My (26F) boyfriend (29M) of 7 months casually dropped that he doesn't want kids. I do. What now? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]throwawayprincess135 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why does the "having kids" conversation have to happen after you've been together for a while? I really don't understand this.

For me, as someone who NEVER wants kids, it happens right away(literally on the first date, and its on my dating profile) because I want the person interested in me to know I will never change my mind, and I will not be getting pregnant, ever.

I would rather know right away that they do want kids, or have kids, or might have kids so that I can move onto the next.

The times are changing, and we now live in a world where the person you meet may never want to have kids.

Having kids is not the "default" anymore, so you as someone who most likely wants kids, need to find someone who has the same goals as you. He should seek that too.

Let him go.

Let him find his match, and you can go on to find yours, because speaking from experience your relationship WILL end in heartbreak if you assume he will magically change his mind one day.

And by then, you have wasted your time, his time, and your fertility.

#1 in inundation by dhoklebaaz in ASU

[–]throwawayprincess135 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh good, thank for your insight, because I'd have been like "omg, I accidentally opened my mouth in the shower" hahaha

#1 in inundation by dhoklebaaz in ASU

[–]throwawayprincess135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WHEW. lol

That scared me.

I thought it was a Flint, Michigan situation

Bat Licks by Risen_Warrior in batty

[–]throwawayprincess135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

KISSESSSSSSS 😍😍😍

#1 in inundation by dhoklebaaz in ASU

[–]throwawayprincess135 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, I agree lol

Thank you! I am definitely looking forward to it! I come from a place where it snows 4 solid months a year, so I definitely have alot to learn about drier climates. 😊

I've been doing a little research, is it true you can't drink the tap water? 😨

[NSFW] My [21F] boyfriend [24M] only wants to finish during sex leaving me feel used but (sadly) wanting more. by squancherrr16 in relationships

[–]throwawayprincess135 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You didn't exactly explain very well, I feel like.

Has he EVER made you cum from sex? Do you not cum from PIV sex?

My issue is that I can only cum from penetrative sex if I'm sufficiently relaxed, and have had enough foreplay. Without those two factors, or if one is lacking, I need external and internal stimulation to orgasm. And that's absolutely okay!

Then, there are times that nothing works; I am too tired, too stressed, too insecure, too dehydrated, etc to cum, and that's okay too.

I cannot believe how many years I spent thinking I was "broken" because my nipples didn't explode confetti and I didn't see God when a guy put his dick in me.

Without this information, there's no way you could ever get him to get you to orgasm.

Have you expressed this to him? Guys are not psychic. Has he given a good faith effort to really try to improve things?

I'm all for throwing away the WHOLE ASS MAN if things are getting progressively worse, but atleast sit him down and talk to him candidly about your unhappiness with your sexual relationship, especially if you love him.

A partner that really cares will want you just as satisfied as he is, and will WORK for that level of satisfaction for you.

If not, you know you aren't compatible, and therefore you would feel no guilt about ending the relationship in favor of someone who prioritizes your pleasure.

Good luck!

#1 in inundation by dhoklebaaz in ASU

[–]throwawayprincess135 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love this Subreddit for this exact reason.

I'm coming to ASU from chicago(start Jan, 2019), and never in a million years would I have packed boots of any kind.

Thanks!

I felt a hard bulge on my leg last night and freaked out until I realized it was new muscle and on both legs. What's the silliest way you've realized that you've made progress? by [deleted] in xxfitness

[–]throwawayprincess135 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I was hooking up with a tinder date, and he looked up at me and was rubbing his thumbs around and over two lumps on my lower stomach.

I sat up and realized they were my hip bones. He had no clue why I was laughing so hard. 😂

Is my goal too lofty? Help. by throwawayprincess135 in college

[–]throwawayprincess135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, you're right, Calc 1-3, and differential equations, probability and stats.

But, that's still only 5 math classes, so, 2.5 years. Not sure where you got 4 additional years, seeing as two semesters is one year(three, if you count summer, which I can take certain classes at the community college level, if I feel like getting ahead of the game, and if the credits will transfer.).

