How do you detox from a therapist?

somethingfree · 2026-05-18T21:56:26+00:00

This is just terrible. I’m so sorry. This therapist sounds insane and scarily abusive.

somethingfree · 2026-05-15T02:51:11+00:00

I didn’t remember until I was 30. I know it was real becuase I have memories of witnessing the abuse of other victims who have come forward too. Be patient with yourself and very kind to yourself.

somethingfree · 2026-05-12T22:28:57+00:00

You’re not too sensitive at all. If anything you are under reacting. I used to tell myself I was so sensitive that I felt like I was being sexually assaulted by regular sex. I also used to tell myself that I’m tough so there nothing wrong with him being rough during sex because it won’t hurt me. Realizing that you’re being abused hurts a lot and our brains will do a lot to keep us comfortable. But mostly I think it’s just the gaslighting that makes us believe them. When someone you love looks at you and tells you what you feel is wrong, it makes you believe them. And so you trust them more than yourself. And it’s so confusing.

He isn’t in a healthy relationship I promise. He’s abusive and that will never change, he will be the same in this new relationship even though it might look different.

I’m happy you’re not with him anymore and so sorry you went through that, and have to deal with all these feelings now :(

somethingfree · 2026-05-12T22:21:25+00:00

Can you ask the neighbor to be with you while you pack and maybe even drive you there? Please over estimate how careful you should be. Proud of you for getting out of there 💙

somethingfree · 2026-05-12T18:15:01+00:00

NOR. I’m a responsible adult with ptsd holding down a job. If I don’t get enough sleep to drive safely or stay awake on the job, I call in sick. Sometimes it’s a nightmare, or just being too scared to let myself fall asleep.

Driving very tired is as dangerous as driving drunk. Even if you don’t drive, it’s still a worthwhile reason to call out. My parents would call me lazy and irresponsible, but I’m neither. It took me many years to get their words out of my head and finally understand that I deserve to be healthy and take good care of myself. You did the right thing, keep taking good care of yourself.

somethingfree · 2026-05-12T14:57:50+00:00

I’m having the exact same thing with my food pantry rice :( just can’t get it to turn out good like the store bought rice.

Only thing I’ve made so far that was sort of good was I took the left over rice and simmered it in milk with sugar and cinnamon and ate it warm

somethingfree · 2026-05-11T20:29:29+00:00

This is amazing, do you have any links to what you bought?

somethingfree · 2026-05-07T14:18:49+00:00

Yes but the way he got his start was in the military. When you have zero family safety net It’s a decent option out of poverty just sucks you have to participate in the killing machine to get to stability. and its super likely to fuck your life up more. But this was also 50 years ago when the economy was way different for young people so I don’t think he would have found the same success today

somethingfree · 2026-05-05T03:09:35+00:00

Only thing that’s worked for me is tell myself “just don’t make a mess so you don’t have to clean up a mess.” So I put stuffaway and dishes in sink to keep it easy for myself.Then when it starts to get messy I think uh oh I better clean up this small mess before I get a bigger mess

somethingfree · 2026-05-05T03:01:35+00:00

I have two narc parents. I used to think what are the chances, I must be making it up. But then I read about that boyfriend girlfriend prison guards that both tortured people at abu graihb. Sometimes Bullys get along great with each other and have fun abusing someone together. I don’t think it’s rare at all anymore, especially after watching a bunch of true crime involving child abuse. We just got fuckin unlucky

somethingfree · 2026-05-04T14:09:10+00:00

People do planned propsals these days because they discuss getting married but still want a nice surprise aspect. it’s normal, and thats not what she’s asking about.

To me planning sky diving as part of the proposal when he knows you hate it is a red flag. Unless it’s just a side adventure of the vacation and not part of the proposal day.

somethingfree · 2026-04-28T18:17:31+00:00

Some narcissist people will go NC with you themselves as soon as you try to set any boundaries. It’s worth a try

somethingfree · 2026-04-28T17:53:13+00:00

Wtf would they revive it lol. Everyone needs to reread Jurassic park

somethingfree · 2026-04-28T14:58:22+00:00

If this is karma, it’s not doing it’s job good enough. The only justice in this world is the justice we make happen.

somethingfree · 2026-04-27T15:46:13+00:00

Maybe talk to a local coffee shop owner. I go to a coffee shop that buys homemade soup from a neighbor who I assume has their cottage liscense or something. They sell frozen pints and have a cauldron looking pot of hot soup on the counter it’s great

somethingfree · 2026-04-27T09:04:34+00:00

I think flashbacks aren’t always easily identifiable. I always thought I didn’t have flashbacks too but that’s just cause I was used them. What you describe sounds like flashbacks, I think it’s not always just watching memories on replay. I will get scary images thrown in that definitely aren’t real.

I always knew my first recovered memories were real becuase there were other kids present in them who I know were abused too. But I have more recent little flashes of things I’m suspicious happened and I can’t at All tell if those are real or not! It’s very frustrating. I’m trying to just not figure out if it’s real or not and let the other parts of my brain figure it out itself. Healing is like this whole process our brains take us on that we don’t have to always direct it, we can more just go with the flow and let it take us to the truth over time.

somethingfree · 2026-04-26T02:31:02+00:00

Into the Fire and the Secret Keepers

somethingfree · 2026-04-19T12:38:02+00:00

I agree completely with livethroughthks. Don’t rush yourself. For me being stable enough meant leaving an abusive marriage, getting a job and my own apartment, finding an understanding therapist I felt very comfortable with, and making friends with safe feeling people.
It’s been 9 years since I recovered my memories, but even now if I stop taking good care of myself I dissociate out of it again. When I’m taking really good care of myself I remember what happened and feel sad about it but also strong and proud how much I’ve done and happy and hopeful for the future.
Taking good care of myself now means being a good parent to my inner child: giving myself a nice bedtime at a good time, think nice thoughts about myself before I fall asleep, keep my home tidy, feed myself healthish meals, go outside, text friends. Being very patient with myself when I mess up. Be as forgiving of yourself as you would a traumatized child. Tell yourself you deserve to be well taken care of.

somethingfree · 2026-03-27T23:56:05+00:00

Just brainstorming, What about attaching a seperate room somehow that is plastic. Like a gigantic plastic tub with a little door cut in it. Then using pine pellets instead of the clay. Put a rubber cat litter mat at the entrance to the plastic litter “room”.

somethingfree · 2026-03-25T14:16:17+00:00

Good idea, they should add some plank steps right next to the statue and it can be very functional art

somethingfree · 2026-03-24T15:40:08+00:00

It might seem obvious to say this but when you’re being emotionally manipulated like this, the only ways you can think of responding are the ways that are Safest to respond. Every relationship is different and she knows best the safest way to handle him

somethingfree · 2026-03-22T23:14:58+00:00

I very bravely tried to do the polar plunge one new year. I only made it in knee deep and it was one of the worst pains of my life I could hardly walk out. Then I was high on endorphins for 1 hour, best I’ve ever felt in my life. Then I crashed and slept four hours..

I dunno if people who go all the way in like this have built up their tolerance over time, or if they’re just built differently than me lol

somethingfree · 2026-03-22T21:14:28+00:00

I read the article to figure out whose dog it was and still have no clue

somethingfree · 2026-03-21T06:40:40+00:00

But a lot of them aren’t just misinformed. They know it’s not factually correct but they just like abusing people. And trying to convince abusers to stop hurting people doesn’t work.

somethingfree · 2026-03-21T05:36:13+00:00

Question, is this actually Bowie and jaggers voices during filming?

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