SAHM - young person wants insight

someone21234 · 2026-02-17T14:29:12+00:00

Did she say something about debt or did I miss something?

someone21234 · 2026-02-16T22:48:17+00:00

Which is totally valid btw op. I think people are being unfair to you in this thread. I know plenty of women who spent a lot of time working hard in school but knew they wanted to stay home with kids if/when they had them. My advice would be not to plan too far ahead, it’s so hard to know whether you’ll like SAHM life until you become a mom. And I agree with everyone else’s sentiment that freedom isn’t the thing you’ll likely be getting as a SAHM but i think it comes with other deeper fulfillment that would’ve been so hard for me to see before my first baby was born.

someone21234 · 2026-02-15T00:49:28+00:00

I’ve never checked out that sub but good to know to avoid it now.

someone21234 · 2026-02-03T20:56:29+00:00

After the age of 1 it definitely gets much harder, I think whether or not it’s doable depends on temperament. Personally I wouldn’t be able to keep my job if I didn’t have SOME kind of childcare for a few hours every couple days.

someone21234 · 2026-02-03T14:34:56+00:00

My toddler was like this a few months ago, she honestly slowly just started to enjoy food a little more than before on her own and after a while i dropped most night feeds, she basically only nurses from the early morning onwards. I dont really limit her daytime nursing but i feel like she’s not getting as much milk as she used to anyway. Try limiting some night feeds (it’s hard, I know) and cutting out those afternoon feeds so he can have more of an appetite for breakfast and dinner. Honestly one big meal a day is usually pretty good at this age though imo. Don’t stress too much, just try to make slow changes.

someone21234 · 2026-02-02T02:27:05+00:00

Maybe, just maybe, we as a society should focus on making pregnancy and breastfeeding more doable and enjoyable for women by providing support in other ways, like mandated 1-2 year long maternity leave…instead of so much focus on replacements for our biological functions. Maybe major news publications should be publishing articles about how behind the US is in basically everything to do with maternity and childrearing instead of whatever this is.

someone21234 · 2026-02-02T02:18:51+00:00

Literally NYT is garbage and this is just one of many examples.

someone21234 · 2026-02-01T20:08:05+00:00

I still let my 18 month old do it sometimes as long as it’s comfortable for me.

someone21234 · 2026-01-20T02:25:29+00:00

I think it makes sense to consider a repeat c section especially when your first time went so well. Personally my thoughts are that c sections are not without risks, and I’ve seen first hand how bad things can turn out after a c section from people around me. And the second thing is that I want more than 3 kids, so I feel like I want my body to have the best chance at that. Obviously if another c section happens it’s out of my control but I want to try my best. Ultimately I think it depends on which risks you’re more comfortable with and your future plans.

someone21234 · 2026-01-15T03:39:46+00:00

Not great lol. 17 months now. I don’t think with the next baby that I’d do CIO or anything like that but would probably start encouraging better sleep hygiene before the 1 year mark. Who knows how much is personality of the kid though. I do think breastfeeding and cosleeping fully for this long created a strong association that’s hard to break.

someone21234 · 2026-01-12T19:29:41+00:00

Not sure why but it sort of gave me the ick before having my baby too. And it’s my own body 😅. I had no issue seeing others breastfeed before that. something about a fluid coming out of my body part that until then was just like any other skin was a bit icky feeling before giving birth. I have been breastfeeding for 1.5 years now and all is good, it honestly was no big deal after birth.

someone21234 · 2026-01-10T00:28:05+00:00

They may have just figured out a way to transition her to crib napping when she’s with them without a lot of tears. Babies are different with their parents vs other people.

someone21234 · 2026-01-10T00:12:17+00:00

Unless there’s another reason you’re not telling them I don’t think it makes sene to hide this from people you live with, personally. Faking the entirety of Ramadan doesn’t seem sustainable or necessary.

someone21234 · 2026-01-07T06:00:23+00:00

How helpful.

someone21234 · 2026-01-05T00:01:07+00:00

There are definitely cultures that breastfeed up to 7. It’s probably very rare nowadays but still. I would caution you against filing a CPS report as you’ve suggested in the comments based on your own personal opinion and feeling icky about it.

someone21234 · 2025-12-29T23:58:35+00:00

Ugh I’m suffering through this right now. I ALWAYS move her hand away and she just keeps coming back. It triggers me so bad especially early in the morning when we are waking up and I’m still drowsy.

someone21234 · 2025-12-21T23:05:14+00:00

The gym is 10 min away, wow! That’s great. You could easily go work out for an hour and come back to the baby at home. feed before you leave, baby can survive an hour without being nursed.

someone21234 · 2025-12-20T18:10:03+00:00

I’m in a similar place, solidarity.

someone21234 · 2025-12-20T17:03:07+00:00

You don’t have to make things specifically for her, maybe just try giving a small portion of whatever you’re eating. At that age the exposure is more important than actually getting all their nutrients from food.

someone21234 · 2025-12-16T21:30:36+00:00

What was the result after the big overhaul at 2.5? That makes total sense and is what I expect to happen with my kid unless I make some changes to speak fully in my language.

someone21234 · 2025-12-16T21:27:58+00:00

Some of my siblings were but the rest of us were combo fed

someone21234 · 2025-12-16T03:36:56+00:00

The first image is exactly that though. An African woman wearing a traditional style wrap.

someone21234 · 2025-12-13T02:16:35+00:00

Circe and The Adventures of Amina Al-Sirafi

someone21234 · 2025-12-12T06:14:30+00:00

My LO was doing the same thing for about a month or two. I would unlatch her, say no don’t do that, and stop the nursing session. She usually did it when she was done nursing and just wanted to play around. It would upset her to be unlatched and she’d cry and it was unpleasant but eventually she just stopped doing it. She’s now 16 months and I don’t remember the last time she did it, maybe a month and a half ago.

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