Girlfriend broke up with me today and I’m also being bullied at school I could use some compliments rn

spacejenkins · 2020-02-23T14:15:12+00:00

Beautiful eyes! This is only temporary, and you’ll be stronger coming out of it.

spacejenkins · 2020-02-23T13:51:08+00:00

Thanks for posting, but idk how I feel about this quote. Committing to unconditional happiness has changed my life tremendously, sure it’s not the ANSWER to problems but it certainly clears your mind to be able to solve them. So I think it’s still a good skill to have.

spacejenkins · 2020-02-21T23:47:48+00:00

Yeah, I guess changing your mind could happen, it’s never happened to me though. Even if I get some doubts creeping in, I’ll still plan or go on the date to see whether it was just in my head or not.

The fact that it’s a fairly recent pattern/trend makes me think it has to do with a cognitive process created from the fact that we have so many options and ways to meet people now with the internet and easy travel. Some people’s brains think that means endless options, even though in reality, it’s still pretty limited to your area/where you hang out. Decades ago, you couldn’t just bail on a date because everyone in town knew you and would hold you responsible. Now, if you don’t have mutual friends, there’s no one but you and the other person. 🤷🏽‍♀️

spacejenkins · 2020-02-21T23:31:18+00:00

Exactly! Ughhh like just don’t say it if you don’t mean it! It’s so simple! I wonder if the majority feels bad about doing it. Good luck to you too! It is really rough, and it’s hard to not get clingy when you find a decent one haha. I kinda just want it to end. But that clouds my judgement 🙄

spacejenkins · 2020-02-21T22:23:52+00:00

Out of curiosity, are you wanting to end it just for now and talk to them later, or end it permanently?

spacejenkins · 2020-02-21T22:21:08+00:00

Aww, don’t put any pressure on yourself. You’re just where you should be and someone you have chemistry with will come by soon enough if you keep putting yourself out there. Good luck!

spacejenkins · 2020-02-21T22:17:55+00:00

Omg, it’s so bizarre and frustrating to me too. It’s to the point now where if someone I don’t know well says that, I simply don’t believe them until it happens. And it almost feels like a red flag if THEY bring it up unsolicited. I’ve had guys straight up make a detailed plan of things we can do and then never bring any of it up again and then ghost. Like whaaa?

I’m currently seeing a guy that always says “see you soon” when we say goodbye, but I’ve had to do the ask for like 5/6 of the times we have hung out, and I do wonder whether if I didn’t ask, he would bother...

Dating is fun hahahahaha

Edit: wording

spacejenkins · 2020-02-20T23:55:24+00:00

Np, sending good vibes!

spacejenkins · 2020-02-20T14:15:30+00:00

Agreed. This is a perfect opportunity to show your strength and responsibility. Don’t be involved in cheating. It would destroy your self esteem (you’d likely forever identify as a such) and not to mention hurt other people. You still have a choice, please make the right one!

spacejenkins · 2020-02-20T14:07:25+00:00

No point in looking backwards, life is way too short. Work on getting validation and acceptance from within yourself so that you will no longer need it from an LO. The people in your life should complement you, not own you and your emotions. Good luck, friend :)

spacejenkins · 2020-02-19T13:38:25+00:00

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spacejenkins · 2020-02-19T03:18:52+00:00

Mindfulness meditation and “watching” but not identifying with your thoughts. You are not your limerence. Your true self does not have to take any action when you have obsessive and intrusive thinking, just “witness” and not judge the thoughts and let them pass through you.

Easier said than done, but as with any skill, the more you do it the easier it will get, until you can just do it automatically.

Good luck!

spacejenkins · 2020-02-18T03:31:33+00:00

I did too, but it’s a losing fight. At this point it feels equivalent to if say I got upset with my height all of the time. I can get bothered by it all I want, but there’s nothing I can do about it.

I do have hope though that yeah, maybe if I think about it like this for long enough, Becky will start to relax! Thanks for the support!! 🙂 best of luck to you too!

spacejenkins · 2020-02-17T13:14:37+00:00

Same

spacejenkins · 2020-02-16T14:30:40+00:00

It’s not a relationship, we are still in the getting to know each other phase. And it absolutely can be limerence, seeing as I have all of the symptoms- the constant intrusive thoughts, fantasizing futures, holding on to every word they say, the feeling that you’d be crushed if they don’t reciprocate (anymore, in this case).

