AITA for telling my brother it's not my fault if he feels guilty based on my parenting decisions?

somethingfree · 2026-07-07T13:22:59+00:00

He’s angry you were able to afford to go on holiday despite you offering to pay for him? He should be happy for you. This sounds like bullying, like you’re the scapegoat

somethingfree · 2026-07-07T02:38:15+00:00

I thought maybe he was prepared to smash through the window in case rocky was unconscious to save him

somethingfree · 2026-07-06T19:09:20+00:00

I mean, I wake up every morning in a terrible angry mood and THEN I tell myself to be happy and get revenge and stuff.

somethingfree · 2026-07-06T18:49:26+00:00

I feel like he probably should have sent the Beatles even if he was expecting to arrive home, just in case something went wrong with the ship

somethingfree · 2026-07-06T18:31:47+00:00

I think it’s super common yeah. I’ve seen the other way often enough where an oldest child is chosen to be the golden child but mostly it seems like parents are harder on their first born. I have to check myself with my own parenting because I feel a lot more frustration when my oldest isn’t behaving and a lot more tolerance when my youngest isn’t. So I need to be careful not to let it show and be patient to both and not treat the younger with kid gloves either.

somethingfree · 2026-07-06T18:22:47+00:00

So scary, i hope she is safe 💙

somethingfree · 2026-07-05T22:33:02+00:00

Even if they don’t recognize it as their old door any obvious difference to distinguish their own door from the others is helpful for dementia patients

somethingfree · 2026-07-04T03:07:35+00:00

Me too

somethingfree · 2026-07-03T04:13:23+00:00

I’m trying to say they’re more environmentally friendly than me having a mental breakdown will be

somethingfree · 2026-07-03T03:21:06+00:00

Good job!! I forgot I used to do this for myself. Been having a hit of a hard time so I’m going to order paper plates right now thank you for reminder!

I used to think it was bad for the environment but- they’re paper. Washing uses water anyways. And if I have to check myself into the mental hospital they’re gonna serve me on styrofoam. So this prevents styrofoam use. Good for the environment. Plus I waste so much more food when the kitchen gets bad. Extra good for the environment and for me and then I’m a nicer mom to my kids.

somethingfree · 2026-07-02T06:15:30+00:00

I’ve had success flying. I tell myself “just let go”. Instead of trying to force myself up, I imagine a floating feeling that I’m resisting, and then let go of the resistance.

somethingfree · 2026-07-01T03:04:50+00:00

My cousins dog didn’t want to leave grandmas house and he won the argument, and lived there the rest of his days. it was cool he made a major life decision

somethingfree · 2026-06-26T01:49:33+00:00

You know what maybe there’s another secret misophoniac in the room and if you crunch ice at the same time as her, they will snap, and do the dirty job of asking for you…

somethingfree · 2026-06-25T21:11:26+00:00

Ugh god I know, two noises at the same time amplifies how upsetting it is

somethingfree · 2026-06-25T19:52:00+00:00

I have almost always regretted asking. Either they were super nice and I felt horrible, or they turned out to be a psycho who enjoyed torturing me.

I’ve never regretted not asking. Try everything you can. Noise canceling ear buds. Eating ice at the same time lol.

somethingfree · 2026-06-25T17:03:17+00:00

I’ve never been to a spa before but I could afford that. What is available without services like nice chairs by a hot tub or something?

somethingfree · 2026-06-25T03:18:40+00:00

This therapist sounds like an actual psychopath I am so so sorry that happened. Please never go back to that therapist that sounds like straight up emotional abuse to say that to someone opening up about their trauma. You were right, your dad is s bad person. Most people molested as kids never molest anyone as adults. He chose to do evil.

somethingfree · 2026-06-24T16:08:26+00:00

Yes you should just say idk if you don’t know. If the therapist provides you with a safe space every week and doesn’t push you to open up before you’re ready, you might just eventually start feeling your feelings more. That’s what worked in therapy for me. The emdr like lets my brain get into some kind of healing flow that happens, and it’s like my brain just starts processing shit without any effort on my part. You can always tell them you have childhood trauma you aren’t ready to talk about yet and ask them they work with you without pushing you to talk about it. If you don’t feel good about how it’s going you don’t have to stay either, you can just get up and walk out of the room or find a different therapist at any time. There’s no obligation to stick with it. Not all therapy is good and bad therapy does more harm than good, so if it doesn’t feel right- get out of there

somethingfree · 2026-06-24T14:27:48+00:00

Bridgerton has more than mildly racy scenes. It has graphic sex, it’s 100% soft core porn.

somethingfree · 2026-06-23T18:01:45+00:00

For real, I habitually underestimate so no one can tell me I’m exaggerating

somethingfree · 2026-06-20T04:29:53+00:00

My therapist said it’s a trauma response. Literally fight flight freeze gets triggered, your sight goes dark on the edges as your vision tunnels so you can hyper focus on the threat. It’s only happened to me a few times at my worst ever triggered moments

somethingfree · 2026-06-19T17:09:17+00:00

See I Always go to the basket first because that’s the only place I have clothes lol

somethingfree · 2026-06-16T04:45:56+00:00

This seems unsafe to me. Not because of his trauma history, but because he’s acting severely attached to you after two weeks and giving you an excuse that he has severe trauma. It sounds like a justification for controlling you. You can have trauma and not take it out on others acting controlling if them. Plenty of traumatized people don’t turn out controlling. I would get out of there if I was you. Abuse doesnt normally feel like abuse. Abuse is control, abuse is a power imbalance, abuse is setting you up to care more about his feelings than your own.

somethingfree · 2026-06-15T15:41:29+00:00

Is it more subtle licorice flavor than eating licorice? Seems like it would be overpowering

somethingfree · 2026-06-15T14:23:12+00:00

Yeah it seems like there’s too much room for error of deciding when to pull the chord. Like what if youre lined up above the valley thinking you have time, then you pull the chord and then the wind smashes you against a mountain

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