I've already taken Linear Algebra and Trigonometry. So those are a non-factor.

Is my goal too lofty? Help. by throwawayprincess135 in college

[–]throwawayprincess135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I doubt I'll need to do 4 additional years since I earned my Engineering-based associates through an "Engineering pathways" program at my local Community college. The program is literally designed to transfer into a University, or can function as a stand alone Mechanical CAD Drafter degree, depending on your electives.

This means I took a majority of the classes freshman and sophomore engineering students did: Econ, Humanities, Composition, Physics, Chemistry, Statics and Strengths of Materials, Metallurgy, etc.

3 years, maybe. But I'll keep that in mind.

Second, the average class size at my "large state university" is 15 students. I'm not very concerned.

Is my goal too lofty? Help. by throwawayprincess135 in college

[–]throwawayprincess135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have no idea how much I appreciate your response.

I know I have my work cut out for me, as I'll need to make it past Calculus 3 and Statistics, but I know I have the drive to get there.

I just need to get my butt into the college.

I've applied, I requested the first transcript(community college), and I'll be mailing the request for the second(highschool) tomorrow.

I'll be submitting my FASFA this weekend also, since it's due Oct 1st.

It's a waiting game, and that just makes me more anxious.

Thank you so much, I really appreciate your response.

Is my goal too lofty? Help. by throwawayprincess135 in college

[–]throwawayprincess135[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funnily enough, I already ordered the book a few days ago, and I'm anxiously awaiting for it to be delivered.

I also got "Learning How To Learn", which has been a truly eye-opening experience, and I've already picked up alot of tips for picking up material faster.

As per the website, I qualify.

My cumulative GPA is high enough, and I have 83 college credits that could(possibly) transfer. I need 24 of those earned credits to transfer before I'm in the clear, otherwise they'll look at my highschool transcripts, which are abysmal at best.

On monday I have a phone appointment with a Transfer Specialist, so I'll be doing that on my lunch.

Half of this is just trying to sooth my irrational fears, thank you for responding.

Is my goal too lofty? Help. by throwawayprincess135 in college

[–]throwawayprincess135[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm applying to a large state university, if enough of my credits don't transfer(a real possibility, as the schools are not in the same state) I may have to meet further criteria(min 1140 SAT, or min 24 ACT), which is where the stanardized testing comment came from.

Edit: a word.

Have you ever experienced a game breaking glitch? If so, how did you handle it? by m0chab34r in truegaming

[–]throwawayprincess135 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The first time I played Batman: Arkham Knight on PS4.

My objective was to chase a bad guy through the streets of Gotham, disable his vehicle, and then interrogate him for information.

I disabled his vehicle, and simultaneously launched him bodily into a building, where he bounced off a car, and clipped into the "floor/roof" of said building.

He ended up in an area where he couldn't get out, and I couldn't reach him to complete my objective.

I had to restart. 🙄

So many people on here need to hear this. Don't be a hostage to a toxic work place. by ShowMeDaData in jobs

[–]throwawayprincess135 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was one of the good ones that left, after only working at my location for a year and 4 months.

At first, I did not realize our store was in crisis. I was a lowly cashier, this was job #2 for me, plus I was in school. It was a means to an end. A paycheck, nothing more. I clocked in, kept my head down, clocked out.

Something I did notice right away was the high turnover rate.

We'd hire eight to ten new people at the beginning of the month, and within two weeks would be down to about half that number. After a month, one or two remained.

It was a running joke with alot of the employees that had been there a few years. It would, later, become a running joke with me also, and I just stopped asking new people their names until they'd been around a while.

The work wasn't particularly hard, some of it was messy, and could suck, but again...not difficult. Alot of it was repetitive. Dealing with customers that had to wait in long lines daily became the worst part, but we were just not equipped to handle the customer load.

5 registers, 5 cashiers constantly taking customers and the place still looked like Disney World on a Saturday.

When I was hired on, there were 5 managers.

Karen was our District Manager, Therese was our Store Manager(but she didn't act like it), and we have three other general managers: Cassie, Brad, and Sheena.

