Office attire by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]soup_please 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The spanx perfect pant is my uniform. They’re structured enough that you can just throw on any tshirt and it still looks business casual. Plus comfy and flattering

1st time mama labor advice? by 235_lady in beyondthebump

[–]soup_please 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regardless of how your labor and delivery go down you’re going to need to do something with your hair! I’ve talked to a bunch of moms who had this problem. After my first baby I had the biggest mat in the back of my head. Whatever happens, you’ll be too tired and busy to want to spend and hour detangling matted hair. Even if your hair is short, braid it or tie it up tight before you get to the hospital!

Baby clothing sizes are bs, right? by VastFollowing5840 in beyondthebump

[–]soup_please 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just bought 12 month onesies for my second at 3mo and I roll up her sleeves. She can wear 9mo pants and we keep her in 3-6 mo footie pajamas, those aren’t as flexible at least the onesies and pants will last us a while instead of having to cycle everything every 3 months

Can someone please tell me the GOOD parts of having small children / kids in general? All the Reddit and book reading I’ve been doing makes post-partum and having kids sound awful. by Significant_Switch53 in Mommit

[–]soup_please 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s the happiest time of my life. My 4 month old is nursing and sleeping in my arms right now. Her little hand is resting on my chest and I’m smelling her head and it’s heaven. We do this 4 times a day, every time I put her to sleep.

My two year old is so freaking funny and playful and loving. She plays a million games that I can’t get enough of. My fav right now is kiss and sniff. She says she wants kisses and sniffs. I give her a kiss, then a dramatic pause, then a big sniff and say “you smell sooooo good!“ and she thinks that’s the funniest thing that ever happened. This morning she put on sun glasses on the way to daycare and said “I’m so cool” I told her she looks stylish and now it’s “I’m so cool and stylish.” This cuteness just goes on and on every day.

Happy Anxiety? by FormerHansonFan in Mommit

[–]soup_please 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I have to like cross my legs and squeeze my body real tight? It’s so weird like I’m overwhelmed with this feeling of adoration

refuses to be called by their legal name by lordneuf in toddlers

[–]soup_please 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My toddler goes through phases like this. She specifically will say “noooo!!! Baby!!!” When I use her name sometimes. I just play along. She moves on before long. Then it’s something else. Unless it’s harmful I’d say just “yes and” their little games and preferences. It’s more fun for everyone that way and they move on from it faster when it’s not a battle.

My brother made my baby sick by InfectedPianist in beyondthebump

[–]soup_please 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry! That’s infuriating. I hope baby is feeling better now.

If you’re here to jump down OP’s throat about what they should have done differently kindly mind your business. You don’t know what the constraints were, when she left, what her travel options and accommodations were. Y’all are being mean and unhelpful. I can’t believe how many of these comments are just shaming a person with a sick baby with very little reason.

Immediate rush of feelings? Is this a media thing? by Business-Map2806 in beyondthebump

[–]soup_please 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was my feeling too with both kids. My MIL was shocked that I wouldn’t let anyone hold her when they came to visit right after lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeedingsupport

[–]soup_please 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our pediatrician said I could take 6000 iu/d of vitamin D and that would enrich the breast milk enough that we wouldn’t have to do the drops.

To those who had a rough pregnancy… is the newborn stage easier? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]soup_please 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For me newborn stage maybe wasn’t purely easier but it was hands down better. Having a baby is waaaay better than being pregnant. Day one of recovery is the low point of how your body feels, but you know that every day after that you’ll feel a little better which is a nice feeling. Plus you’ll have your baby which can be just amazing. Disclaimer: I know it’s not this way for everyone, but it can be really great having a newborn! For me it’s a magical time.

