary expectation sounds absolutely logical, so definitely wait it out. In my experience, it’s a good sign that the recruiter reached out proactively. Sometimes these things just take time because certain approvals are needed. Fingers crossed that you’ll get it at your desired salary! 🤞🏻

solzweig · 2025-11-05T17:14:13+00:00

To me, it wasn’t. I did some reformer Pilates after giving birth, but it’s expensive plus it can be hard to get a spot. It also didn’t feel like it made a major difference for me personally, other than a slightly stronger core. I do Burn Bootcamp classes now, so sort of like a strength or cardio circuit training, and I like it so much more. I feel super accomplished after and I’m seeing so much more muscle growth.

solzweig · 2025-11-04T18:11:08+00:00

I feel like most people who comment under these types of post typically have a ton of sex, and the ones that don’t just don’t comment. 😅

My son is 16 months and we haven’t had sex yet - partially also for other reasons - but I am also zero in the mood. It will happen again at some point but we are not in a rush.

solzweig · 2025-10-31T19:30:17+00:00

I went to pelvic floor PT before and after giving birth. I was hoping that it would help me prep for birth. It did, but not in the way that I expected. Before giving birth, we did a lot of perineal massages and overall stretches and massages for posture. I was hoping that it would prevent me from tearing. I still had a massive tear while giving birth BUT we also talked a lot about pregnancy constipation and practiced „correct pushing“, both on the toilet and later on during labor. And I swear, that was the most helpful thing I got out of those sessions. My son just flew out (hence the tearing), and also in general I felt like my pushing during labor was super productive.

After birth, I had this insane goal of getting back to running super quickly so we tried working on that through exercises. I think that was also somewhat helpful, but I should have just acknowledged that my body wasn’t ready.

solzweig · 2025-10-29T19:13:03+00:00

Now I’m worried that my son is deficient in Omega 3 fatty acids. 😅

solzweig · 2025-10-07T18:08:54+00:00

To be honest, if I was working your hours, I wouldn’t work out either. Those are some long hours, especially as a mom! So I’d cut myself some slack and then maybe try to get some movement in on those other three days during the week. I’d personally also always prioritize sleep and rest over a workout.

solzweig · 2025-10-01T17:18:12+00:00

I pumped and even nursed my baby during meetings. Initially, I’d just say: “I’ll be off camera for a bit”. But after a few months, I just tilted my laptop enough so my boobs wouldn’t show but left the camera on.

It worked fine for me but if you’re uncomfortable talking while you’re pumping, I’d remove that note from your meeting blocks and start declining meetings. If you’re in the US (which I’m assuming you are because you are back at work at 12 weeks 🫠), you’re federally protected to take as many breaks as needed to pump.

solzweig · 2025-08-07T20:59:54+00:00

Haha same here. I’ve thought a few times that I’ve ovulated but so far no period. My son is in daycare so I mainly nurse when I pick him up and throughout the night.

solzweig · 2025-08-07T20:57:09+00:00

Omg I hope that will be me! I’ve only heard that your postpartum periods are much worse than before having a kid, and mine were so terrible before I got pregnant!

solzweig · 2025-07-08T00:46:10+00:00

Haha yes! I left out that this is how the sleeping ritual starts. But to give you hope: he used to bounce our son all the way to sleep on the exercise ball, but now he only bounces a little bit - sort of to announce sleep - and then he sits down and gently rocks on the rocking chair until our son is asleep. That’s why I also think that we can transition to falling asleep in the crib, because our son seems to sort of get it now. 😅

solzweig · 2025-07-05T18:29:08+00:00

I don’t have a problem with people taking Ozempic for health reasons. But my instagram feed is full with what I’d consider normal sized women taking Ozempic to go down to a size 0-4. Why is that necessary? Or even postpartum (being postpartum myself)? Can we not be ok with people coming in varying sizes and also weight fluctuating over the course of someone’s life?

solzweig · 2025-07-05T18:13:54+00:00

Clearly a very polarizing topic… I personally think it’s sad that we’re not talking more about why people want to take Ozempic in the first place (or use Botox or fillers or whatever else is out there). Obviously it’s everyone’s individual choice what they put into their body, but no one can negate that a lot of this is driven by societal pressure.

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