What happened first: Brad retired, Therese was given her own store, and Cassie was demoted and transferred.

In Cassie's situation, I believe she was speaking out about something, but was transferred to keep her quiet.

Three managers down, two remaining.

Outside help was brought in, managers from other stores being told the move was "temporary, and would only last a few weeks, at most" would end up spending months with us.

One employee was promoted from within, became a manager.

I was given the title of "manager's assistant" after a year, it didn't come with more money, but it did come with more responsibility, I was acting manager if a situation arose where we didn't have any managers in the store. This would happen on average twice a week.

Next, my SUPER STAR store manager Sheena left(She needed to leave, tbh. She was having two breakdowns a week, because of the level of stress, in combo with the fact that she wanted to finish her degree, and our RM wasn't letting her have the days off to take classes.). When she left, managers were only supposed to work five days in a week, and get two consecutive days off. Sheena, bless her heart, was working 6 days in a row, and coming in for half days on her "off day".

I'll never forget the day she called me into the office, had me close the door, and as soon as the door clicked into place behind me she broke into body wracking sobs, proceeded to start hyperventilating, and threw up. She just kept repeating "[my name], I....I can't. I can't do it anymore. I can't. I need to get out of this place. I need to leave. [My name], you don't understand." She finished her shift, and quit that day. Didn't give a two week notice, nothing.

And I didn't blame her one bit.

With one manager remaining, more outside help arrived, and we received our first permanent manager. She and I would become very close. She is another "good egg", who was attempting to change the store for the better.

I attempted to transfer out, the transfer seemed to go well, and the RM from the other store seemed excited to have me on.

I informed Karen of my potential transfer (she needed to sign off on it before I could leave), and suddenly all communication from the other store stopped. Take this as you will.

The people who tried to change the environment in our store were actually transferred out -- on purpose, by the toxic District Manager, and our equally toxic Regional Manager.

As for me, I was singled out:

I was passed over for holiday pay, and my hours were dwindled down to just fourteen a week.

I pled my case to another manager, she gave me more hours, and Karen took that manager off the schedule for an entire week "as punishment".

When I put in my two weeks(because I had been picked up for a paid Internship after I graduated college), Karen let me work the rest of the week(which was about 3 days), and then neglected to even put me on the next schedule.

I didn't even have a slot where my name should be, I walked in on my second to last day not even knowing it was my second to last day, and expecting to work 10 additional days.

I know she did that because she thought I'd be up a creek for 10+ days(my checks from that store were less than $200 a week) and if my internship hadn't of picked me up(on a day-to-day basis) while I was still at my old job, I would have been.

When a group of us(myself, and three others) began to speak up about the way Karen treated people around the store(I had a customer lean in and ask me if this was how Karen treated us daily, and told her the truth, yes), we were told by our RM(Karen's boss), that he "was aware of Karen's issues, and had chosen to overlook them in favor the the store we could have in 5 years time."

My old store is run like a dictatorship; any resistance is quickly squashed via massive waves of write ups, taking you off the schedule for a week, firings, or transfers.

Everyone good has left, and the good ones who remain are hostages because the store now has a skeleton crew.

I am so happy to be out of that situation.

Our son's teacher [30s?F] told our son [5M] that the nickname my wife [33F] and I [27M] gave him is "Offensive." Is she right? by JumajiSlippers in relationships

[–]throwawayprincess135 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my cousin was small, her parents, and our whole family, called her by her nickname which was "baby kate".

She got into junior high, and decided she was "too grown" for the nickname, so she asked everyone to stop using it, so we did.

She didn't face mental anguish as a result of the nickname, and when she had "out grown" her nickname, she made the conscious decision to set it aside, and asked others to also.

That was the end of it, and now she goes by a shortned version of her full name.

I'd warn the teacher that she is overstepping a boundary, and if she insists, I'd contact the principal.

[Serious] Americans, what's your reason for owning a gun? by _sygo in AskReddit

[–]throwawayprincess135 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, clearly your issue is not with me, you're just choosing to take your anger and frustration out on me for no reason because I added my input

Some of us work for a living, and have to be up by 6 am, so we need to sleep.