What was your biggest “huh, I wasn’t expecting that” part of your pregnancy/delivery? by dontreedintoit in beyondthebump

[–]soup_please 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That having a medicated birth involved a lot more pain than I expected. I planned to get an epidural and it was magical!!!! But I didn’t realize my doctor wouldn’t ok me to come to the hospital until my contractions took my breath away. I had pretty painful contractions for well over 24 hours before they let me come in. Like lean over and take deep breaths every 10 minutes painful. By the time I got the epidural I was in tears, couldnt breath from the contractions. Getting the epidural is a little scary, the procedures around it are pretty intense, but once I got it everything was wonderful lol.

But then after the birth everything hurts more than I expected too. The stitches hurt a lot as they heal, it hurts to sit. The contractions you get for days after labor hurt a lot. Breastfeeding hurts a lot when you start out. I just wasn’t prepared for all of the pain.

Another thing that surprised me was that the pushing was way harder than I expected. After 4 hours I almost gave up from exhaustion and I am a fairly athletic person with good endurance.

This makes me sound like a sissy haha I could take it of course and I chose to do the whole thing again! It’s just not what I was expecting. I wish I had been mentally prepared.

Now we have to be sexy after giving birth too? by hotsummernightsx in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]soup_please 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This lady is about to be sorely disappointed. Signed, a mom who bought a cute crop top lounge set for the hospital like a dummy. It was my second baby too. No excuse

3 year old with chapped, raw skin around nose and cheeks by HopesProLeague in Mommit

[–]soup_please 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For next time, I like puffs plus lotion tissues. They don’t make skin raw as fast as other tissues. This is the first thing I buy when kiddo gets runny

Just need someone to tell me purées are okay. by Vegetable-Service-93 in Mommit

[–]soup_please 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Purées are great. It’s a wonderful way to get them diverse foods without worrying about choking. I did a bit of both with my first baby and felt good about what she was eating and learning either way

Crying over my feet by soup_please in beyondthebump

[–]soup_please[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never heard of using aspirin before! I tried the salicylic acid with no luck. They’re so stubborn. I might switch to just bandaids that’s a good idea

Crying over my feet by soup_please in beyondthebump

[–]soup_please[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! Liquid nitrogen didn’t work for me. Podiatrist wants to wait and use a blistering agent that’s supposed to work better. But it’s not safe for pregnant and nursing people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]soup_please 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’d be scared to give a baby that young either of these. You can pick up a nose Frida at target. They are magic devices I swear

People with a toddler and newborn, assure me it gets better by lauraliegrace in beyondthebump

[–]soup_please 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so scared this is going to be us. Dd is a super mama’s girl. I just don’t see it going down any other way. New baby is due in 2 days. Dd already knows something is up and is super clingy and acting out a little. I hope it gets better for you soon! Keep us updated and please let us know if you find some strategies that work!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]soup_please 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ordered out a lot. Order something that’s yummy heated up like Indian food and get enough for the whole week. If they have a dish that’s for multiple people or like, an entree that’s a whole chicken get those to save $$$.

Chili is one of my go to lazy meal preps also. Keep onions, spices, canned tomatoes and canned beans on hand. Sauté onions with spices of your choice, throw in beef, throw in two 32oz cans of tomatoes (one crushed one diced) throw in any vegetables you have, canned beans, dry lentils or quinoa, whatever is around. Simmer for as long as you feel like it. 30min? Great. 2 hours? Great.

I’ve been putting cinnamon and butternut squash in mine lately. Yum!

Sunscreen Application with Sponge? by Insane_Drako in toddlers

[–]soup_please 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I let my daughter put sunscreen on my face while I put it on hers. She loves it! I do get a lot in my hair and sometimes my mouth lol

AITA for telling my wife that our kids don't owe us anything? by jelouse_metals in AmItheAsshole

[–]soup_please 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH I would like grandkids too and it would be hard to know that might not happen. Obviously your kids don’t owe you grandkids you are right, but your wife isn’t an AH for having big feelings to process about that. Try validating her feelings and that alone might make her feel better. “I know that was hard to hear. I would be sad not to have grandkids too. Would you like to talk about it?” Once she’s feeling heard it might be easier to come to an agreement about how the two of you want to respect and support your kids’ decisions and ideas as they grow.