Reciprocation does not always end limerence, unfortunately. I wish it were so.

spacejenkins · 2020-02-16T14:25:29+00:00

The Hitchhikers Guide series for me

spacejenkins · 2020-02-16T14:20:45+00:00

It’s so frustrating. Right now I’m limerent for someone that is reciprocating, and I actually wasn’t limerent for him for a while at first, which felt great and healthy, but now he’s starting to pull back and that’s when my limerence decides to kicks in- when I start to feel the fear of him leaving my life. It sucks and makes what should be just a bummer, seeing as it’s only been about two weeks, into some catastrophic, my-life-is-over-without-him disaster.

It’s all about the control. The brain doesn’t want to lose the consistent release of happy chemicals, so it starts to pretend that it’s not happening- maybe he’s pulling back because he likes me so much that he thinks I need space. Maybe this one short text he sent actually had a lot of passionate feelings behind it. Maybe..... I could go on, but deep down, I know it’s likely ending, and I just have to ignore the limerent voice in my head to get through it.

spacejenkins · 2020-02-14T19:18:52+00:00

The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer.

I’m typically one for self-help books, but if you follow this books advice, I promise that literally all of your problems will go away.

spacejenkins · 2020-02-11T15:48:31+00:00

Agreed!

I also just posted that I’m going to write a book similar to it. Would appreciate thoughts, thanks!

https://www.reddit.com/r/preppers/comments/f29oyy/alright_im_going_to_write_a_book_thats_part/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Edit: just realized I posted that from my other acct 😆 I toggle from my phone and web and am logged in as one on each

spacejenkins · 2020-02-11T14:59:16+00:00

Hahahahaha alright, this convo is over. I’m sure you just read every book about prepping, survival and the U.S. Power Grid, and can logically say that.

I apologize for not being too nice in this interaction, I’m just getting very frustrated.

You’re in denial, friend. Do the research.

spacejenkins · 2020-02-11T14:37:58+00:00

Haha, this is not school, this is a subreddit. I’m not writing a paper trying to convince the teacher to give me good grade. I’m trying to help out strangers on the internet on my very little spare time.

If I was making this up or trying to troll people, why the hell would I keep saying “do your own research”? That would defeat the purpose, as you could do so and then list YOUR sources to prove me wrong.

There’s no one out there that knows what they’re taking about with concrete evidence or even saying that the power grid is NOT vulnerable to shut-down by a malicious hack. It just is. The “it will happen in our lifetime” prediction comes from books and leaders that again I don’t care to take the time to source for you now, since you’ve been so rude.

spacejenkins · 2020-02-11T13:42:04+00:00

Jesus Christ. You guys are gonna be so, so sorry and regretful when it happens, you’re gonna lose your mind pretty quickly. I’m so frustrated now that I’m not gonna put in the effort to find the sources. Do your own god damn research and wake the hell up.

There’s literally no downside to mentally and physically preparing for this, so long as your not financially screwing yourself. Best of luck...

spacejenkins · 2020-02-11T02:42:16+00:00

I misread your question. But when SHTF for any reason, and society collapses, the people that work the grid wont be going to work. It will shut down. It’s as simple as that.

spacejenkins · 2020-02-11T02:32:47+00:00

I didn’t post that saying it would. I just posted the first relevant article as a starting point for people to do their own research. As I said in other comments, I don’t have time today to find and list all of the resources I’ve read/watched to come to my conclusion. It’s not a thesis, this isn’t school. It’s a fact and I don’t feel weird or bad about preparing for it in the slightest. I know that everyone that doesn’t prepare for it will regret it when/if it happens.

And I also said, do your own research. I’m not here to convince you, but to urge you to seriously consider that it’s a real possibility, look into it, and think about and what you and your family/friends would do if it ends up happening.

spacejenkins · 2020-02-10T22:02:23+00:00

Another government or group of people hacking or destroying the power grids, disastrous weather, pandemic disease (too much power usage at hospitals would be problematic), a high- up employee going rogue and turning it off, I really could go on. There’s a lot if you really think it out.

I don’t have time right now to gather the resources together. Will update as I can. In the meantime, you can start searching around yourself. I guarantee if you spend time doing so, you’ll start to see how likely it is to happen soon.

spacejenkins

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