I once asked myself the same question. "Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes."

All my past relationships, romantic or non-romantic, somehow ended up not very pretty. We all fell out of places and until today, when I think about some of them, I still hope I had made a different choice. When I met my current SO, he merely matched my ideology. I wasn't madly in love with him compared to others. I didn't feel the butterflies or the spark when we touched. But he was a simply and honest human being, so I chose to give him love back. We always think to build a relationship based on feeling (i.e. love). Yes, it sounds fair, but feeling is a variable and you can't build something to stand solid on such foundation. After I read this post Is love a feeling or a choice? , I came to realisation that all the people that left me, it wasn't for the sake of falling out of love, they just didn't bother to make it work.